me dying and my pets experiencing a slow and excruciating death by dehydration and starvation; meowing and barking the entire time for help while everyone ignores the nuisance until it finally stops for good.
i never setup automatic rent payments in the hopes that the eviction process will happen soon enough so at least it get someone's attention before they pass so terribly.
You know some people may call you crazy for that but in the grand scheme of things that is pretty smart what you do with the payments, and if that’s the thing that scares you and thats your way to get a piece of mind then good on you.
i hear odd more often than crazy because my neurodivergence makes human relationships difficult but people will engage since i'm on the part of the spectrum that makes me seem outwardly "normal"; so my pets are my entire social circle and the most important thing in my life. it doesn't matter to me if people think me crazy for it because i know i literally will go crazy without my pets.
i'm also pretty sure that relying on this almost dystopian rental market to continue dystopifying is not a good idea given multitudes of caveats in each jurisdiction; but i'm equally sure that owning a home would guarantee the death sentence i described for my pets.
It's "peace of mind." Doesn't that make more sense?
I personally hate these fucking data collecting things, but have you thought about getting a smartwatch? It think it can inform medical services if something happens to you and if you have configured it that way.
i hate them too, but i hadn't considered this and it's brilliant; thank you!
i'm not a fan of the data collection either; but the bigger reason why i haven't gotten one is because i'm a klutz that has accidentally destroyed every single dumb watch i've ever had while wearing it.
i know that they make rugged smartphones and i wonder now if they make rugged smart watches. i'm equally a klutz with smartphones, so i've had rugged phones before and I learned that they're usually a few generations behind their ordinary counterparts in terms of features/capabilities so i'll need to find one that's up to date enough and reliable enough (all of the rugged phones had quirks/shortcomings) to inform medical services.
i don't know where to start; but this is my new priority project.
Well, I was afraid that I could do nothing to quell a home invasion, which not only was my area having an uptick in but my best friend's house (and the friend) fell victim to, pistol whipped him and everything we had to glue his scalp back together.
Then I bought a gun. I already knew how to use them because "Uncle," so I didn't have to learn how, which was a plus, just had to learn the laws and practice technique. Now I'm not so scared of home invasions, I can defend myself against them, and I've since moved out of the hood which was another huge bonus, but they still happen here too.
Luckily so far the only time I ever did have to use it I was in a walmart parking lot, not home, and the guy with a knife pointed at us turned and left when he saw me grab it, not a shot fired thank "Bob."
Hey at least you only had to use it once, hopefully that’s the last time you have to use it.
And I suppose that’s the best defence in the event of a home invasion taking place.
Also sorry to hear about what happened to your friend.
I sure as hell hope so! I never want to have to harm anyone, but I also don't want anyone to harm me or my loved ones lol.
Unfortunately it is, the cops are slow around here, they can only show up after the event (unless they're the ones doing the crime lol), and the criminals (violent ones, not like retail theft, ykwim) also have their own weapons be they guns, knives, crowbars, etc.
Thanks, though he's fine now! This was a while ago, he's also moved and armed now too, and his head healed (but it kinda healed around the glue lol, so that was a problem for a while.) He's doing good these days!
Humans. The only thing I'm scared of in this life are other humans.
The Wet Bandits
That I will scream in my sleep and have nobody to wake me up, and it’ll be embarrassing at minimum and maybe get the cops called at worst.
The screaming part isn’t hypothetical, it happens pretty regularly.
My wife has woken me up several times because I was saying "no no no no no no" in my sleep. It's not loud enough to disturb anyone not in the room and I live in a pretty rural area anyway, so I've wondered in the past whether I did that with any regularity before I shared a bed with anyone.
Medical emergency
I once had a medical emergency when home alone, I was making a sandwich and was cutting ham when the knife slipped and nearly cut the end of my finger off. Luckily I had my phone and was able to call for some help.
Best thing to do imo is have your phone nearby you when home alone.
Real answer, in college the apartment I was living in was broken into by a neighbor and attacked my roommate. When I heard noise coming from his room I went to go check on him and the attacker turned on me and started to attack me. My injuries were far less severe from my roommate’s. Ever since then I can’t fall asleep unless I check all the doors to make sure they are locked even if I know it’s locked I’ll double check it before laying down for the night. At times when I’m alone in the house I can still get to sleep but it’s a restless sleep because of how uneasy I feel about being alone in a house at night. That shit sucks to never feel fully safe in your own home.
Ahhh shoot, I’m sorry you had to deal with that, you know maybe leaving a light on at night or buying something like a doorbell cam. Might help.
Not that I’m actually scared to be alone, but my biggest concern is home invasion.
Where the hell do you live? I live in a pretty large city, Manchester, and I’ve never been concerned with random attacks of violence.
I guess I used the wrong term. Not "concern", rather "fear". The risk is relatively low in my neighborhood, it's just a fear I have as someone living in a SFH for the first time. I've lived in dense housing most of my life and I felt more "safe" being in close vicinity to other people.
I can't believe no one said the things under the bed, or the things looking in through the window. On the rare occasion that I'm home alone I still jump several feet to get into bed. Yes I'm too old for this but it's the truth.
I bet you turn the lights off and take 3 steps at a time up the stairs to stop the shadow person from catching you. /s
Also someone looking in the window??
I mean, there's not anyone outside the window. But the idea that something could be out there without my knowing? It's a feeling of not being secure and makes me jumpy.
Nothing. I like to be home alone.
But of course I like it even better if my partner is here with me.
I’m afraid that someone will break into my house. It’s a completely irrational fear but that knowledge has never helped me. I panic from each weird sound I hear when I’m alone while if someone else is in the house I don’t worry and just assume the sound comes from them. I barely have any expensive items so I’m mostly just scared of the possibility of a physical confrontation. I think I developed this fear from watching too many detective shows as a child.
Hey it happens, I think our senses are more heightened when we are alone and it’s just us in a quiet house. I suggest maybe investing in a couple of security cameras for outside. Might not make the fear fully go away but it’s a peace of mind knowing you can always check.
All the biking I’m not doing. If no one is home, my obligations are fewer so I should go for a bike ride.
That I'll get food lodged in my throat and my survival will be determined by how well I can thrust myself onto the back side of a chair before I pass out. A tough ask when you're short.
Well if shortness is the issue then try propping a chair against the wall so it’s tipped or tipping it in general so the top is closer to your stomach. Alternatively use the table.
I'm alone so infrequently I usually enjoy it. But I have anxiety so if I'm having a panic attack, all worries are on the table and mostly center around "but what if my husband or sister just never come back???"
Maybe not a genuine fear but as a kid when I imagined what might be lurking in the dark it was aliens. On a farm out in the country, in the house at night with curtains open you'd just see darkness outside and the starry sky. Sometimes I'd see that green reflective glow of animal eyes in the dark or something moving out in the fields. Walking through the farm at night the space beyond the doors of the big shed loomed dark and ominous. Who's to say there aren't watchful eyes of intelligent creatures, curious and malicious, ready to grab you at any moment.
