How come only weirdos want to be my friend? Is it because I have ADHD?
I’m a girl with ADHD, depression, and anger issues. I like to consider myself pretty fashionable and good at sports, but my only friends are weirdos?
This one girl I’m friends with has a really bad stutter and autism, for example, and I think it’s weird. She also doesn’t like sports like I do.
You sound absolutely miserable to be around. "Normal" people don't tend to enjoy being referred to as weirdos if they think they are your friend.
Reading the post and your comments I am gonna guess it has more to do with how you talk down to people.
I was feeling miserable at the time, that’s for sure. Also, that makes complete sense, I think I get it
Weirdos will be the most interesting people you meet. They'll introduce you to things you never imagined.
Embrace them.
Literally, just run up and bear hug them
Is it maybe because you consider your friends to be weird, so nobody wants that level of judgement when they join your friendship circle?
To hamfistedly adapt an oft-quoted phrase: "if all the people that want to be your friend are weirdos, then maybe you're the weirdo".
That said, I'm taking the view that you're here for a constructive opinion and not just for a kicking, and I'm aware of the sensitivities around the nature of this community - so have you considered being more of what you want to see in others? Positivity and personality focus are super attractive qualities (in a platonic way) and by bigging up your friends positive traits rather than ragging on their own little annoyances makes you more of an attractive person to befriend.
I don’t like that they’re bad at sports. I’m better than them, and I don’t even play sports. My friends always pass the ball to the next person open, which happens to be their friend, so I think they’re targeting me.
They hardly ever pass the ball to me when I can shoot some awesome hoops!
If it wasn't for the last line, I'd have sworn you were Stuart Hogg with a secret Lemmy account.
In all seriousness though, when you talk during the game or afterwards, what is the outcome when you ask why they overlook you as a recipient for a pass?
To address your initial friendship issue, maybe it's time to join a sports team that allows you to develop even more and exposes you to more friendship opportunities?
As someone who loved basketball, I get how this can be frustrating.
All I can offer is that they might find different aspects of the sport fun than you do: for them it might be more about feeding the ball to their friend to reinforce trust and solidarity with them.
😂 young weirdos are adorable. Steal the ball during the pass and say 'nice pass'!
Have you considered that you also might be weird?
Maybe so, I’m an anime lover and K-pop stan with ADHD
Cuz you're a weirdo, probably.
I mean, you're posting on Lemmy so the odds are pretty high, anyway.
The advantage to being a, shall we say, 'colorful' individual us precisely the ability to meet other colorful people. (In this context, I just mean interesting people, just to be clear.)
Don't forget, there is no 'normal' that needs to be adhered to; frankly, I think many non-neurodivergent individuals only programmed themselves that way cause they're afraid of being "different". But, if you're no different than me, who the hell am I? Who are you? It makes no sense.
Anyway, I just want to encourage you to try to find joy in having "weird" friends...if you can. What better way to enrich your own perspective on life, after all?
I'm autistic and dealt with depression and I talk to 0 normal people outside of work. Literally none.