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Every time I talk to my family about something, and my grandma happens to be in the room (almost always), I could bring up something such as school friends (since my family will ask if anything exciting happened), and I’ll bring up something ONCE like: “I’m so happy for my friend Ella. She’s liked this dude, Michael, for a long time, and now they’re finally together!”

Suddenly, my grandma will say “You know, it’s so WEIRD that you’re obsessed with Ella’s dating life? Why are you being so WEIRD?”

I’ll calmly respond with, “I’m just happy for her. I’m talking about things that happened at school.”

She’ll tell me that I get offended too easily and that I’m oppressing her, that she can’t say ANYTHING without me getting offended.

When I told my family that I just got diagnosed with a disorder and was trying to process it, she told me I was obsessed with “being mentally ill and making it my whole personality”, when I only mentioned being tested for it a few times.

She frequently makes comments when I say anything about a topic, and then when I calmly tell her that her comment isn’t true, she thinks that I’m upset with her and stuff.

How do I deal with the comments? I live with her, BTW.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20684850

> My friend Ana (15F) is generally a nice person, but she can be a little weird with some things, specifically Gym. Ana does not like taking accountability for her own mistakes, nor does she seem to believe/accept that she can be wrong sometimes. > > Ana constantly blames others (like me) for things like her serving the volleyball behind herself instead of over the net, for example. > > When I pass to someone and they end up missing in basketball, she blames me for passing to them and not her. > > If I end up winning a point, she sarcastically slow claps and says “Wow. You finally did something useful for once.” > > She gets mad at me for setting or spiking a volleyball that’s too high for me to bump as well, saying she’s better than everyone, that everyone is useless, and that I was actually supposed to bump it down low. > > She makes sure to remind people how terrible they are and how she’s better than them, too. Ana has anger issues (she says it’s because of her parents) and while she acts like nothing happened/apologizes in the next period, she does the same things again and again since around 12 years old. I like Ana as a friend but I hate when she yells at me and others for everything.

My neighborhood has a free food pantry that is used heavily, but vandals smashed it to pieces overnight. I'm funding a replacement but having trouble figuring out the best option for something pre-built. Ideally it will be at least 5ft tall and no more than 2ft deep with several shelves. I want something sturdy that will withstand the elements, deter raccoons, and will be difficult to smash. Any price, no budget. Any recs for specific outdoor cabinets or an Earth-friendly vendor? Or should I just reach out to a local carpenter to build one?

Located in PA, USA

Edit: I spoke with my local Habitat for Humanity and they are donating a pantry for us!

I fell a few months ago and landed on my head and spine (it was the corner of an object so I landed perfectly down the center from head to tailbone).

After a few weeks of head issues it all pretty much cleared up, until last week when I started having severe back pain to the point where I can't walk much. I feel like I'm going to pass out from the pain and my whole body feels like it's burning from the inside out.

There is nothing on imaging or labwork. Strong meds like oxy did not help much if at all. I am also overdo for arthritis medication so was fighting a ton of inflammation and pain already.

What can I do until a specialist sees me? I have to wait for insurance approval and then an appointment, which could take months since they are so busy.

Am going to keep it short. Am 26 currently been working for uber and lyft. I got admitted into Arizona State University last year. My entrance exams included mathematics. I have always struggled with mathematics all my life and the most i can do is basic number sets and operations and that's it. Please don't bother recommending any way to improve because trust me i have tried. My mom is a teacher and a counselor and my dad was a teacher as well. All my siblings are well educated in math and they have tried and i have deleted my YouTube, Facebook, gym membership etc. to focus and nothing has changed and even fell in love with it but every time i would fall asleep during math's class. Please please please please, if anyone has a good career advice or any solution to bypass this and get into a career that is rewarding and deserves my handwork, i will appreciate it. I've had no zeal to move on with life anymore because of am very ambitious, good person and hardworking. I wanted to plead to my fellow humans for help and that's all i have before i make my next decision!