Whats your advantage in life?
Whats your advantage in life?
Everyone has one. lets try to recognize and be grateful of what we have!
I'm easily satisfied with life. I have a pretty good job and make pretty good money, good friends, and I have a beautiful wife, and that's all I need. I'm not the ambitious type who needs to keep making more and more money. I don't need the fanciest car or designer clothes. I don't want to be famous, and I don't have anything to prove to strangers. That makes it much easier to be happy, I think.
I'm engaged to my best friend, my future in laws are cool as hell, both my parents are alive and well, and my brothers and I get along really well. I've also got the cutest little nephew and hearing him laugh always makes my day. I might not make a ton of money, but I've got a damn good family and couldn't be more thankful for them
My dad was a union electrician. His medical benefits literally saved my life. You've probably heard how expensive it is to treat type 1 diabetes, well most everything I needed was covered by his benefits, and I did have to deal with a copay at the beginning of the year, but I didn't have anything denied.
I came from an upper middle class family have 2 great parents, and have wonderful extended family near by.
I still have one working hand, and I can walk.
I seem to be pretty good at English, which is definitely a leg up on billions of people.
I’m actively protected, respected, and cared for by my insular community.
I’m skilled with a microphone and can make whole audiences cackle.
These advantages are enough that I needed to be nerfed in some incredibly heinous ways, and yet I still have such an advantage that I’m usually first- or second-ban in the draft.
I'm immune to FOMO and feeling the need to be part of the 'in' crowd.
I was one of the first groups of people to adopt the internet as a user, so I and so many others around with me, all saw the Internet become what it became today. And I'm not impressed a single bit with what's become of it. But we can tell you how long some of the bullshit has gone on for.
I used to have a fair bit of imposter syndrome but now that I've been working with a proper team I've come too accept I have an aptitude for code and logic in general, alongside a fairly good abstract memory.
I'm not the best by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm a little more competent than the average software engineer, enough that it gets noticed.
I also got lucky and scored a job at 17 in the field (with no nepotism involved), not a great one but enough to look good on my resume, and have been working in the industry for just over a decade with no college.
I've had lots of problems in life (late diagnosed neurodiversity), walked out of jobs, changed careers, gone back to uni three times, and had a series of mental breakdowns. But despite all that, because I had a caring family, I knew that the worst that could happen is I'd have to move back in with my parents, which might be. A bit humiliating but would be easy, comfortable and safe.
This security allowed me to spend two decades fucking up until I got the right diagnosis, medication and a satisfying professional career. I'm extremely conscious that if I'd not had love and support I'd have ended up an unemployed alcoholic, or dead. I have so much respect for people fighting through life on hard mode, but I'm also so glad I happened to get the lucky draw.
Similarly, being a normal looking white guy is an amazing superpower. Although "invisible disabilities" absolutely have their own challenges, the fact that my problems aren't easily spotted means that despite being repeatedly terrible at a wide variety of jobs, and a general screw up, I have gotten every job I've interviewed for, often massively beyond my actual skills and expertise. And it's not just the external appearance, the confidence I grew up with from being white, male, straight passing, and middle class, has meant that people just believe stuff when I say it, and take me seriously even if I don't really know much about whatever we're discussing.
Obviously there's some small amount of individual traits and whole lot of luck (you can still lose a game in easy mode, and sadly I know folks who have) but it so obvious I'm playing with a stacked deck compared with most of the world, that it boggles my mind that people try and deny their 'privilege'.
I was born in People's Republic of China, so I understand Cantonese, Mandarin, can read many simplified characters, and some traditional characters. Not much tho, I think I only know like up to Grade 1-2 proficiency. But if I go relearn it and perfect it, I could potentially be a translator/interpretor or a diplomat. But nah, I'm too lazy, I'l just stick with English cuz I'm too lazy to learn more Chinese, and also I'm not planning on ever stepping foot in CCP territory again.
But if y'all need some translation, and google translate doesn't work, you can always @ me. 😉
I have relatively high intelligence, have a job that allows me to work at my own pace and combine it with study and other activities, I have good friends and a supportive, caring, active and housewifely partner, my mother is alive and well.
Generally, a good set for a fulfilling life :)
I'm white and can pass as a straight man if I try hard enough.
It's a good attitude to have, to focus on what you have.
I read a book about a holocaust survivor and how little life was worth in the camps. Now I feel genuinely grateful for a warm bed and no wars around here.
When I was in grade school we had a self-directed math program called Individually Prescribed Instruction or IPI. In the program you would take a pre-test and based on the results do a set of exercises. Then you took a post-test to close out that section. What I realized is that since the exercises are self directed we had unsupervised access to the exercises and the solutions. When given the pre-tests I would look up examples in the exercises with the solutions to figure out how to do the questions. I then proceeded to speed run the whole IPI curriculum. This gave me a leg up in math. I proceeded to get a 100% on my Algebra regents and just generally crush it in math. Ended up getting a uni degree in math and physics. This opened many doors for me later in life.
Though I'm disadvantaged in a lot of ways, I have a really good job with a solid team and a fantastic wage structure. It's also union and wfh. Super lucky and grateful.
I can walk.
I’m not from a native english speaking country, but my parents taught us siblings english first before we learned the local language. There were some minor issues (i.e. other kids won’t talk/play with us because we couldn’t converse well), but it paid off in the long run because we are generally more fluent than the average person from our country, and we have neutral accents when speaking english. It helped a lot working in the corporate world.
I have known some wonderful people who have helped me to grow into a person I don't entirely hate. Most of the time, I'm depressed, but I feel privileged to know people who remind me of things that are worth fighting for.
Eventually I get to die and my suffering will end.
Wicked smaht. And generally good genes - no family illnesses or anything.
Having travelled a lot, I feel I was born into what I consider a great country just as it was starting to pull itself out of poverty. Pure chance.
I got a good education and college was essentially free.
I have a lot of kids and work really hard at being a good dad so I am surrounded by love. I am very lucky that I am married twenty years (some better than others) to someone who still loves me and who I still love. Some days that love is all that keeps me going because fuck me I am exhausted haha.
I feel uncomfortable typing all that out but it's a good exercise in thankfulness so thank you.
Absolute, fanatical concentration.
A lot of people saying white + male, I'm not white but I'm light skinned in a country where colourism is a social plague, random people literally call me "whitey" and "blondy" despite me literally having a black mother, when I tell them I'm not white they reply "yes, you are", and I'm like "OK, mfer, apparently you know better than me to what ethnic group I belong". Can't say I haven't benefited from it, the police has almost never given me shit (they did once to be exact). I'm also a heterosexual cis man, and even tho I was born and raised in the poorest district of a big city my father always told me to cultivate my intellect, so I learned multiple languages (English being one of those), went to community college, taught myself software development, etc. I didn't have the biggest head start in life, but compared to my friends in the hood, and women and immigrants across the whole country I simply cannot complain.
White + was lucky to get a good job early on + parents had enough capital in their home to guarantor for my home loan at 28.
Born in Europe, Not an immigrant, financially stable, free education, not part of any significant minority
i live on one of the richest, most developed countries in the world with a good social system and universal healthcare and retirement.
I am helping many needy peoples.
Being born in our times.
hopeless optimist
I've experienced both extremes of fiscal class: inherited wealth and opportunity as well as prison and homelessness. It's a double edged sword, a great curse and advantage concurrently.
20-something English-speaking cis hetero white American male, stable supportive family I keep strong ties with, four-year university STEM degree, gainfully employed at a low-stress job full of people I like that affords a comfortable, reasonably above modest lifestyle, no outstanding debts, no severe health issues or crippling disibilities.
I've certainly won more than my fair share of cosmic lotteries, all things considered.
Only thing I guess I'm missing is a partner, which is entirely due to my own lack of effort. So far sailing solo hasn't bothered me any. But I do occasionally daydream about what I might be missing out on...
Everyone I know owns a business, or is a landlord
I'm white, my family is middle-ish class, I don't pay rent.
I'm seriously lucky, to the point it has been a running joke among my friend group!
It doesn't manifest itself as "everytime I gamble, I win", but more subtly. Finding dollar bills on the ground, having unexpected discounts, getting a dream job, ...
Other than randomly being born in a western democracy ranking high on living standard, happiness etc.
I was a good boy and put in the effort in school. I get paid accordingly and have a relatively stress free job.
I was lucky to have money to invest at the right time when the markets crashed in 2008 and 2020, when stocks could be had at a 90% discount. As a result I was able to pay off my student loans and put a down payment on my residence with the profits, just by being willing to wait a few years for the market to recover.
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