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2,750 likes, 97 comments - candy.courn on September 8, 2023: "small talk is my worst enemy!!! 😤 it’s such a weird thing being perceived as the ✨shy intr..."
![courn 안 on Instagram: "small talk is my worst enemy!!! 😤
it’s such a weird thing being perceived as the ✨shy introvert✨ my whole life because I’ve never felt shy 😅…just at a loss of the right words in difficult conversations, struggling to read in between the lines, not understanding when I should speak up, and being overwhelmed by new environments…but I’m LOUD, joyful, and so boisterous once you get to know me! And I’ve found such a similar experience for so many neurodivergent folks - are we shy? Or are we just struggling to conform to neurotypical communication standards? 🤔
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#socialanxiety #communication #communicationskills #hyperfixation #specialinterest #autismawareness #autism #autisticadults #neurodivergent #unmaskingautism #actuallyautistic #autismawareness #latediagnosedautistic #disabilityawareness #audhd"](https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/ee2ee54b-fd08-4a28-8382-0daffbd31975.jpeg?format=webp&thumbnail=256)
Then they probably need some attention fr. Like Professional attention. Some need is not being met
Thanks so much
I'm interested in batteries/energy storage science and want to know who's the big players in R&D big picture stuff, so yeah cars included but that's not like my specific interest.
Not sure how to word this.. But who should I be following in terms of battery/energy storage research and development companies? I'm less interested in start ups and more interested in bigger companies who are investing heavily in R&D
Most of what I've seen sounds like Libertarians are actually anarchists who've been misinformed by the dominant culture about what anarchism really is.
What would you say is the reason you identify with libertarianism over anarchism?
I'm sure that's definitely part of it!
Hmmm interesting idea
Yes to stages!! If I try to do the thing immediately I will get lost in an inception of side quests. So I have tables in every room dedicated to "things that need to go in another place". Then when I'm going there, maybe I'll remember to grab one of them 😅
Yes to multiples of things in each room/my car!! Off the top of my head I can think of: phone chargers, cups of pens and scissors, fly swatter, fans, Chapstick, hair ties. If I have to move it, Ive lost it
I don't know why you want to fight about this
Blue blood from a horseshoe crab yes. Blue crabs are also a thing and horseshoe crabs are always referred to with the word horseshoe in front. So calling them just crabs with the word blue in front is a poor choice if one cares about communication.
Horseshoe crabs not blue crabs
Where do you keep them? How do you ensure you put them away on the proper place?
69K likes, 1,432 comments - alyssa.zing on May 25, 2023: "Literally what even are the neurotypicals doing - good communication seems to me like saying what..."
![Alyssa on Instagram: "Literally what even are the neurotypicals doing - good communication seems to me like saying what you mean, right? 😅
Original: @venusfrogtrap
Transcript below for second half of video (I'm sorry I forgot to add captions!!)
So the other day at work at one of my many jobs (#adhd) I had a feedback session, and they told me my communication wasn’t clear (which I don’t think I’ve ever been told before). And the example they used was that I asked “what is so-and-so’s job?”. And she said, “I knew exactly what you meant — I knew that you meant she’s not pulling her weight, why is she on the team, and why hadn’t we fired her yet.” And I was like, hold up! I asked what her job was because I didn’t know what her job was. And I wanted you to tell me what her job was. And she said, that wasn’t clear, and you should give more context when you ask a question. So I was like, ok — I don’t know what her job is… What is her job?
#audhd #actuallyautistic #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #feedback #adhdwork #healthycommunication"](https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/pictrs/image/3762f1b7-dbdb-4fab-a059-2a93db637022.jpeg?format=webp&thumbnail=256)
Instagram reel transcript: "So you know how autistic people just talk and we literally mean like exactly what we say?"
"So like I realized that when I'm talking to a neurotypical person, even when I'm saying exactly what I'm saying, they're looking for like, the meeting underneath it, which is nothing."
"So the other day at work...I had a feedback session and one of the things they told me was that my communication wasn't clear... And their example was I asked 'What is so-and-so's job?' And she said, 'I knew exactly what you meant. I knew that you meant, 'She's not pulling her weight. Why is she on the team? Why haven't you fired her yet?"
"And I was like, hold up. I asked about her job was because I didn't know what her job was and I wanted you to tell me what her job was. And she was like, 'Oh. Well, that wasn't clear and you should really give more context when you ask a question.' And I was like, 'Okay..?? so...'I don't know what her job is...What is.. her.. job?"
Can you talk about the process of you remembering to put the bracelets on? How does that work?
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Today's new accommodation is a set of (crappy) shelves by my key hook next to the door so I can put stuff that needs to go to the car.
What's your new accommodation?
Totally. What do you think we should call it?
Wow thank you
Since realizing I'm autistic I have had a few big areas of skill regression that have really concerned me. Mainly sensory sensitivity leading to overstimulation, and just total exhaustion after any kind of social activity leading to a deep sense of need to be alone for a long time, like many many days in order to recover.
I think about this a lot about what it means because I used to mask everything so much that I could go all school semester passing as a normal human, just quirky. Then during break I would get sick and fall apart like my body was just waiting for permission to take a break.
Summers were always a time of much deeper depression and I think about it now as burnout. But I always pulled myself back together to perform the requisite behaviors.
Now I have given myself permission to give myself accommodations with regards to sensory overload and recovery after socializing, I recognize it better and understand more what I'm feeling. But that makes it seem like it's there * more *
22K likes, 80 comments - shopvsthevoid on June 12, 2023: "It’s been a wild ride, but a lot of good has come from it. (Even if I am now clumsier, easier ..."
![Katie Bowen (commodified) on Instagram: "It’s been a wild ride, but a lot of good has come from it.
(Even if I am now clumsier, easier to overstimulate/overwhelm, and less socially aware than before!✨)
#latediagnosedautistic #autisminwomen #formergiftedkid #makinglemonadeoutoflemons #undiagnosedautism #cptsd #busybrained #habitualinstigator"](https://lemdro.id/pictrs/image/738ec6fc-741a-4ff9-b64e-b07c524e2366.jpeg?format=webp&thumbnail=256)
Link to an Instagram reel Audio "I will grow under any conditions" Text "Me before I unmasked, working myself to what looks like irreversible ASD burnout"
Audio "I'm allergic to tap water" Text "Me after unmasking and learning how real skill regression is"
God damnit there was supposed to be a freaking picture lol
I finished installing the flooring in my laundry room instead of proofreading a report that is painfully boring.
My problem with this is that while I don't like lying I also really don't want to talk about my personal problems with someone I'm not intimately close to. So honestly, I would prefer if people who aren't close to me don't ask the question in the first place.
Like I'm not going to tell you that I'm having mental health issues this week and I'm about to lose my shit because everything feels overwhelming and I'm not sure it's worth it anymore. So no I'm not really "getting through it" right now. But it also is going to be very challenging for me to lie to you right now also.
So maybe don't presume that we have the right to that information in the first place and just say something in greeting that doesn't require someone to divulge, honestly or not, private information about themselves.
I'm going to try to implement a "Hi, hope you're having a nice day" instead of how are you to people I'm not close with in practicing this.
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Image text: @agnieszkasshoes: "Part of what makes small talk so utterly debilitating for many of us who are neurodivergent is that having to smile and lie in answer to questions like, "how are you?" is exhausting to do even once, and society makes us do it countless times a day."
@LuckyHarmsGG: "It's not just the lie, it's the energy it takes to suppress the impulse to answer honestly, analyze whether the other person wants the truth, realize they almost certainly don't, and then have to make the DECISION to lie, every single time. Over and over. Decision fatigue is real"
@agnieszkasshoes: "Yes! The constant calculations are utterly exhausting - and all under the pressure of knowing that if you get it "wrong" you will be judged for it!"
My addition: For me, in addition to this, more specifically it's the energy to pull up that info and analyze how I am. Like I don't know the answer to that question and that's why it's so annoying. Now I need to analyze my day, decide what parts mean what to me and weigh the average basically, and then decide if that's appropriate to share/if the person really wants to hear the truth of that, then pull up my files of pre-prepared phrases for the question that fits most closely with the truth since not answering truthfully is close to impossible for me.
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I just spent way too much time tracking down how to report a scam on Amazon to Amazon and the FTC and then reporting it and writing a review to tell people how to report it for a $6 can of cat food that I personally did not order ever. 🥴😅💀✊😂😂😂
I've had this question in my brain for weeks and I don't know where to put it. I guess I chose here because maybe someone else has had this same question and found answers. Maybe it's a stupid question actually.
But what is it like to be Neurotypical?
I am not confident I have known a single Neurotypical person, at least not well. They are apparently the vast majority of people, but I think everyone I've ever been close to was ND. As a late diagnosed AuDHD person, I find myself now analyzing every human I interact with trying to figure out how they are different than me, or how they are similar. I feel like I see the ghost of Neurodivergence in everyone and can't recognize neurotypicality when I see it.
What are the signs and symptoms of neurotypicality?
Reading is hard. I often want articles and PDFs for work to be read aloud while I'm doing something else. Anyone have any Android apps for this?
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I'm feeling really excited and hopeful and nervous. I found an awesome doctor who is not part of some huge corporate medical conglomerate, is LGBTIQ+ safe and is relatively knowledgeable and accepting of Neurodivergence! I could cry. Only an hour away from me (lolsob) but is open to telehealth if a physical exam is not necessary.
When I asked if he was familiar with Guanfacine he said yes all casually(!). I forgot to pick it up on my way home so I'm going to wait and take it tonight. I'm nervous but I've been trying to get this for months now so I'm just really hopeful it can help me.
For those unfamiliar, Guanfacine was originally developed in the 80s as a blood pressure medication but is approved by the FDA to supplement stimulant medication in support of ADHD. It was found to help with anxiety, RSD, irritability/anger and insomnia. Even inattention and impulsivity. Common side effects are sleepiness/fatigue, headaches, dry mouth, but generally get better as you get used to the medication.
It will take several weeks to fully build up and feel the full effects, so I'll edit this post with the results in the coming weeks.
I'm paying for the low deductible insurance at my company (higher cost, supposed to be better benefits). I made an appointment for diagnostic assessment at the beginning of the year, their next available appointment was SEPTEMBER 30. They called me yesterday with the estimated cost to me after insurance (I mean nice that they do that but you'll see why...) It's going to cost me $800.
Yeah ok. Guess I'll just remain self-diagnosed.
I'm paying for the low deductible insurance at my company (higher cost, supposed to be better benefits). I made an appointment for diagnostic assessment at the beginning of the year, their next available appointment was SEPTEMBER 30. They called me yesterday with the estimated cost to me after insurance (I mean nice that they do that but you'll see why...) It's going to cost me $800.
Yeah ok. Guess I'll just remain self-diagnosed.
852K likes, 6,009 comments - wangbass on July 13, 2023: "What a rainy day..☔️ #mariahcarey #fantasy #rain #rainy #☔️ #비 #비오는날 #비오�..."
![박승민 on Instagram: "What a rainy day..☔️
#mariahcarey #fantasy #rain #rainy #☔️
#비 #비오는날 #비오는 #비오는날☔️
#crazy #dance #우산 #umbrella"](https://sh.itjust.works/pictrs/image/fa241360-6e19-4c50-8725-f2acfedf018b.webp?format=webp&thumbnail=256)
My lofi isn't cutting it today, but my podcast is pulling too much of my attention so I can't think on my work. I need that sweet spot of interesting enough to quiet my mind but boring enough that I can ignore it and think on my work. Gonna look for a history documentary on Carthage or smth
I need to eat something or there will be Consequences™ but the Good Foods© are now Bad. 😭 Safe food limbo is my deepest fear