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Soooooo I’m definitely coming out at work after over 2 years of being in the closet. Out on medical leave right now and I’m pretty nervous to do it, should I just send an email? Or something? Change my picture on slack and show up in a dress? Idk haha
- Why not both an email and picture change?
  Always good to see you around, Jenniferrr!
  
  I think you’re right! I’m thinking I’ll also just have a sit down with all my close coworkers and give them the run down haah
- Congrats! Obviously, this will very between workplaces, but I scheduled a meeting with my boss, the institute director and HR (note that I work in academia) where I discussed my plans for social transition/asked questions about policies. I then showed up to the weekly social hour presenting full femme with a pride pins and pronoun buttons, and then I put some pride stickers up on my cube.
  Idk how well it worked as no one other than the folks I came out to personally have brought it up, but there hasn't been any transphobic actions/behaviors that I have perceived at least.
  
  Nice!! That all sounds like a good idea tbh. Honestly I can’t tell if this will be a surprise to anyone though because I have been transitioning for a year and a half, all of which I’ve been working at this job… I was basically just planning on not wearing a hoodie and showing up in a women’s t shirt basically lol. My job is very casual so it feels weird for me to come in in a dress or something :/ idk why this part is so stressful I have been completely out in every other facet of my life for a year now
  
  I was transitioning at work as well, but also wearing makeup frequently and some alt/punk tinged fashion so I don't think it should have been a complete shock. For my full femme outfit, I just wore a bright women's v-neck and a padded bra along with a full face of makeup, not a dress or a skirt (I have to wear pants for my job since I work in a lab).

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