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How do you actually read?

Background:

I'm in my 40s and I've always sort of beaten myself up over not being an avid reader. I go through phases where I read a bunch, sometimes I'll finish a book in a months time, sometimes start a book and forget it, sometimes it seems like I go literally years without really getting into any book at all. But I still accumulate them.

Because of how important reading is and now I "fail" to prioritize it, I've always found myself in a poor relationship with reading. I feel this artificial pressure to read things that are only important and will somehow make me more useful. I feel this artificial pressure to start one book and read it to the end. I feel this artificial pressure to become a changed person by fully investing every bit of info from every book.

I've been learning that these pressures are untenable.

I've also noticed that I partake in all kinds of things without the same expectations: tv shows, games, podcasts, media and news outlets, social media, etc.

Right now I have 6 books that I am actively reading, and I am trying to remember that it's for enjoyment and not some high level goal. Someone told me if I read 10 pages a day I would finish about 10 books a year. I found this so encouraging.

Taking the pressure off of reading has really helped me get more productive at reading, and I think it will help me convert my habit into a truly fruitful one.

So now I ask you:

  • What are your reading habits like?
  • What do you like to read?
  • What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?
  • Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?
  • What else?
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  • I will be 40 in February. I read daily. But what I read daily is this shit. Posts and comments. Memes and news articles. Maybe someone's fanfic on Tumblr.

    Been getting into furry focused visual novels after getting bored and checking out Adastra since I had heard of it years ago and never actually played it, and I just haven't been able to get enough of Howlie's work since (finish The Smoke Room so you can get back on Khemia, please! 😩)

    I like sci-fi and romance. Adastra was both and has been the best fucking thing I've ever read.

    I haven't read an honest to God book since Ready Player One initially came out.

    1. My reading habits are like everyone of my hobbies, I obsessed for a week then move on to a new pursuit then come back to reading several months later.
    2. I read text books about Aztec history.
    3. I'm a year away from 40 and I'm coming to terms with being alone for the rest of my life (which is exactly the same leading up to this point).
    4. I bought a book stand I can adjust and wheel around.
    5. Stop caring what other people think and just read when you feel like it. You're overthinking this.
  • I don’t read much for entertainment. Never have. The focus on “reading is super important” is honestly pretty stupid in my opinion. 99% of the shit people are reading is probably trashier than any other form of entertainment but people act like its a mark of a superior intellect because they are flipping through pages of a book.

    I also find the physical act of reading a book to be incredibly distracting from consuming the information therein. I read much more efficiently and enjoyably using digital platforms than I ever did with printed media. I’m in my mid 30’s and probably an outlier for my age group in regards to how I feel about books.

    Its just another form of entertainment, should not be put on a pedestal, and is really just as valid (or invalid) as any other form of entertainment—if you don’t find yourself drawn to it then don’t beat yourself up about it. No one is going around belittling people for not watching enough movies during a given annum; why treat reading a book like it’s some great and noble act?

  • What are your reading habits like?

    I read like some people doomscroll - in bed when I'm supposed to be sleeping, when I'm eating my meals, on public transportation, while walking, on the toilet, waiting in line... Basically any time I'm not using my brain for anything else. If the book is interesting I'll find more excuses to pull out my Kindle, but at the very minimum I'll read in bed at the end of the day. It's not a goal or anything that I've pushed onto myself, it's just become habit to read myself to sleep, and I've been doing it for as long as I can remember. It was a real pain before I got a backlit Kindle - I'd fall asleep and leave the lamp on all night and lose my place if I was reading a physical book. I don't like to have more than 1 book going at once. 1 fiction and 1 non fiction is okay, but nothing more than that. If the book is a series, I'll pick up book 1 and continue all the way through the series back to back, and then go back to read spinoffs and prequels in whatever order makes the most sense. I also read all the books I can find from the same author in a similar fashion. If the series wasn't finished and a new book gets released after I've already read the rest of a series, I'll go back and read all of the books before it first. Being in-between books is a feeling I am very uncomfortable with, so I'm always in the middle of something. I will often keep reading books that I don't enjoy that much just as a stop-gap until I find the next series to get hooked on. It's a little psychotic now that I think about it.

    What do you like to read?

    Mostly sci-fi and fantasy novels, but I'll consume almost anything with interesting world building, mechanics/magic systems, or compelling characters. For non-fiction, I like things that teaches me how things work, usually astronomy or quantum mechanics. I've read some great books written from the perspective of physicists as they went through their journey of discovery.

    What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?

    I'm 33, married, have a 4 year old, and work full time. I don't think it's affected my reading very much, I've been stealing reading time ever since I was a kid. Reading on the bus to school, reading walking around, reading during meals (drove my mother nuts), reading if I finished my work in class... I've always had my nose in a book. I have less time overall for reading now, but the way I do it is still the same.

    Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?

    I honestly cannot think of any changes I've made, but maybe I should consider some. Writing this post makes me realize I'm treating books like a drug addiction.

    What else?

    1. Don't be like me and read in bed if you can avoid it, it's not great for sleep hygiene. It's too late for me, save yourself.
    2. Don't read if you don't genuinely want to. Don't push yourself to read a certain number of pages a day, or a certain number of books in a year. Don't read just "to read", it's not sustainable. I think you should just aim to try a book that sounds interesting to you every now and then, and if it doesn't compell you to read further then just put it down and walk away. You don't NEED to finish a book, let yourself be happy. As an avid reader, nothing frustrates me more than people treating reading like a chore or some desired goal. It's just words on a page, don't put it on a pedestal.
    3. I'd be interested to hear how you experience reading. Do you "see" the book like a movie? Is it better than a movie, in that you can smell/feel/taste things? Or do you experience it like someone is reading out loud to you? I was speaking with a friend once, and she asked how people like me could read for hours in end. She asked "don't you get sick of the sound of your own voice?" and that was such an eye-opening question for me. She heard the words being spoken whenever she read, she didn't really visualize anything at all. I had no idea it could be like that. For me, I don't hear the words. I don't see the words on the page. It's like I'm in the matrix and the experience gets fed directly into my brain and I can see and feel and hear everything and there's even this 6th sense sometimes that I can't describe. When I have to suddenly stop reading a good book, it feels like pulling my head out of a giant bowl of very firm jello. I think this is the main difference between readers and non-readers. It's not that one is more "enlightened" or have "good habits" or is an "intellectual". It's just more enjoyable for some (and more work/effort for others) on a very fundamental level. Not reading is not a shortcoming.

    Sorry for the massive reply!

    (edit: formatting)

  • I read in bursts really I can go weeks/months without then go through 6 or 7 books in a week. I've always been a very fast reader and if something interests me enough to give it a look I tend to read the entire series at once.

    I think the biggest factor for me is if it grabs my interest or not quickly if something doesn't I don't try and force it just wait for the next thing that might.

  • I spend most of my day reading, as a translator. But it's almost always stuff that I wouldn't read, if not being paid to.

    If counting only books that I read for fun, I guess it's 2 books/month? Typically fantasy light novels. I also read a fair bit of manga (5 chapters/day).

    Beyond those LNs I think that the last book I've read was in September; Um Copo de Cólera (lit. "a glass of rage"), from Raduan Nassar. Short but good first person story.

    I'm almost 40. I'm... tired. I don't read stuff to feel myself cultured; I read stuff when I need to (because of my job) or when I feel in the mood to do so.

  • I wish there were better book trailers. Part of it is we get more picky about our time and know what we do and don't like. But sometimes this leads to a certain prejudice that doesn't let us explore something we otherwise would've stumbled onto.

    For me with young kids, work, and generally limited time audiobooks are a compromise that allows me to combine with another activity, like cleaning or running.

    Funny I'm seeing this post, though, as I placed aside 2 books that were gifted to me in hopes to read a physical book (but how.)

  • I go back and forth between reading novels and difficult non-fiction books. Also, I read in the morning with coffee and in the evening with non-caffeinated tea.

    When I fall out of my reading habit, I restart it by reading a page-turner. Stephen King, Neal Stephenson, whoever.

    When reading a difficult book (philosophy) I treat it like a serious undertaking, something I might not be ready for. I have a dictionary nearby. I'm here to learn, to struggle. And it's like a sport. But an extremely edifying and satisfying sport. It's like climbing a mountain. Some philosophy books require reading like three other philosophy books first. These are geniuses talking to each other, and I just get to watch.

    And when I'm done with a difficult book, I follow it up with a page-turner. Alastair Reynolds, some comedy novel, or whatever.

    I never read a book "just because it's a classic." That's no fun. There has to be something about the book that makes me want to read it.

    And I try not to read multiple books at the same time. I'm currently breaking that rule.

  • I used to read (books, newspapers, cereal packets, everything, even fricking Cosmo) a hell of a lot before t'internet. Now I struggled to read a magazine in one sitting. I have a diet of RSS feeds and the linked articles.

    I'm thirty years older, as we all are pre- post- net, so that probably has an effect but it's upsetting me how little I read (read) now.

    I have a old Kindle (circa the first paperwhite series) which I find is devoid of battery power whenever I pick it up and I forget to replace it on my wireless phone charger (buy the kindle a wireless charging client with a microUSB plug from Amazon/AliExpress to put between the cover you necessarily bought and the Kindle) when I remove my phone.

    Thinking buying a dumb phone might be the way forward to kill my died of short articles which maybe killed my attention span.

  • What are your reading habits like?

    Reading for work related issue and for leisure daily from waking up to going to bed. light article reading to complex peer reviewed journals. That said, I let my mind guide what i am inerested in reading for the day or week. I usuallu would not force myself else everything gets fuzzy and it becomes a waste of time.

    What do you like to read?

    • Autobiographies of people that cut across all walks of life across the globe. Politics, law, finance, Medicine and Agriculture. Amazon cart is constantly getting added to.
    • Journals like Lancet, AVJMR, etc. Once in a while if a caselaw in a country interest me i source it out to review. Daily journal or Justia can be helpful for US related ones.

    What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?

    Mid-30's, same leaning for books or materials of interest to read since i was a teenager. Not a fan of fiction since Harry potter and Otherworld series.

    Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?

    I have included audiovisuals to my repository . I listen to Podcast (Wondery Plus is the Goat!!!) and documentaries (History Channel) if the material i am trying to read or study is in that form.

  • I practically don't read for fun. Not that I dislike reading, but it's generally rare to find books that interest me, and I simply don't have time to look for interesting books. Last I found an interesting book, I breezed through it in a couple days.

    Anyways, most of my reading happens through academia, reading scientific papers and such. There's a lot of interesting scientific research going on that flies under the radar because it's not clickbaity enough for popsci websites to pick up on it. I have a feed set up on Pubmed to send me emails every day on new papers from different topics. Every day or two I glance through them and it there's something that catches my eye, I'll read it more thoroughly.

    I wouldn't generally encourage people to read scientific papers, since they're really quite dense and requires a lot of practice to get good at reading, but it's an easy way to read something while being productive. And I've become increasingly convinced over time that the general population needs at least some experience with scientific literature, given how much of the science gets twisted in the game of Science Communication Telephone

  • I used to be an avid reader but as I got older and busier I just couldn’t find the time.

    Then when I did have time there was always distractions, or other things I could be doing.

    So now I read primarily via audiobooks through Libby and my library.

    I read 130 books or so last year that way.

    Mowing the yard? Audiobook.

    Long drive? Audiobook.

    Waiting at the doctors? Audiobook.

    Dishes? Audiobook.

    And then when I’m really invested I’ll relax by playing some mindless game while I listen. Think match 3 or bejeweled.

    Just engaging enough to keep me from getting bored while listening but not so much that I can’t do both.

    Balatro, BABA is you? Bad candidates for playing and listening.

    The last couple of years I burned through the wheel of time series, all of Brandon Sanderson’s books (except skyward which I haven’t gotten to), a lot of Adrian Tchaikovsky, and others.

    • What are your reading habits like? I try to read at a minimum a chapter a night. That said I read a lot thanks to my commute to and from work 3x per week. I seem to read about a book a week. I do it for pleasure and I've gotten better about not finishing books. Though I will probably finish a book even I'm not loving it. It has to be bad for me to not finish.
      In being an avid reader I think it's important and valuable in reading some stuff that isn't as fun (mostly classics). That said I think people who don't read much can steer clear easily. It's a hobby and do whatever you like doing the most.
    • What do you like to read? Mostly fantasy or SciFi. Ive been branching out into more traditional fiction genres and I'll read some historical things from time to time. I'm not tied down to a genre but I find poorly written fantasy can get carried by cool concepts or world building.
    • What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it? I just started my career and I've been reading all my life. My mum made sure I would read since I was quite young and I liked it. I've had ups and downs ans I definitely read more now than I did in high school and university thanks to my long commute.
    • What else? I'll reiterate, do what you like even if it is to not read. Live life your way. That said, if you wanna get into reading, setting yourself a page or chapter target daily is a good place to start. Don't worry about how many books you read in a period. Sit back and find enjoyment in what you are reading or did read, not stress in what you didn't read.

    I'll throw you a book recommendation because it's always gotten me out of a reading slump: the Scorpio races by Maggie stiefvater. It's targeted at younger folks but I think it's an extremely enjoyable read still and has plenty to Enjoy for anyone

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