Why do I feel sick every time I go out to eat with my gf?
every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I'm not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)
its not new food, I've been to these places many times before
Go to the same restaurants at the same time under the same conditions (i.e. how recently you ate another meal, day of the week, the weather, etc.) but with a different person and see if you still feel ill. Vary the conditions until you find one that correlates with your illness. Then try altering that condition.
If you feel ill under all conditions then see a doctor. In fact it might be good to make a doctor appointment anyway.
Are you just really nervous about being on a date?
It’s called an anxiety attack. Talk to a therapist about it.
too poor for therapy lol (I need it but womp womp)
Then journal. Dump your thoughts onto paper, consider and reconsider. Just write out what you think. It can be a text file, a paper notebook with pen, whatever. Just write a lot.
I’ve heard great things about these self-help tools from the Australian Centre for Clinical Interventions: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Social-Anxiety
Maybe she's poisoning you to get even for not asking her out earlier.
Is this one of those "red flags" people keep talking about?
haha maybe
Maybe you’re spending money you shouldn’t. Also, maybe youre spending your heart when you shouldn’t.
My first thought is that there’s something about those first couple of bites that triggers the anxiety. Could be subconscious (well, it is subconscious currently if you’re unaware of a cause).
Are there any particular thoughts that occur when the meal arrives? Even thoughts that occur only briefly to be replaced by others?
Did you sign up for any life insurance policies with her recently? Add her to your will? Is she currently borrowing something and has mentioned "jokingly" about how she'd really like to keep it?
Not a high probability, mind you, but since the subject was raised...
Anxiety?
If that tiny idiot of an amygdala in your brain thinks you're in danger then nausea can be a symptom.
This happened to me as well. I'd take a few bites of a meal and feel full/ nauseous; Sometimes even throw up. It went away after maybe 6 months of dating and we joke about it now 12 years later.
We chalked it up to nerves, but no one can tell for sure. Best of luck OP! Guessing you really like this person.
I hope that's it and it goes away on. its own
yeah we've liked eachother for two years now, but I was too dense to realized she liked me back and she was too shy to say anything lol
My husband would get wild upset stomachs before we went out on a date. His aunt would tease him that he was allergic to me. It was anxiety.
I could spend the whole weekend with him in his apartment, and he'd feel fine. It only happened before we planned to go out to dinner specifically. Lunch was nbd to his brain.
It could be financial. Are you spending more money now that you’re a couple?
Maybe she's poisoning you just a tiny bit at a time. Kidding, but have you guys eaten a meal at home together without you feeling sick?
not really, she came over once and we ate like polish crepes i made, and that was fine, but not much of a meal, no
I would try that a few more time, the fact that you were doing something will help with any anxiety
Allergies maybe? Most women use special makeup for dates. It could be something she's wearing like lipstick. It could be something in the food like peanuts or olive oil.
Try cooking dinner at home together and see if it happens.
Perfume?
Are you reacting to her perfume? Maybe she didn't put it on when you were just friends.
no she definetly did, same one as always, and its not strong
also that would make me nauseous in the car as well, not just when eating
Maybe there's something you need to get off your chest. Maybe you feel like you're not being true to yourself.
If you feel like something needs to change in your relationship, better to put it out there and work through it than keep it hidden.
probably due to inflation and the price increase 🤷🏻
Does she chew with her mouth open?
Stan?
Edit: It was a South Park Stan + Wendy reference, but I get the Eminem one too.
I meant to write you sooner, but I've just been busy. You said your girlfriend's pregnant now, how far along is she?
Bleurgh!
Does he order Mom’s spaghetti at every restaurant?
I have a similar issue sometimes. I feel like I get overstimulated by smells in restaurants.. Also I'm lazy so I eat boring food at home, so maybe the variety contributes to the nausea.
Also I'm celiac, which definitely doesn't help.
It's possible they changed their recipe to include something you may be allergic to or it's a new allergy
Placebo effect?
Maybe you got a touch of food poisoning one of the first times and now you subconsciously associate it with date nights?
Fun fact! When the effect on your health is negative instead of positive it's known as the nocebo effect.
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Well, I thought that fact was fun...
Does she stink?
I don't have an answer, but congrats on being one of the few to break that friendship zone barrier
thanks mate
Ok, that helps. Still I think to look at what happens just before might help.
Restaurants don't serve food. They serve drugs that are intended to hook you and make you come back, not nourish you and keep you healthy. It could just be the cumulative effect. People who eat poorly get worse and worse over time.
I think every large establishment that serves food to the public should be required to serve food that a person could eat FOR EVERY MEAL and be healthy.
Lol yea yea and chemtrails are actually a secret government project for mind control
Good point! OP, are you eating on the restaurant's open-air patio? Perhaps chemtrail chemicals are filtering down into your food from the sky.
They’re designed to make people look up
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Beautifully done, as always. Don't think I didn't see all that chaos-sowing bait in there!
Yup restaurant food is drugs and it's turning the fricken frogs GAY
Sir, this is a Wendy's (so knock that shit off you're making the other customers nervous)
Sounds like anxiety. Mild nausea and loss of appetite are something that I deal with on a daily basis. If you are happy then it could just be nervous excitement, like having butterflies in your stomach.
Yeah, OP didn't say how long they'd been together but if it's a new relationship after 3 years of being friends, especially if they're young and/or there's been lingering feelings for some time before becoming "official", then anxiety and nervous excitement is likely to be high!
spot on. wed liked eachother for two years, and were young too so