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  • The real trick is to vanquish souls indiscriminately then you get alot more friends and the vanquish enemies part is alot easier. Heck you can even eliminate yourself and put your soul into another vessel to keep the fun going forever!

    Just be careful adventurers seem to hate necromancy fun. They always seem to stop the party before you make "too many friends"... jerks.

  • honestly, I like your perspective better, its way less depressing than how I normally view people. Its still sad to know that people dont praise eachother or themselves enough. but at least from your viewpoint the people I deemed weirdos are not the monsters I percieve. It gives everyone room to grow, Where as im generally more interested in myself. Praising others, Is definitely something I should work on.

    I feel bad now, but when I see people practicing basic decency I generally see it as "the bare minimum", When obviously thats not the case. Your perspective is very much appreciated, Thank you!

  • but for most tend to exaggerate enormously what other think of ourselves and the truth is, no one cares much.

    This is true, but for most people with S.A.D. they were frequently exposed to people who DO care. Family for example constantly commenting on your looks and demenor can have a lasting impact on someone. I was lucky enough to become more rebelious and anti-conformist. but some like my SO, are constantly worried about what others think because its so engrained in them that the people around them are making snide comments to them or behind their backs.

    For me, and what im trying to get her to understand. Is that "indifference" is paramount. Its a difficult thing to do but becoming indifferent to the opinions of others is way more powerful than attempting to believe something that isnt always true (that noone cares much). Truth is we are constantly surrounded by wierdos who take a single look at another person and make 1000 judgements.

    I find it to be a way more powerful tool to just think about how sad they are, how lonely they must feel, how every foul word is likely a projection of their own lack of self worth. Shrug my shoulders and walk away. Sadly children are not given the opportunity to "walk away". Especially in the case of parents and family.

  • My home feed is "all", sorted by "hot"(weird i know but its a good way to find communities to sub to). I dont usually see nsfw, but I have seen some trans memes, sfw yuri and a instance dedicated to middrift which is kind of nsfw but has no parts showing. If i dont like what im seeing i just block the instance. But it hasnt happened alot. Mostly just news articles and current events though.

  • I see, sorry for misinterpreting your words, reading back its obvious what you were trying to convey. Your perspective is much appreciated. Yours and everyones comments have been super productive in our converstation trying to work through this today.

  • Great idea, any specific suggestions? I used to watch alot of stand up but their content was very raunchy so it wasnt really her thing when id show her. We both enjoy bo burham even before he became famous. And lately weve been seeing clips of morgan jay that have had us giggling and quoting.

  • Normally Id say im sorry to hear about your situation, but you seem the defiant type. So i assume that would be taken as pitty or an insult. Instead id like to say that you and people like you are in my opinion the most genuine specimens of humanity your defiance in the face of adversity is truely an inspiration.

    That being said, do you think its healthy to compare belly aches? I am not accusing you of doing so, but your words in this paragraph

    There are people in far worse situations due to worse disability.

    To me express the idea that "because others have it worse you should be grateful". This to me is obviously true, but to someone deep in depression or any other dark place in their life could easily be interpreted as, "suck it up". So when dealing with friends and family in some sort of mental spiral. I tend to heavily avoid this line of thinking. Even it is the cold truth they need. But maybe im wrong?

    I don't worry about things that are outside of my capacity to change. I cannot shape people into a tenable social situation where I can be myself, so I don't worry about it at all.

    This is probably the most helpful bit for my girlfriend (her words), but she mentioned that her social anxiety makes it impossible not to consider every single word and action of those she interacts with. How do you "deal" with not being able to change reality? I feel that ive acheived something similar, a state of neutrality towards the chaos around us. How would you go about helping someone along that path?

  • Great question, some of them are in other states/ countries making timing a big factor. She often feels alone for days. I will say, the quality of this group is very high. Genuine people who care about eachother. But with work and school some of them simply cant be there as much as theyd like to be.

  • Thank you, and your thoughts are always valid and valuable even if I or anyone might disagree. The more perspectives the better imo.

    She very much agreed with your last point. but has trouble understanding the need to mask in the first place. She does not consider things like "not swearing around children or grandparents" or just being sweeter to them in general to be masking. Could you maybe explain your feelings on "being a sports fan" for example (you may actually like sports). But as someone who doesnt, I have been at events and settings where it was simply the comfortable thing to be. I wasnt lying to anyone but I definitely was asking more questions and cheering for something id normally have near zero enthusiasm for. I have trouble getting my ducks in a row to express something we seem to do so naturally.

  • Mental Health @lemmy.world

    Question: My significant other is having major trouble making friends.

  • My headcannon was always that they were action figures. The episode where they all go on the surface shows all of the characters as puppets

    so in my head all of the characters are real items that are being animated by some sort of undersea magic.