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  • You know, I got curious and

    Regarding marriage, Maher is quoted on his website as saying, "I'm the last of my guy friends to have never gotten married, and their wives—they don't want them playing with me. I'm like the escaped slave—I bring news of freedom."

    He also has dated a woman who stated he abused her (the lawsuit against him was dismissed as it was 'he said she said') and a woman who was 25 at the time when he was in his 50s

  • And much like how every other man has a "crazy girlfriend" story, the truth is usually a long history of neglect and abuse until the woman has enough and fights back the only way she can

    • Or like, actual unchecked mental illness. My last relationship ended because she wouldn't help herself. It took me a couple of years to realize that she was having problems, and I wasn't equipped to handle it in my early twenties, so it festered. It got so bad that toward the end, she was unrecognizable as the person I first started dating. I don't see a situation where even if she got help that we would have stayed together though.

      She found new and interesting ways to hurt me as time went on, and then when I ended it, she couldn't accept it, and kind of harassed me for a while. I mean, she had (at least) an emotional affair complete with dirty texts. I don't see how she had trouble understanding that wasn't going to work with us.

      She saw me at a concert months later with the person I ended up marrying and I think she got the picture that I was moved on. She hastily married someone she met at community college, likely because he needed a way to stay in the country legally.

      That's the closest thing to a "crazy ex" story I have, and as time softens the wounds I realize she was just a troubled person who was too headstrong to admit she needed help. I have no interest in reaching out, but I genuinely hope she's doing better out there.

      The least we can do is give others grace when the pain goes away.

      • It took me a couple of years to realize that she was having problems, and I wasn't equipped to handle it in my early twenties, so it festered.

        This is why I avoid asking anyone out ever. I've got many problems and I can't solve them, I'd rather not burden anyone so I find it best to be lonely.

      • That's real. I've had two ex's with serious mental health issues and most of my friends thought they were "crazy", but they really just needed medication or therapy or for capitalism to die. One of my most recent ex's had some severe mental health issues and depression. Ended up not working out for various reasons.

        Sometimes I feel bad when I recount stories from that relationship, because they sound like "crazy ex" stories, but I do think some are funny. One time she wanted to very seriously break up with me because I chose a film for us to watch which I thought she'd like but that she hated because she found it to be too "petit bourgeois". She said she couldn't understand how she could love someone who liked that film. She was a radlib ”commie" by the way, but just really funny shit like that. She wanted to fucking dump me because my film taste was too lib. She told me later she was just upset that we watched that instead of what she wanted to watch with me, but she thought I wouldn't like it so didn't propose it. We ended up watching it later and I really liked it as usual.

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