Cybersecurity Founder and CEO blasts her husband on LinkedIn for not doing anything in 2024.

Exactly. His natural predisposition is to be happy and hers is to be miserable. Sadly, her miserable is probably stomping out his happy

Have a friend same kinda deal. Not the cheating thing but is poly so it's a vibe. Grew up poor, got a degree decent job decent pay. The MOMENT she got stable she wanted to go back to school for a doctorate. Student loans, stressing herself out to high hell. Current events got her having mega breakdowns cuz her field is affected. Broke again. The cycle continues

Edit: also bipolar...clearly

It's the literal definition of a humblebrag though. Or at the very least, worded in a bait-ey way to try and get attention from appearing to be controversial. If you strip away the style and fluff from the post, then yes you can read it in the way you're saying. But that controversial-ness is clearly intentional.

At the most charitable, it's a failed attempt at humor. The less charitable read is that the second half of the post is just providing some plausible deniability to her being yet another insufferable Linkedin self-promoter.

Yeah she doesn't speak bad about him for it. She does pose the question at the end to others if it would change their views of people they knew if they didn't want those types of accomplishments though. She doesn't answer if it does for herself necessarily, so there is not really any clear answer. It's pointless to analyse.

That’s the kind of people who constantly change positions, switch projects, get promoted etc. The success of the projects depends on stable people like her husband.

These people in the comments are so fragile.

Lol I have ADHD and Im the same. Love learning something new even when it has no real use to me.

Probably needs a dicking down

I require external validation instead of finding it from within.

I am not on LinkedIn, but from the outside this seems to be the trend there.

Other "grindset" dipshits who confuse overworking and meaningless awards/titles with a personality.

This is who America rewards.

No, we have a system that rewards this behavior and punishes any one who wants to be decent for being a "sucker"

Right? I feel like this is so obviously not about sex & my life is a clear example to that.

For context, I'm a trans woman who works in tech.

Five and a half years ago I was miserable as hell from relying on external validation. I'd never been happy with my birth sex, but I'd stuck it out for years, duct-taping my happiness together with academic or career achievements, working myself to the bone just to achieve some degree of stability at the cost of my mental health, relationships, happiness, sex life, etc.

For all intents and purposes, I was treated by society as male during that era of my life... albeit of the gay sort of feminine and very depressed variety. I also had a laundry list of accomplishments each year and could not fathom being happy with myself unless I collected them all like pokemon.

Sex changes are like the world's most opposite thing to external validation. I went from being a white cis male to... well look at what society thinks of trans women. There have been many many times in the past half-decade in which I felt like I'd jumped off a cliff, that I might lose my career, that I'd struggle harder to get ahead, that I wouldn't be taken seriously anymore.

And some of that was true—I definitely deal with misogyny and transphobia now in a way I never would've before. I do feel I have to perform 2x better than before in order to achieve the same sorts of recognition... and I have to now for some reason look good doing it (whereas before I could basically ignore my body, wallow in dysphoria/depression, and still be given credit).

But... what have I done career-wise during the past 5 years? I've flatlined. Honestly? I "met expectations" for a half-decade straight. No awards, no accolades, just "did that thing and went home." I was too busy both emotionally and practically with a whole freaking sex change outside of work. And nobody has come to eat me, even though at this phase of my life most coworkers don't even know I was once male. Heck, if anything, I look at a lot of my cis female peers and they're having kids which (unfortunately/unfairly) amounts to practically the same thing.

Before my sex change this would have been unthinkable to me. My entire happiness and sense of identity was pinned to my career. And that was was literally THE duct tape on the joke that was my life. The thing I only way I could manage to keep myself male. Literally the biggest lesson career-wise that my sex change has taught me is that it's okay to have eras in your life where your career just vibes for a bit while you short your shit out.

So... I just don't think this is a male vs. female thing. It's a running away from oneself and trying to cope with your misery via external validation thing. It IS true that when you're read as female you DO have to push ahead. Chances are, similar to how I felt I had to alienate myself for my career in order to get to a place where I could afford a sex change, this woman felt she had to do the same in order to establish herself as a woman in tech. The barrier to entry is higher.

But once you're there and established it's like, girl you can chill now, it's gonna be fine if you're fine, maybe with a bit more stability and a bit less pay.

These are the people who are annoying and useless as shit in IT. Most coworkers I’ve had who are constantly getting certifications or attending conferences contribute very little in the way of work or knowledge. The information required to get those certifications goes in one ear and out the other for them. People like that are more interested in clout than anything.

Not to say anyone taking training or certifications is like this, but there is a specific type obsessed with these “markers” that spend the majority of their time chasing certifications and things of that nature.

On the flip side, I have a beast of a coworker who says she doesn’t do anything tech related outside of work to decompress and she’s easily one of our most productive and likable coworkers.

Every thing she lists is fluff.

You're absolutely right. What was the clear cut career accomplishment? What did she contribute? This is a lot of words that don't seem to include any of those accomplishments while shitting on someone who seems to have a rich and fulfilling life when he's not listening to this "everybody clapped" story.

I wonder if people are misinterpreting her post, and think you’ve highlighted the real meat here. It sounds like she’s reflecting on what’s broken with her approach that stops her from being happy without these accomplishments.

Well, my grandpa sure wished he'd got his swimming cert while he drowned.

Oh in THAT case I could collect certificates like flowers too.

Correct. Sadly, conversations about gender inequality is beyond the grasp of most on Lemmy.