Im_outta_here @ Im_outta_here @lemm.ee Posts 0Comments 3Joined 1 mo. ago
Thank you. This whole system is honestly a clusterfuck. Its been 11 years and we're still fighting. I give immigrants more of a devils advocate than maybe I should because of our experience, but its hard not to because I've seen the shittiness of our current system. Its also why I hate the whole "ThEy ShOuLd JuSt CoMe HeRe LeGaLlY" argument. Its not that easy for so many of them. Its expensive (we're at about 25k with probably more to be spent), overly complicated, and one single misstep sends you back to square one.
Luckily, we aren't near a border, and in a purple state, so it's not as dangerous here as other places. But it's still terrifying with this administration.
Asked my mom about this a few years back because she had the same rule. Turned out, she knew it was mostly bs, but she didnt want to deal with kids puking up curdled milk because it grossed her out, and apparently we had a harder time puking it up so we were more upset.
And honestly, i dont blame her. Depending on the year, she could have had 5 kids in the house all sick to some degree. If it took telling us milk would make us sicker to help ease that stress, I agree with it.
Unfortunately, there's a high chance her immigration application depends on her being married to him. My husband and I have been at his process for going on 8 years, and it entirely rests on me sponsoring him. If we were to separate, his whole case would get shut down, and he starts over with an even more expensive and complicated process. We aren't going to divorce because we love each other, but it's still something that his lawyer had to advise us about.