Honestly wish I could do that. I've gotten so used to masking my inability to do small talk that I basically just say yes to everything. It's super annoying and something I want to work on, but I dont really know how.
Its incorrect wording but i shorthanded it to 'embrace the sociopathy'. Very nice little koan to drop on the programmed reaction i've had to natural ASD reactions
'You can't do that it's sociopathic!' No ma it's ASD and i'm tired of pretending i'm not to save your face.
I'm the opposite i can do small talk ( and even be charming while doing it) but, i just can't STAND it and don't know how to get out of it either so i've just taken to greyrocking whenever it comes up. For the record i don't have asd ( some people said they had it in this section) just static encephalopathy ( brain damage) and am actually quite smart just I've got a lot special niche interests ( sci fi, fantasy and Gorillaz to name a few) and if i don't know you ( aka you aren't interested in these things and / or like small talk) then I don't want to talk to you but, if you don't do small talk and/ or are interested in something I'm interested in GREAT! IF YOU WANT TO TALK I'M DOWN FOR IT!
Seems Germany would be heaven to this userbase.
Pose a question, expect a no-nonsense, factual answer. Don't be offended but appreciate the candor and brevity. Get back to being productive so you can leave for a timely Feierabend like everyone else.
To be fair, this would probably still be considered very unusual in Germany. You're not obligated to do a while song and dance, but uf you do this I would assume it's a very deadpan joke.
If my boss asked me that I would assume the question to be a joke.
I was watching a YouTube video for Americans on what not to do when visiting Germany. I was thinking that I would love to live in Germany throughout the video for the reasons you stated.
I don't know German so I am going to assume that a Feierabend is going on a bender with Guy Fieri
It means quitting time (technically Feier is celebrating and Abend is evening so you're celebrating leaving work for the evening)
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Dudes ready for the office culture.
I cannot tolerate office culture. It's so unbearably insincere and manipulative in my experience.
"If you could just do this stupid unnecessary thing, that'd be great." sips coffee
I find the trick is to spin what I want to say into somthing positive. I can't lie but I can avoid the questions, or just be vague.
In this situation. "Will you miss us?" (assuming I won't)
"Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future" (not implying I actually want to)
"So long everyone!"(ignores the question, this may also end the conversation as youve given yourself an out)
"I'm sure I'll meet many new people at my next opportunity" (to them it may imply you where happy to meet them, even if you where not)
In this case, he was never going to see these people again, so no need to play the neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings.
Fair enough. You never know though. A place that fired me a years back in a city far from where I live now, is now my primary vendor. I need to work with them closely. So I am happy I didn't burn too many bridges on the way out.
I say no but I'm cognizant it's funny so I laugh and then everyone else laughs thinking I was joking. Win win.
"Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future."
I couldn't help but read that in a generic Vulcan voice that was a mix of Spock and the "We ain't found shit!" guy.
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Well it does say "infront if everyone". I assumed that also includes coleuages. Co workers are not corporate overlords.
I'm not saying it's a good thing, it's another dumb micro ceremony regardless. And if you in a position where you don't have to play the stupid games then I envy you. But my advice my be of some use for those us poor bastards who need to play along.
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nvm me - i'm just wondering if you put yours in italics
This feels like the moment I realized that figuring out a way to say 'thank you' rather than 'I'm sorry' grants +1 CHA
One of my first mentors as a nurse was this old battle axe who had been around in the ER for decades. Tough as nails, hard as a rock. She was pushing morphine in some young girl's IV. This girl was maybe 18 years old and having a good amount of pain, nothing crazy but needing medication. She was really anxious about it. She foolishly asked the question, "What's the worst that could happen?" The nurse answered, "You could die." No expression or sympathy or care. And she just kept on slowly pushing the morphine without another word as the patient visibly tried to suppress her terror.
If you're in the ER I'm not sure what else you'd be expecting.
I think it depends on the situation. There's a time to be a hardass and a time to be kind.
For example, 25 years ago I got a cut in hockey and went for stitches. Doctor said I needed a tetanus shot and I didn't want it because I don't like needles. Doctor proceeded to describe death by tetanus. It worked.
What I would be expecting is someone who gives a shit about how the patients feel at least enough to phrase it in a non terrifying way. She knew what she was doing. While what she said was true, the odds that the girl would die from it were staggeringly low. She was just basically an asshole and left that part out.
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Jesus what a mind job
That reminded me a bit of that time I was spending the summer at grandparent's and went to the gas station to buy a few things I needed, and saw a magazine special dedicated to a tv show that was really popular with girls at that time, including a dvd and 3d anaglyph glasses. Picked it too.
Cute early 20s girl in the counter: "ohhh, do you like this show?? :D" Me: "no, I'm just buying it for the 3D glasses for using them with Minecraft" girl: "oh okay :/"
me, almost a week later, playing Minecraft at 3 or 4 AM: "wait, was that flirty?"
Should have invited her to play Minecraft
No, show her your Bionicle collection.
Sounds like she wasn't into that
Never ask questions you don't want an honest answer to.
This is why it's tragic only one in three people with autism have jobs. Where else are you going to get this level of honesty?
So many managers are convinced their employees need to feel more connected to the business, or miss the office and the team.
It does feel like they want to make you feel at home at work. It's disgusting.
Hah, I used to be like that in school, but that didn't go well at all. After all those years of having to keep quiet I've kinda lost that ability to be so straightforward. I wish it was normal for people to say what they think even if it isn't nice.
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X/Twitter post by user merlot mami @KendrasUsername reading: It's our hilarious interns last day. He's autistic and a super straight shooter. My VP asked him in front of everyone on his way out "you gonna miss this place & the people at all?" and he said "Um..no" and walked out.
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Hehe, calling it "X/Twitter" now. Nice way to address the complaints while keeping reference to the new branding.
I still prefer Twitter, but I can respect that.
"Miss? No need to even take the shot, now."
His "straight shooter" game is Hitscan.
This is often why autistic people don't climb the ranks in technical organisations, even if we are much better at our jobs. Some places create technical specialist roles that are equivalent status but there is a premium on leadership qualities rather than technical excellence.
The Egyptians built the pyramids by moving huge blocks of stone on skids. This was achieved by organising vast amounts of manpower. What they needed was some autistic people to point out that only a handful of people are required if you use some wheels.
Whats a super straight shooter?
Straight shooter is an idiom meaning honest and straightforward or direct. Super is acting as an intensifier. Combined it means they are extremely honest and direct.
Someone who doesn't lie to protect other people's feelings - AKA they don't "sugarcoat" things.
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I thought in the discipline of shooting they were the best, they could shoot very straight. Hence they don't miss if they would ... shoot
Legendary feeling of Catharsis: Definitely worth it.
I just hope he got all the papers he needed before that and a new job in the bag, because doing this without either of these conditions fulfilled can haunt you later.
But I am pretty sure he did.
I hope somebody dropped the mic for him lol
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