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I'm on the fence about the popularity of this opinion, so I'll upvote after I respond.

But you missed out in your data gathering. There are other reasons to make a bed, if not daily, at least regularly.

First, my bonafides. Twenty years as a nurse's assistant. That meant making beds and taking care of the people in them was my responsibility.

As such, I not only had to wonder if it was more than just an optics thing, but make sure that if it wasn't, I was following best practices. See, if there were reasons to do it beyond those you listed, it would shift priorities, as well as maybe changing when and how I did the job.

Comfort is only part of it, though it isz a factor when a person can't shift their own linens.

See, those folds of fabric can, and do, apply pressure to skin differently than flat sections. So remaking a patient's bed becomes a necessity. Matter of fact, it becomes necessary to check their linens while performing care, though that's tangential.

Secondary to that is dislodging anything on the sheets. This includes, but is not limited to, particles of dirt, dead skin, lint, items dropped previous to the bed check, and more. That's the factor that matters most for people that can make their own beds. You don't really realize how much stuff is on the sheets just from one night of use unless you make beds regularly.

There's a sub-reason to that as well. Evaluation. While a lot of people do change sheets on a schedule, often timed with laundry day or days, there may be need to change sheets in between times. No way to be aware of that necessity if it's from an unknown cause unless you check the sheets. And there's no better way to check them than the process of making a bed. Smoothing things out allows to to both visually and tactilely examine the condition of the sheets.

Now, I can almost guarantee someone reading this is thinking "but I don't do anything nasty in my sheets". Yes, you do. Promise. Everyone does, they just don't know it. Even climbing in fresh out of the shower and not moving after, you're leaving stuff behind when you climb out again. May take longer to build up, but it's there.

All those little bits you leave behind are food. Food for something. Mites, bacteria, fungi, whatever. So no matter how clean you are, making your bed at least decreases what's left behind.

Making a bed properly does take time. Not a whole lot, and practice makes it faster, but it's more than just throwing the top sheets back in place.

So, I would encourage folks to take the time to at least smooth their sheets out a little before they climb in, if nothing else.

Just for the hell of it, I don't know about OP, but I don't even know how to.

I went to the relevant linked section and couldn't find a way to raise an issue directly. I'm going to try again, and if I succeed I'll return here and make a top level comment for anyone scrolling by and wondering. I've never tried to do this before, so I'll see how it goes.

Edit: aha!

You have to go to the issues page and select the "new issue" button, where you'll be directed to log in to github.

Which, for me, means I'm finished trying. No desire whatsoever to have another login for a one time thing. If I ever manage to learn enough code to do anything like this often enough, I'd do it, but it just isn't worth it to satisfy my curiosity about the process.

Well, in terms of relative commonness, it's on the rarish side as a percentage. Under 10% of hrt recipients reported something akin to a period.

Since there's people that home brew their regimen and therefore don't necessarily get tracked, the number can't be really precise.

Thing is, it tends to show up more similar to premenstrual issues than those that arise during menstruation. But exclusively so, but that's where the symptoms tend to point. The difference between those two phases aren't exactly massive though.

It's fairly difficult to find good studies that aren't paywalled and/or can be snagged in other ways, and those that I've seen didn't really do a good job of things imo.

That being said, breast tenderness and intestinal/digestive issues seem to be the most common body perceived issues, as in things you feel physically. Mood instability is the biggest mental presentation. However, three are trans women that report an increase in dysphoria during their cycle, so be aware of it as a possibility.

There are people that report symptom that shouldn't be present as they're directly related to the presence of a uterus, predominantly cramping that isn't intestinal in the subjective perception or effects. There's no full consensus if there's an anatomical reason for it, or if it's psychogenic, but it does happen.

Having just freshly scanned for any updated info, I'd say that it's within the realm of possibility for you to have effects occur, particularly within the first year or so. There's enough data out there that it can't be dismissed as some infinitesimal occurrence, but it also isn't anywhere close to a majority having perceptible effects.

People are fucking weird. There's also prudes and morons that assume any contact at all has to be some kind of horror.

But we're supposed to teach our kids how to clean and manage their bodies. That's the job; we do it for them when they're too young to do it themselves, or if something temporarily/permanently disables them from doing so.

It isn't weird to help with genital care under those circumstances either. You gotta teach kids how to wash their junk, and if they want/need to change their pubic hair, it's part of the job to discuss it, decide if it's the right choice at that point, and if the mutually agreed answer is yes, to teach them how not to screw up.

For real, who else is supposed to? You gonna hire a nurse or nurse's assistant to teach them? That's weird, and there aren't any specialists in aesthetics that are going to agree to it in most circumstances when the kid is under the local age of consent. Too much risk.

And even that assumes that the kid is going to be okay with a stranger helping them with their genitals. Not every kid would be. For me, there's no way I'm going to have a total stranger fiddling with my kid's junk for non medical reasons, even if the kid was alright with it.

You did the job, end of story.

Better? Nah, not really. Just another point of data

This is all you fucking do. These shitty little comments that are supposed to look like irony, but are empty and mindless.

What's the deal? Why have you put in that much time on lemmy making essentially the same comment over and over again? Like, often enough that I don't even have to look at the user name when there's a comment like this, it's going to be you.

There has to be a reason behind it, some kind of thing in your head that makes you think it's a beneficial hobby, so what is it? Help a motherfucker out, I don't like blocking people unless there's no other choice, so show me the human behind the blathering.

Well, I don't miss the kiddie porn being dropped into chat rooms and forums randomly like could happen back in the day. But I like having a decent chance of finding whatever product I want/need and a better than zero shot at finding whatever obscure thing I'm interested in on Wikipedia.

There's tradeoffs. But the old net was a lot more fun.

While OP is obviously made up, and definitively loves others of the same gender, that is not a bad metric for compatibility.

If it's your favorite song, ever. Something that just brings you great joy, and the prospective partner isn't at least able to jam with it, the chances of being on the same wavelength about other things get smaller.

I don't really have a favorite song because how the fuck am I going to pick just one. But let's pretend that I managed to and it was Master of Puppets (which would be on the final list no matter how that list got decided). If my lady can't at least smile and throw the horns in solidarity, how the fuck we gonna handle that big a gap in tastes? Not saying it has to be her favorite too, but there's gotta be at least a friendly neutrality or it means our tastes in music are radically different.

If tastes in music are far apart, chances are that other things like movies, tv, books, are almost guaranteed to be similarly apart. That wipes out big chunks of conversation and leisure time. And, how the fuck you gonna handle road trips? Stuck in a car with music you can't at least tap a foot along with isn't gonna be fun. It's going to be stressful as fuck after an hour or so. Trust me on that one, I've been stuck in a vehicle for work purposes for long trips without realizing exactly how horrible the people I was with were. And I'm one of those people that doesn't entirely reject any actual genre. Even the stuff I avoid, it isn't because of the genre, it's tangential stuff.

But after two hours of shitty contemporary christian bullshit I was ready to strangle someone.

Imagine that, but you hate Taylor Swift, and the date you're with is a swifty. Or, imagine your poor date just can't tolerate death metal, and you're blasting some Behemoth. The fuck? You're doomed. And that's what long term relationships bring: hours in the same place frequently. You gotta be able to find common ground.

So, anon up there making the right choice for the wrong reasons, what with the fictional nature of their same sex lifestyle

I mean, they're idiots, but at least that specific idiot is sticking to her beliefs.

Well, having sat with people of that age bracket when they were sick or dying, when most people drop pretence, I have a different opinion than those already presented.

It isn't necessarily about "simpler times", though some folks that age use the term. And it isn't about racism or sexism either, because it isn't just white folks or men that express the idea.

There is a big dose of nostalgia involved, but you don't see the desire to return to the era of childhood or teen years as much in older or younger generations.

The common thread that makes 50 kids yearn for the era is largely that they lost a sense of their place in the world. The 50 were before vietnam made the big schism it did, before men and women needed to examine their own expectations for themselves, and before the post war wave of optimism faded.

You gotta know, the kids and teens in the fifties, despite the cold war and nuclear bomb drills, had an optimistic world around them. Well, in the "western" world mostly. The good guys won the war, and regardless of what anyone else thinks now, that's what the perception was. To someone growing up then, the prospect of being able to have a career, family, and eventually retirement with relative ease was real.

Again, this isn't just for white men. Black people have expressed to me that despite the awareness there was going to be a fight for equality, the hope of success was strong. Little girls had moms that had worked during the war, and gained the prestige that comes with it, but came back to being moms and wives because they didn't need to work (again this was perception, and that matters more than current ideas about that for this purpose).

That post war generation, the literal boomers, had hope, even the ones that were dirt poor, even some of the black people, and most of the women. By the time the sixties came around, that hope was changing. They were reaching young adulthood among the earliest boomers, and they started to see that the world wasn't what they thought it was.

Sexual revolutions, the pill, the civil rights struggle, vietnam, things were no longer as rosy as they were promised, though many of them were finding freedoms as much as they were finding struggles. They just couldn't look at the world with those rosy, optimistic glasses any more. Shit got complicated and confusing and it was the boomers and the younger segment of the preceding generation that drove some of the positive changes at the same time they were being chewed up by the meat grinder of capitalism and war.

Who wouldn't look back at a period of optimism as a better time? If the eighties had been as promising as the fifties, I'd be looking back on it as a golden era too.

But hey, us Xers and millennials, we will look back on the nineties as a better time most likely. We saw a lot of good happen. It's largely being undone now, but damn it was nice while it lasted seeing the expansion of acceptance of gay people, reduced barriers between black and white people in specific (less so with other "races") as the freedom to marry and blend together worked its chemistry. Even some of the racists backed off once their grandbabies were mixed.

Yeah, like the fifties, that optimism covered an ugly reality, but it was still better than the seventies had been, and we thought that the worst aspects of the Reagan era were going to eventually get fixed.

Now, OP, I can't speak for your dad. The above definitely didn't apply to everyone I've ever known from that generation. Some of them were racist assholes even then. Some of them still think women are only good for one thing (and some of those are women). And you're definitely right that living queer back then would be horrible even in more accepting cities. To gain access to all those things people were optimistic about, you'd have to be closeted and very very careful.

But it isn't as simple as folks tend to think. Your dad's generation wasn't a monolith, and even the more progressive among that peer group often look back on the fifties as a great era to be born into. I can't even entirely disagree tbh. Looking back on it from now, the thirty years after 1950 were amazing in the amount of progress made socially, technologically, and economically for a lot of people. It's easy to ignore the bad parts when we're/they're sitting here with these magic devices in our hands.

Conservatives are more prone to wanting to return everything to the way life was then, but plenty of us liberals, progressives, general liberals, and even full on leftists can see that we lost some of the good stuff when we had to root out the bad (despite failing to do so)

Yup, they exist.

Break the shaft in half, now you have two spears.

Only one problem with this.

A spear is superior to a gladius any day. I will fight on that hill. And win, because I have a spear, obviously.

Ikr?

I'd be impressed as hell, and at least salute them as I died from my severed arm bleeding me out

\m/

Brutal

However, you know you done fucked up when that person eventually says "damn, dude, that was dark" while taking a step back from you.

Fuck me running (because I do that all the damn time)

I gotta preface this with the fact that pretty much all American food is based on layers of blending of multiple sources. It's a lot less distinct than some national or regional cuisines elsewhere in the world, and many expressions of things can be American without having originated inside america.

So, with that in mind, I gotta say pit smoked southern pork BBQ. The history of it is very much american, despite it being a fairly universal cooking method. People have been smoking meats in a contained way for thousands of years all over the world. But the particular expression of it that arose in the south is incredible.

For one thing, it's delicious. Hot, tender, smoky pork. How can that go wrong?

There's regional sauces for it too. Mustard based, vinegar based, tomato based, coke/cola based, plus more; and blends of those. I favor a vinegar based sauce personally, but don't turn my nose up at any of them.

But it can serve as a unifier as well. Even BBQ joints tend to have become a sort of neutral ground that can bridge communities that otherwise don't interact much. But when someone goes whole hog on their own, that's a big undertaking, and it takes help to achieve. That help, and the nature of cooking an entire pig, also mean that communities will gather. You don't pit smoke 200 pounds of meat just for a handful of people. It's an event.

And that's what really makes it something indispensable for me. It's a cultural hallmark shared across religious lines, across neighborhood lines, and even racial lines. That kind of BBQ is a southern thang, and it's a thang we tend to let go of the bullshit that divides a community at least long enough to fill bellies.

You go to a whole hog party, and you'll see Methodists and baptists agreeing that, damn this pig is good. You'll see that old black guy and the old white guy swapping BBQ lore. You can end up with family rifts and neighbor disputes settled, or at least set aside for a night because ain't nobody got time to fuss until after they've had some Q, and after they've had it, they ain't got no energy to argue because the itis done crept up on em.

Long as you keep an eyeball on the beer supply, won't be fights or much of anything other than bulging bellies and folks wondering how much they can carry home.

I ain't saying a good smoked pig will fix the world's ills. I'm just saying that it shifts the bullshit down the priority list for a while.

And holy hell, it is yummy.

That's one awesome famous dude

Let's be real though, it isn't like there wouldn't have been something that set off a fire. The conditions were there, whether it was an idiot with fireworks, a lightning strike, a flicked cigarette, sparks from a power line, whatever.

When it comes to that region, you're essentially guaranteed a fire yearly, if not more often. Trying to pin someone as a "suspect" is like trying to suspect a tornado of hating Oklahoma. If it wasn't intentional, and I seriously doubt an idiot kid is going to waste fireworks trying to start a fire, who gives a fuck what the trigger was?