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Trans Megathread for the Week of 2025-01-06 to 2025-01-12 - Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky
  • i've got my fingers crossed that it'll somehow end up with some kind of a switcheroo and canada ends up annexing the us, and then at least there's health care probably.

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    Trans Megathread for the Week of December 30th, 2024 to January 5, 2025 - The Summer Hikaru Died
  • i knew i was cooked when 0 wasn't shorts and tshirt weather anymore

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  • getting compliments on my look in ffxiv is perhaps more euphoric to me than is reasonable doggirl-sweat

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    Trans Megathread for the Week of December 30th, 2024 to January 5, 2025 - The Summer Hikaru Died
  • it's a miracle druids in fantasy settings ever get anything done. why are they running around doing all sorts of things when they could just turn into a bear and chill?

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    Trans Megathread for the Week of December 30th, 2024 to January 5, 2025 - The Summer Hikaru Died
  • i really like fruity teas, there are good blackberry and raspberry ones!

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    Trans Megathread for the Week of December 23rd, 2024 to December 29th, 2024 - TMGC MEGA
  • family stuff

    family's christmas party was today. it went really well! i had been very nervous, the last time we had gotten together my mother had a lot of trouble with my name and misgendering, but we had A Talk about it and she really seems to have taken it to heart and didn't deadname or misgender me once today! i also got to give my sister's wonderful cats many pets. seems i was nervous for nothing o_o;

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    Trans Megathread for the Week of December 23rd, 2024 to December 29th, 2024 - TMGC MEGA
  • fwiw

    i've only been here for like a week so it'd be ridiculous for me to expect to already feel or be ingrained in the space... but i definitely feel the not really knowing how to proceed. both off and online social bonds and connections always just kinda happened around me, i kinda just got pulled in by proximity, so i also don't really feel i ever got those skills of building new bonds. the reason i'm here is because i don't really have community elsewhere in a time where i really need it. i never ever really did reddit or tumblr or anywhere else so the ecosystem as a whole is kinda foreign to me, or what i'm even expecting here. i just kinda post and hope i'm maybe helpful or not interrupting and maybe i won't eternally exude that I'm New Here o_o;

    idk if i have a point... maybe like, not really understanding where or how to fit in in a space, even if your brain is maybe like "you should belong and feel safe in this space," isn't a crazy feeling? it's an okay feeling to have?

    idk if that's helpful or even cogent at all... feeling like a drifting rando solidarity i guess? o_o;

  • The Rust Lang Ecosystem — Trans Megathread for the week of December 16, 2024, to December 22, 2024
  • dealing with cis people, transphobia, discussion of sexuality, rambling

    so i've got a friend who is, ostensibly, a cis het dude who's been making seemingly joking claims to transness and queerness for years now and i'm not certain how i feel about it or what to do about it?

    i've had open and frank discussions with him about transness in the past; he's the token cis het in our circle of otherwise entirely queer late bloomers which had at times made him wonder if he may not actually be cis, and i told him that if he wanted or needed to experiment with things like names or pronouns to figure some stuff out we'd be more than happy to be the space where he could do that but he never took us up on the offer.

    we've also had conversations about his sexuality; his last long term partner was enby who has taken steps of masc social transition. they were not out when the two started their relationship and got married, so he wasn't certain if this meant he was still straight. i told him at the time he had claim to queerness if he wanted it, but when the cards are on the table he's always said he's het and he always consistently referred to his partner as his wife even after they came out (they were okay with it at the time).

    at first i was fine with his joking claims to queerness, like haha yeah it's kinda funny that you're the only one of us who didn't turn out to be queer, but after splitting with his ex he's been showing his whole ass on internalized transphobia and misogyny in other ways and now the jokes just piss me off. having him be like "bUt WhAt iF i'M nOt" every time it's brought up that he's cis or het is just fucking exhausting.

    i don't wanna gatekeep because i know he's questioned before and a lot of people i know (myself included) didn't figure out their transness or their sexuality until adulthood, but every time it comes up i just wanna yell at him to shit or get off the pot dude.

    am i treating him with kids' gloves? should i be bringing down the fucking hammer? idfk. i'll probably just slowly cut him out.

  • The Rust Lang Ecosystem — Trans Megathread for the week of December 16, 2024, to December 22, 2024
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    i've broken down during voice, too ... i think it's normal? at least normal enough that my instructor basically has a speech about how "it's okay to break down" that i've heard a couple times now.

    i wish there was a good way to help. i know it doesn't always feel like it, but you're not alone meow-hug

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    [C.W meat, NSFW for spoilers] Last/latest TF2 comic just dropped.
  • Seeing it like this really made me tear up.

    yeah i may have cried a little too. kitty-cri-potato

  • The Rust Lang Ecosystem — Trans Megathread for the week of December 16, 2024, to December 22, 2024
  • are you looking for the name overall to be more neutral, or is having a sort of neutral nickname okay? for starting with a vowel with a more neutral nickname, something like eleanor could be shortened to "elle" or something like emily could be shortened to "emme" which may fit the bill? i've also heard andrea shortened to "andi" or amelia shortened to "ames," but i dunno if those are more on the masc side.

    just some random thoughts, i hope you have luck! finding the name that's really you can be really exciting trans-heart

  • how much of a g*mer are you?
  • flat 60.. that's passing, right? D's get degrees?

  • Transfem tomboys are so underrated
  • a real turnaround for me was when i realized that being very tall with linebacker shoulders just means i get to be an amazing butch lesbian

  • Building up courage to start the HRT journey
  • i didn't start hrt until well into my adulthood and well after i figured out i'm trans, and it was one of the best feelings i've had and the mental changes were almost immediate. after starting i did have a couple weeks of what i guess i'd call "brain fog" (which i'd get each time i'd up my dose :/ ), but after that i really felt at home in my body for the first time.

    i had pretty severe problems with dissociation prior to starting hrt that are pretty much gone, and every feeling is much more vibrant and feels much more like Me. it's not something that eliminated my anxiety or depression, but it did make them addressable for the first time, and even feeling Bad in a body that feels like my own is preferable (at least for me) to feeling Good in a body that doesn't.

    it's something i couldn't recommend more and i really hope you're able to start!

  • amy_jmayday amy_jmayday [she/her] @hexbear.net

    i play video games and have anxiety !catgirl-flop

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