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Showerthoughts @lemmy.world

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1y ago

Cheaters are just wannabe singles.

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I think it's the opposite thing. They can't be alone, they crave attention and validation. A desperate need to have someone around.
- I was thinking more in the sense of "doing something that will lead to breaking-up / divorce" and "acting as if you're already single when you're not".
  
  Weeeell most cheaters don't intend to be caught or confess. But I get your point.

I think this is way off base. It's easy to make yourself single.
Cheaters either think they will get away with it, or are lying to themselves about what they are doing.
"My partner won't mind so much."
"Nothing that feels so right could be wrong."
"I'm not the kind of person who cheats, so considering the circumstances, this doesn't really count."
- I think the joke is they want to MAKE themselves single, but also that they ACT like they are single. But yes I'd bet the average cheater is in denial about both sides of this shower thought.

Or wannabe polygamists?
- First step to polyamory is consent.
  
  Hence the wannabe qualifier
  
  If I've learned anything from all those documentaries about cults, it's that the first step to polygamy is identifying a vulnerable population
  
  That’s the difference between polygamy and polyamory

Cheaters tend to be controlling in their relationships. They crave that control, so they don't actually want to be single. They just want all of the power in the relationship.

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