Opening Lemmy in the morning and seeing dozens of unread comments in your inbox makes you think: what the heck did I say yesterday?
Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
My only regrets are having to read stupid responses that completely missed the point of what I said because they want to argue with what they think I said.
Occasionally I learn something new from responses, which changes my perspective.
I agree - A lot of people seem so prepared for someone to disagree with them that they seem to misfire on people they agree with. I try to avoid this by starting my comments with "I agree" ๐ ... though even then some people still get confused ๐ซ
the best is when the response is about the first or last sentence of what I wrote and their response is addressed in the rest of it.
What a stupid comment, if you actually took the time to read and understood your replies then maybe you'd actually learn something from them, rather than just disregarding everyone who responds to you.
/s
My thought was more "which of the things I wrote triggered such a reaction?" I'm often surprised.
I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I'm depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I'm letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
I'm probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I'd like.
So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I'm too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
I donโt want to deal with arguing especially since half the responses clearly only read the first sentence of my comment. I donโt have the energy for it. So Iโm on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
If people like my contribution they can upvote, if they donโt like it they can downvote or argue back, but I donโt have the energy to give to that, so I probably wonโt see it.
My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I'd done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
I've admitted I was wrong a few times, but never from downvotes or dumb responses. You gotta cite good sources to get a reversal out of me.
Absolutely, it is only human to make mistakes. Of course there are time where someone gives a stupid reply but there are also times where that is not the case. If it were the assumption would be that I am right about everything, which is asinine
I I do actually second thought what I said. As I can be as wrong as any. And if I'm wrong I'm ought to change my mind.
My first thought is always "Must be Nicole the Fediverse chick again" ๐
Find hot Nicoles in your local Fediverse!
I just got her message this morning! ๐
She never talks to me anymore after that one night...
Man what am I doing wrong? Still nothing from her. Oh well. She's probably too good for me anyways :,(
you guys got those too?! ๐ฅฒ
"Capitalism is a good system"
Man, that's just playing Russian Roulette with a ban hammer.
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Now hold on, are you talking about Windows 7 and 10, or 11? These are very different things!
XP
Vista
Honestly, I've tried dual booting Linux lately. I'm on mint. Even after weeks of setting things up, I'm constantly running into issues. Particularly with drivers and such. Also, the gaming has come a long way, but the games I play don't run as well on my current linux setup.
I haven't given up on it yet. Even though all the bs I put up with in windows, it works better for me at the moment.
I just assume I said something factually wrong and now dozens of helpful people are lining up to correct me.
Ah, I see youโve developed a humiliation fetish as well
You forgot a comma.
I know what I said, y'all's angst feeds me.
This would all be easier if you all just agreed with me, the always correct person.
I might not always be right, but I'm never wrong
If I'm ever wrong. I delete that comment and pretend it didn't happen. Or if someone actually makes a good counter argument I just go "meh, don't feel like replying" and leave them unread. I do the worst crime. I'll be 10 replies in and I won't even downvote their last comment to let them know I read it. I'm sure it's infuriating.
I'd agree with you, but then we'd both be wrong.
Me is, how stoned was I.
A bunch are usually people disagreeing and making up situations to make themselves rightโฆ i.e., you posit that the sky appeared blue when you went outside today, the replies are: not if itโs night, not during cloudy days, etc. and at least one that sounds like they disagree but are reiterating what you just said.
I've made this observation before, but the funniest thing about Lemmy is that !ShowerThoughts posts elicit more controversy than !UnpopularOpinion. Like, someone posts "I love pineapple on pizza" in !ShowerThoughts, and it's downvoted to hell with people writing long essays about how pineapple on pizza is justification for bringing back shock treatment. The same thing posted to !UnpopularOpinion brings out a mob of people saying how not unpopular an opinion that is, quoting statistics about how Hawaiian Pizza is the most popular pizza in America. It's absolutely hilarious, and one of the few areas where the Lemmy community is truly contrarian just for contrarian's sake.
With the exception of populations of some instances which I won't hex by bearishly naming, and a few individually excessive dicks (or trolls, but I think most are really just assholes), the Lemmy community tends to argue in good faith, admit when they're wrong or have had their minds changed, and are generally polite netizens in most exchanges. But !ShowerThoughts and !UnpopularOpinion just being out the contrarian in people, for some reason.
people writing long essays about how pineapple on pizza is justification for bringing back shock treatment.
I'm here for the essays. To read them...and to write them.
Have to get it out of my brain.
Unpopular opinion is just posting things that plenty of people actually agree with. Like pineapple pizza. An actual unpopular opinion would be something like agreeing with restricting abortion or something difficult that elicits very strong feelings.
Usually means you got featured on hexbear
what's hexbear
When you had hex with a bear last night but can't remember.
Since there's no serious answer: hexbear is a highly toxic instance that has been defederated by most other instances. However, their users will keep tabs on what's said on other instances, and they'll occasionally show up en masse with alt accounts to attack something that particularly enraged them.
Many of them are...not quite mentally stable.
They're probably the single largest base of tankie support. For them, America = bad, and anyone opposed to America = good. They pretend to care about communism etc but they're really just anti-American. Saying anything negative about China gets you instantly banned.
If you don't know, count yourself hella lucky and move on with your day.
An instance for Marxists and Anarchists.
A fictional entity used by right wingers on Lemmy to victimize themselves.
How do I post a photo in comments? New here due to Reddit ban.
You're asking the wrong person. Due either to my client, or my instance, I get, like, a 20% success rate on attaching images. Most of the time I get an error.
On my client, there's a little picture icon. When I click that, it lets me select a picture and, if the wind is blowing in the right direction and the stars align, the picture is embedded. Otherwise, I upload to catbox.moe and manually embed the URL. The markdown syntax for an embedded image is:
On desktop, you can just paste it.
You can do markdown, so 
I use Jerboa client on Android. It feels very much like the Reddit is Fun app.
There are rich text buttons at the bottom of the new post field. One is a photo icon, click that and it takes you to your photo/file browser to select a pic.
Here's a pic I took of Earth's bff, la Luna.
i usually just have the picture in my clipboard and then ctrl+v. it should be uploaded and the markdown link added for you
I love your username, my WiFi name is prettyflyforawifi
Appreciate it. Iโm on mobile, but I think I figure it out.
If your in for a wild ride, you can post something like "Steam sucks", or ask anything about "Hexbear". If you just want positive attention, go with "What's the best distro for.....?"
If you just want positive attention, go with โWhatโs the best distro forโฆ?โ
Clearly the best distro is Windows 10!
[Insert angry rant about Windows]
Got me.
Steam does suck though? It's hard to use, and most things are better boiled/blanched or fried.
This is my primary use of reddit.
Late night shitposting, i instantly forget, and seeing lots of interesting comments in the morning.
Look at all these replies! I can't wait to tell all these internet randos how wrong they are!
Most of the time I know exactly what I'm getting if I see more than maybe 3+ comments. Usually it's me saying something anti-communist, something on brand enough for me.
Reminded me of this
should've went with the F250...
next time brah
True dat mate.
Immediately go to my comments to see whats getting downvoted to hell.
Lmao yeah sometimes. Since I mostly shitpost I just assume that the posts have had the intended effect of either making people laugh or working them up a little about something they care about. Just enough to make them share some stuff they're really passionate about. I like hearing people's unfiltered opinions.
O, i know the feeling
Half the time you just have to say "Fuck Tankies" or "Vote DNC" and you'll get 4, 10, or even 20 of the most cookie cutter responses you've ever seen in your life.
That's an awfully asymmetric expectation of effort!
Depends on how good the opponent's automation is.
I'm too scared to check tbh. Somebody tell me if I am getting downvoted because I see 150 unreads
you kicked the .ml hornet nest, didn't you?
here's some ointment, now take your medicine and join the rest of the lemmies
I'm pretty excited to see and check what gained traction
Also, what was happening in that other site many of us used to be in so interactions between the same people talking the same points were so rare?
Bots. You never knew if you were talking to a bot.
Plus, way more assholes. Like way more.
Usually its when I either offend the libs on world or the fake leftists on ml/hexbear. Sometimes if I'm particularly skilled I piss off both of them at the exact same time (usually by advocating for true liberation for the working class not under a so called "vanguard" but by and for the workers themselves)
Thing is, it's easy to offend people. It doesn't take skill, or effort. And it's not constructive; nobody in history has ever said, "you know, your comment about Communists all being retarded really changed my mind. I'm going to read Atlas Shrugged and become a capitalist!"
Usually when I say stuff that pisses people off, it's because (a) a joke fell flat, or was not obviously a joke; (b) I was reacting emotionally and said something I intended to be hurtful; (c) I express an unpopular opinion. As I get older, the reactions to (c) more often make me scrutinize my opinion, to make sure I'm not just stupidly parroting something my fascist dad taught me when I was a child.
I used to play devil's advocate, but it doesn't feel good. It's one thing if both parties go into it in good faith, and it's clear neither is just trying to be a troll, but now? I don't do it without establishing good faith first, and if I suspect someone's just trolling... I just block them. Straight up. It's easy, and I have one fewer irritants in my life.
So, that's me. Why do _you_do it? Are you intentionally trying to rile people up, and if so, why? Are you angry at them? Or do you say you're offending people just by expressing sincerely held opinions, and the snowflakes are getting triggered? Is everyone but you a hypocrite?
I mean, I believe everyone is a hypocrite, but there's a spectrum, right? There's a level where you are trying not to be a hypocrite, but it's impossible to exist and not be at some level. Then there's blatantly lying, saying one thing and doing another. A spectrum, and a lot of it boils down to good faith, and sincerity. Are you angry at faux liberals who you feel should be violently agitating for seizing the means of production, and are calling them out in their bullshit? Or just trying to make them angry so you can hurt them, just a little?
I'm an Anarcho-Syndicalist, I offend ml and hexbear users sometimes just by pointing out that China is a fascist dictatorship. I offend world users by telling the truth some aren't ready to hear. These truths include the simple facts that you cannot reform capitalism out of existence, liberal democracy is democracy for the capitalists, a bloodless revolution is not possible, and compromise with fascism only brings fascism. Sometimes I offend people by being unapologetically Queer, sometimes by being unapologetically Anarchist, but I have learned that apologizing for my beliefs is utterly nonsensical.
There will always be a vanguard, whether it's formalized into an entity that can be structured democratically and transparently or whether it's left unformalized and therefore subject to cliques, natural power imbalances, and a lack of accountability. The reason for this is that humans vary quite widely in political education and skill, those with more experience with organizing and those with no experience already form a natural hierarchy, and without formalizing this structure you run into danger. That doesn't mean the Vanguard isn't of the working class, rather, it just means that the Working Class as a whole is the real driver, and the Vanguard is the pointer, spear body and spearhead.
The essay The Tyranny of Structurelessness does a good job of explaining the necessity of formalizing structures in order to keep them truly accountable.
I don't really know what you're trying to say by saying Lemmy.ml and Hexbear are "fake Leftists," are you just trying to say Marxists are fake Leftists?
The biggest responses I've ever gotten by far have all been asking for alternatives to popular tech. ๐
on Lemmy that's just karma farming.
I assume the right-wing propaganda planners have decided they need to counter something I said
I sometimes write something that might be controversial, so unless I have a lot of free time I don't open Lemmy at all, lol.
it amazes me with what gets the most attention.
Oh I'm used to it, I know I have some controversial opinions.
Hot take incoming: New 3DS XL is the best handheld Nintendo has ever made. Not only can it play every generation of Nintendo games prior, it's the latest clamshell they made, and it even has super cool exclusives for it like the awesome GTA 3 and GTA VC (admittedly the VC one is a bit rough) ports.
Who gives a shit about Nintendo?
Fuck those predatory bastards.
I don't disagree, but I love their hardware and games. It's why I feel so conflicted, and I hate them, but I love the stuff they have made even though they basically hate their fans.
Ooooooo
Usually there's enough context and it's recent enough I sort of remember. I haven't had a lot of ancient replies here, but Reddit was great for that, and that's exactly what I would think. What the hell are they talking about? What was really surreal was rereading what I wrote and vaguely remembering it, but sometimes the wording being a bit different than what I might say now. Not necessarily the point, just how I said it, as people do change with age. I don't regret anything I've every said though, it's why I've left my Reddit account alone, that plus it would probably be undeleted anyway and I've moved on.
Yeah, I was thinking more about seeing the count: my client shows the inbox unread count at the bottom. 4 is not unusual, but when I see over 12, much less 24, my first thought is: "oh, shit. What did I say??"
Once I open the inbox, it becomes clear pretty quickly, that's true.
I know exactly how you feel๐
"Ah shit, here we go again."
Normally people just hardcore virtue signaling.
Average day for me.
If I ever see hundreds I'll be worried.
I usually know if something I say will get a bunch of replies, plus I normally use Lemmy most actively in the morning and at night so it happens regularly.
Did you criticize the left?
"I think nano is the premier terminal text editor."
Spicy!
And then all of them are "Nicole".
The Polish Partier.
i have a different pic in my inbox. do i suppose to collect them all? i want a rare Nicole now
Oh she's using a new picture now?
I'll probably get it in my inbox sooner or later
Aww, I don't feel special anymore.
I got mine today after a year on Lemmy. I was starting to feel left out.
I guess I'm not special enough, Nicole doesn't want to talk to me.
I just got mine today, like some tribal initiation
Still haven't gotten one. Guess the bots don't like me.
update private_message set deleted = true from person where person.id = private_message.creator_id and person.actor_id in ('https://lemmy.cafe/u/nicole');๐ฎ
EDIT: lmao cope harder, spammer. Makes it easier to find your alts.
I got a message from nicole with a pic. I thought it was a scammer or something. Just a one off thing. Is that not the case? Is Nicole a lemmy thing?
Nope, your first instinct is right, itโs a spammer. But itโs one of the few specific spammers that almost everyone has run into on lemmy, so itโs just a joke. Like saying you met a Nigerian prince who offered you a huge sum of money.
Gods please don't let this be a trend...
Bro I got that too!!!!!