If she’s been like this before she underwent all this, then she was already treating you very badly and recent events only made it worse. I’m not any kind of doctor so I won’t throw around diagnoses, but I recognize these behaviors from other people describing what they’ve experienced from people who were emotionally and physically abusing them. I’ve also experienced some myself from being emotionally abused and neglected.

This sounds like abuse to me. You are being abused and manipulated maliciously and therapy can help you get through this. I was diagnosed with cPTSD, complex post traumatic stress disorder, which is PTSD that happens after long term trauma (especially in childhood, which is mine). Years with an abusive partner could definitely affect you this way.

You deserve a life of happiness. The sooner you get into therapy, the sooner you can get to happiness, or at least away from abuse. You are not going to change her.

Not who you’re replying to, but definitely. I manage several Instagram accounts that aren’t my personal accounts and the algorithm feeds me things I’d expect in my personal while I’m in one of the others. One of them I’m only logged into so it’s not as much, but the other is attached to me more because I created it, I guess, and even though I’ve curated a much different following list, and do entirely different things on that account, it still shows me more personal things.

I went through menopause just a few years ago. It threw everything into an upheaval. Thank goodness I didn’t have a partner to be like this to, but therapy definitely helped. She is absolutely going through a lot, physically and mentally, and will be for years. I still have hot flash episodes for weeks at a time and it’s always different.

Your feelings are valid. You have every right to them. Just because someone is going through chemical changes in their body doesn’t mean they can abuse you like this. Telling you that you have no right to your feelings is emotional abuse and she has no right to do that to you. You both need help to get through this, whether separate or together, but this is all new and for you to be told to sit down and shut up is just heartbreaking. Everything happening to her is also happening to you because it seems to me that she’s taking it all out on you and yeah, that affects you.

You are not dumb or stupid. You are caring and sympathetic to what she’s going through, and she reacts to this with hostility and arrogance. I can’t imagine anyone is obligated to put up with that from anyone, for any reason. It might change in time, but not if she never acknowledges the validity of your feelings and your right to have them.

I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

Commenting from Lemmy.world where I saw it in my feed. Not sure if that’s helpful.

Yeah I figured it was probably more trouble than it was worth. It hadn’t occurred to me either, I was very surprised to see it. You could maybe blur anything that has nsfw in the community name or in the url, but meh, I more wanted to throw this out there than anything. :)

The thing is, even with blurring and not showing nsfw, that preview image was not blurred. I understand about account settings not all being available.

Thank you for all your hard work on this app! 💙

This was the answer, thank you. I guess I’m used to that option being “hide nsfw content”, which I don’t ever select, I’d rather it be there but blurred.

Again, thanks!

No, but great idea

I never use the web, only Arctic. I opened the site on my phone browser and see this: . Odder and odder.

Odd. Thanks for sharing, here’s what I see. They’re not visible in my profile

And they’re not visible in the community

This is a portulaca, you can tell by the little seed pods that develop after the flower petals wilt and drop off. They can change color depending on sunlight and how much water they’re getting. I would say the as long as they’re not shriveling they’re probably fine. This one may prefer the partial shade, and make sure the water can drain.

Birkin bags, not Birkenstocks.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birkin_bag

I’ve seen both. The first time, the colors changed as I was looking at it. That was freaky

In case you haven’t come back to the post, the story is by Robert Heinlein.

This is a great one: https://youtu.be/hLHi3wiSuWc?si=jIksepNQ6Wh-OZHe

Add It Up by the Violent Femmes

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He also wrote Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon is a Harsh Mistress. Taken all together, these three works and all the rest of his bibliography, saying he had an authoritarian streak is as valid as saying he had a hippie streak or a libertarian streak.

His writing asks questions, he doesn’t preach. Some of his characters preach, but that isn’t necessarily him speaking. It’s him asking questions and spurring discussion.

They probably look for edits after a certain amount of time has passed from the original comment or post. It wouldn’t matter how many edits you make after that initial time period. They’d just revert back to the one before the long time period, if it exists. That’s how I’d do it, anyway.

I heard it called that back around 1985.