My wife and I have both taken CPR classes together. She has very strict wishes about when I should render aid to her. Basically there has to be a 90% chance of an almost instant full recovery before I'm allowed to help her at all if something goes wrong. She knows the risks and so do I. I'm supposed to give her up so I don't let her down.
I was really readying a polite, "No you should definitely render aid first and ask questions later" lecture until your comment made me read that again...slowly.
Basically there has to be a 90% chance of an almost instant full recovery before I’m allowed to help her at all
Are you able to make the determination, or just haven't taken a CPR class?
I ask because that's a lot of pressure put on you, to try to make that kind of emergency diagnosis, especially if you're not in the medical profession.
There are two things my wife wanted me to know when I started dating her. The first was that she was polyamorous. And the second was that she has always wanted to be dead. That last one has changed over the years she has known me. But the CPR class didn't educate me on the risks of CPR. That I have learned from other sources. I know eventually this will result in cops and lawyers to cause me problems. But she is still very firm on the idea that it should never render aid to her unless it's going to be a quick fix. She cannot stand the idea of being a burden to anyone.