There's actually a term for that phenomenon: the Preparedness Paradox.

I've noticed it as well. I think when we were on 19.3, it was running pretty well, but after upgrading to 19.4 and 19.5 it's been fairly slow, and has gone out for a few minutes at a time (I'm on Voyager, for reference).

I haven't been on other instances enough to say if its a widespread thing, though.

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I'd have to say Nier Automata, as well as the recent remaster of the game that came before it, Nier Replicant (ver 1.22...). Both are soul-crushing, which is helped by their amazing soundtracks. I definitely recommend them if you're looking for something to make you cry.