How do you react to the phrase we all hate "can you finish now?"
How do you react to the phrase we all hate "can you finish now?"
It's not often but I hear this occasionally from my partner. She is not in a rush to do something else, she's just had enough of getting fucked.
She doesn't seem to realize that the negative feelings of that phrase actually inhibit you from cumming.
A better line would be, "I'm feeling a bit dry. Would you mind releasing your load into me now?"
Now that phrase would trigger a quick finish
My first girlfriend would say "are you done?" "Do you have a lot left?"
Had a few partners since and I don't remember any of them saying anything like that. If my partner treats sex like a chore then I'm not sure if we are compatible.
It might not be that. My wife used to say stuff like that, but that's because after ~10-15m she starts to get sore. Basically she's asking me to hurry up while she's still enjoying it.
She does phrase it better now, saying things like, "I want you to cum for me," or, "I want you to fill me up," which does help mentally.
"Fill me with your cum" or "give it to me" usually make me come instantly after some fucking.
Your partner may reconsider her choice of words. It may even be hotter for her if she realises how easily she can make you cum.
Have fun, both of you ;)
"I want you to cum, baby" in a sexy desperate voice would work.
If she's just like, "are you done?" then I'll stop and go jack off. I can't enjoy sex if they're not into it.
Have you told her how that phrasing affects you? She can't change what she says if she doesn't know it bothers you.
Also, have you talked to her about why she wants things to finish up? Being done fucking could be for several different reasons, and some of those could be addressed so she doesn't want it to stop.
For my wife it's because she gets sore if we go a while, and wants to finish before things start hurting, so I know it's time to grab the vibe to push her over the edge (something like 80% of women struggle to orgasm from penetration alone).
If my wife ever said that to me I would stop ask if she was getting sore/dry and that I could just jerk off if she didn't want to continue. I'd offer to use a toy on her if she still wanted to get off.
I honestly can't imagine saying that, like that. Seems counterproductive if trying to get him to finish. I will ask sometimes if we can take a break, do something else for awhile, in what may not be the most sexy way, but not if I was wanting him to get off immediately.
Maybe let her know what she does that gets you off so fast, what it's hard for you to resist; husband says when I am moving and he is still in doggy, that's it, so now I know what to do when I think I don't have much left and also what not to do if I don't want him to stop yet.