Thinking for herself is a requirement in the industrialized world, since adulting is a subset. Maybe there's a farm that raises gentle ladies-in-waiting with only domestic skills the way we train service dogs to help disabled people, but such women are not found in general society.
Also, not thinking for herself makes her unemployable in a society where all adults are required to earn a living (which often takes more than one full-time job). So this requirement implies the guy is rich enough to afford a family on one income.
In short, like the 1950s man, he's not looking for a date or a wife. He's looking for a household appliance. Kenmore will sort him out.
As for the rest of us losers working class guys, real women who think for them selves and can adult are an asset and a keeper. Heck, if they can think for us too, sometimes, that's a bonus.
I'm seriously on the fence with this one. A couple of points make it really difficult for it to not to be satire, but I've met guys who would unironically think of "can think for herself" as a malus - but they wouldn't admit it out loud. Now, can there be some kind of cave creature so pulled apart from civilized life that they would think this and post it?
I'm pretty sure this guy does want a woman who can think for herself. Otherwise he's gonna have to tell her how and when to clean the house, plan and cook meals, take care of their kids, and manage the household...etc. He's gunning for the Monkey's Paw version of a tradwife.
Vaping would be a deal breaker for me. Besides being douchy, I just plain don’t like it, just how I hate smoking. Piercings I probably wouldn’t like outa taste, but someone who can think for themselves is a must otherwise I’d get bored quickly. Not being able to cook would be somewhat problematic as I can’t cook well either, soooo…
The type of person that wants someone that can't think for them selves....isn't really that high on the mental flag pole of life.
But the saying is code for a bunch of stuff, I really doubt that they mean they are searching for someone with severe brain damage and has trouble performing even the basic functions of life.
Maybe? There is a large portion of christo-fascists who actually believe much of that. I am certainly not so naive that I am ruling out satire, but I would also be remiss not to consider that it's actually real and posted by an outright garbage human.
... my first thought when I read "never dated a woman" was "yeah, because these are mostly the basic requirements for an adult women. Sicko obviously likes them young"
This person needs to hire a cook and get a sex doll. Actually scratch that, door dash. He's way too fucked to interact with other humans. I feel bad for anyone in his life.
There are people who are genuinely like this, and his profile pic fits the bill too. I wouldn't assume this to be satire or sarcasm without seeing more of their profile first.
I was going to post almost this same thing. I know dudes IRL who will volunteer similar opinions that are oddly specific, apropos of nothing. Like, one who said out of the blue that he wouldn't date a woman we all know because she has more than 2 ear piercings, as if she gave a flying fuck what his opinion on piercings is, or even has him on her radar as a potential partner. Her name came up when someone else mentioned a good recipe she'd given them. I thought, she dodged a bullet without ever knowing it existed.
The only ones that really bother me are the ones that go through the center part of their nose like a cartoon bull. I can't stop thinking about them getting crusty when you have a runny nose and it grosses me out.
People hold these views. The fact he's trolling doesn't exclude him from holding some or all of them. Whether he holds these views or not isn't relevant to understanding these views. Here are some reasons why a conservative man would hold these views.
These threaten his religious sensibilities:
Use of profanity or vulgar language
Any piercings
Vapes
Hugs the bouncer on a night out
Skimpy clothing
Tattoos
Atheist
These threaten traditional roles for women, which he needs to deny women access to public life and define his own masculinity:
Over 500 followers on IG
Has a twitter account (Other microblogging platforms do count)
Cannot cook
These threaten his masculinity because he associates them with men:
Knows what a barbell is
Been to more than 3 countries
These threaten the dependence that he thinks women should have on him and all the other reasons apply to these as well: