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is it too much to ask to want others to validate/affirm you?
  • yeah... consequences of frequently being called an "attention seeker" back when i was a minor for the crimes of opening up to others. as a result now i live with worrying if i'm bothering others by opening up or expressing my psychological needs.

    wish others understood it like you do because come on, we're not fucking robotic tin cans. we're people with emotions. fuck this toxic individualistic nonsense where you get told that "It's nOT otHEr PeOPleS' job" to validate or comfort you 😒

  • is it too much to ask to want others to validate/affirm you?
  • thanks 🥺👉👈💖🏳️‍⚧️

    dunno why something as simple as this is so difficult for some people to just say

  • is it too much to ask to want others to validate/affirm you?
  • for context i experienced transphobia in an online space somewhere and it really would've helped.

    sorry for being a fucking attention seeker.

  • is it too much to ask to want others to validate/affirm you?

    don't fucking lecture me by saying that i "don't need others to validate me since i'm already a woman" or that "i don't ACTUALLY need others to validate/affirm me, i can do it myself".

    like yes i can do that but it fucking hits different when someone else says that. especially if it's someone close to you.

    but apparently it's too hard for some people to tell a trans woman in need that they'll "always be a woman". even if you explicitly fucking request that. even if that someone is your partner who also happens to be a trans woman.

    apparently according to her i don't need anyone else "to tell me that" because "i'm already a woman"

    i hate this constant dismissal of what i need. just tell me what i want and i'll get out of your fucking way.

    makes me wonder what's the point of having friends/partners even is when you can't even depend on rely on others and ALWAYS GOTTA FUCKING DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF to get what you want

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    Why are most of the communities so... Empty?
  • jesus. if hexbear is considered a small site, i don't want to think what lemmygrad would be considered. /nm

  • a friend of mine has been asking why i'm an anti-zionist and has shown eagerness to learn about my POV. what do i answer them and what resources should i give them?

    they have been (for whatever reason) studying about wars currently going on in the middle east since apparently brazil doesn't document on this enough, as well as reading up on zionism. they've been seeing "a LoT oF eXtReMiSm FrOm BoTh SiDeS" and assured me that they weren't trying to "question in defense of zionism because they don't know everything about the subject and that they are just a student seeking further information about it"

    i was already thinking of:

    • showing them pictures of disgusting zionist settler colonialists sitting on roofs watching IOF genocide and bomb on palestinians live
    • showing them pictures of the barbarianism committed by the IOF (stuff like them descerating a lifeless palestinian's body? wearing a bra on their genocidal missions? idk, pics of them had surfaced on lemmygrad some months back)
    • that one video where a zionist settler-colonialist goes "if i don't steal it, someone else will" to a native palestinian
    • a news article where despite having the deeds to the house, zionist settler colonialists just up and start living on the palestinian's house and kick them out
    • mention how the IOF murdered palestinian babies and pulled an US by expanding more than they were permitted to
    • mention that it's pretty disgusting/insensitive to paint this as a case of "extremism from both sides" when it's clearly about a group of oppressed people being genocided on their own lands finally fighting back against the show of power they've been doing for the past decades. (i wonder if they'd ask "further proof" of this)
    • show proof about the zionist project's existence being only a recent thing over palestine's, which had existed for a long time (though i wonder if they'd try to pull the bible verse about "israelis" and shit)

    is there anything else i'm missing here? or am i good to go?

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    Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • i'm now curious about what these wild takes they have about non-white trans women like me.

    but i pray that i don't have to meet the kind of trans women you mentioned... and that they can eventually see the light and the error of their ways.

    unbelievable that some people - despite being oppressed by the system - could be like this.

    coincidentally, do these people also happen to be truscum/transmed? or even some "tucutes" are a part of this? because i feel like it'd make sense for truscum/transmed trans people to hold such reactionary views.

  • Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • sadly yes, but i just didn't expect feminists of all people to harbor these kinds of sentiments

  • Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • hold on. there are... 3rd wave feminists... with no sense of intersectionality??? the hell???

  • Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • It’s partially white ignorance, most whites didn’t see the shit Black women go through; the voices of white women were elevated because of their whiteness so their own concerns came first in the public discourse; Black women were rationally reluctant to raise their own voices in the face of white terrorism;

    ok, this explains it

    Blackness has been coded as masculine and male by white society to better superexploit their physical labor

    ...and i'm back to being utterly baffled because i'm not understanding the rationale behind people labeling blackness as "masculine" and whiteness as "feminine". makes zero sense to me to genderize(?) a whole race/group of people like they're a completely different alien species.

    increasing the population of Black labor was no longer seen as desirable by white society after the end of slavery

    now this gets me wondering, did white people back then try to control the reproductive rights of black people (or even kill black children or force black couples into aborting their children) to achieve this goal?

    white women believed they could easier acheive their own liberation by focusing only on themselves and excluding Black women.

    ...yeah, i'm calling cap on their belief. i don't think white guys could care less if you included black women or not. i don't think they'd still be willing to give you rights or treat you as every other human being.

  • Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • still plenty of them around today

    how??? how are they still able to operate in this era???

    how do they reinforce their beliefs???

    do they seriously think white guys will happily give them rights just because they're throwing their black sisters under the bus?

    i'm so baffled by this, their existence. how can you exclude black women from your space or think they don't deserve rights...

    especially in an era where you'd think people would know better. :\

  • Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • ¿¿¿???

    this... isn't a competition re: who could get rights first...???

    if anything, the white women in question should've been able to show solidarity with the black women because both of them are in a similar situation (neither could vote)

    but white supremacist sounds about right

    gross... did not expect this

  • Seeing all the TERFs/SWERFs made me wonder, has there been [B]lack [E]xclusionary [R]adical [F]eminists in the past?
  • see, i don't understand this.

    maybe it's because i'm from the 21st century or just that i don't know much on the matter, but i'm literally clueless on how the fuck could the suffragettes - despite being feminists - not sympathize with black women or be inspired to be anti-slavery after seeing the shit black women go through (granted idk how the lives of black women were when they weren't doing slave labor like their brothers, but still).

    like, it's just not registering with me. someone please explain this to me.

  • Minecraft horror yuri
  • i need more les gay sapphic eldritch stuff in my life 🥺👉👈

  • ACAB
    Stop encouraging it.
  • hmm, gee, i wonder

    i wonder if a game where you play as a fucking LESBIAN AND DATE WOMEN while working your ass off to move out of your town and the fact that the good endings are ones where you don't end up marrying a guy (the latter of which leads to Pocket Mirror -GoldenTraum- happening where she expresses regrets) is woke

    HMMM

    fucking dumbasses

  • "Everybody settle down": After a PS5 update dropped ads all over the home screen, dev says it's "it's just a (new) bug with an existing feature"
  • they always say this when they get caught, they never actually mean this. they will 100% try this shit again once people have cooled down and begun to accept practices like these from big companies - the same way people have accepted scummy DLCs and microtransactions despite horse armor dlc (bethesda) being considered ridiculous in the past.

    unity tried to suck money out from devs making games using their engine, only to try and backpedal once many devs begun moving to godot. no doubt unity will try that shit again if this mass exodus of devs didn't happen or if they get new devs using their dogshit engine as opposed to the simpler and better godot.

    i really hope the same thing happens with the PS5 here, that there's a mass exodus to XBox, Nintendo or better yet - PC.

    consoles (asides from handheld ones) are only alive now because they hold quality games (like bloodborne for one) hostage.

  • How many extra pronouns are now in the game?
  • sometimes i wonder how these dorks would react if they opened up an english grammar book, seeing as how they keep freaking out at the mere existence of a vital part of every language in the world

    i wonder if in the future there will be a reich-wing dialect of english where it just gets rid of pronouns altogether from the parts of speech and the english language because oOgA bOoGa ProNouns sCaWy... somehow. and replace them with nouns/names.

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    [CW: Transphobic Slur] If GTA VI goes WOKE every square inch of the entire game world isn't going to plastered in amazing jokes like these anymore
  • “ironic” music if I remember correctly, like opera.

    Hey, I actually liked listening to opera/classics more than any other music while driving on my car/vehicle in these games. >:T /nm

  • I do actually
  • Thanks, but I think I'll pass on the offer. ^^;

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    [CW: Transphobic Slur] If GTA VI goes WOKE every square inch of the entire game world isn't going to plastered in amazing jokes like these anymore
  • I’m the kind of dork that tries to obey all the traffic laws in GTA like games though.

    I remember trying to do that in good 'ol Vice City, only for pedestrian-driving vehicles/cars to ignore them and speed on through (sometimes even hitting my vehicle/car in the process). The funniest part is I didn't even aggravate them or had cheats on, yet they still did it anyway. :^)

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    originally posted on c/traa (since i figured that boykisser was a queer icon by now), but i was wondering if it'd fit the comm; so posting it here instead. i had to see this, now you do as well <3

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    oh boy

    cross-posted from: https://lemmygrad.ml/post/5694077

    > people are already making jokes about america in the comments section lmao > > ! > > ::: spoiler ...of course, some also felt the need to drag the pride flag in it as well :/ > > ! > > like America ever cared about queer people > > oh right, I forgot, people kissing people of the same gender and people wanting to change their gender is western American imperialism to these people! ...somehow > ___ > ::: > > idk, I thought it was weird and funny lol

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    since misinfo re: my country has forced me to come back unofficially and earlier than i wanted, i might as well ask: is there any other COD game that isn't pure state propaganda and isn't anti-USSR?

    cross-posted from: https://lemmygrad.ml/post/5465513

    > i know COD WAW is one of them where it has the best portrayal of the soviets, but the other COD games where you also get to play as the soviets/red army soldier like in the original COD (COD 2003) and in COD 2 - are they just as good? or at least, not as problematic as with the newer cod games? > > because i refuse to play any game that's just pure crystallized american state propaganda and talks shit about the USSR. fuck off with that shit.

    figured i'd post it here too since hexbear has more activity than the grad but i'm still a grad patriot so crossposting it is instead lmao

    but yeah, any thoughts?

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    Games @lemmygrad.ml Aria 🏳️‍⚧️🇧🇩 @lemmygrad.ml
    since misinfo re: my country has forced me to come back unofficially and earlier than i wanted, i might as well ask: is there any other COD game that isn't pure state propaganda and isn't anti-USSR?

    i know COD WAW is one of them where it has the best portrayal of the soviets, but the other COD games where you also get to play as the soviets/red army soldier like in the original COD (COD 2003) and in COD 2 - are they just as good? or at least, not as problematic as with the newer cod games?

    because i refuse to play any game that's just pure crystallized american state propaganda and talks shit about the USSR. fuck off with that shit.

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    What's your favorite genre of music?

    Post made in response to this other post, where I've mistakenly commented the music genres I liked, thinking the thread was about musical genres you like; as opposed to what it actually was about.

    So yeah, sorry about that lmfao. I was sleepy to notice at the time.

    (In case people still want to know the musical genres I like: I primarily love revolutionary/socialist music, DPRK-Pop and metal music. Occasionally however I like some video game/anime soundtrack)

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    Woosh :star:

    cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/313731

    > Girls Last Tour, in case anyone was wondering. > > Good show, watch it.

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    China's sustained afforestation efforts green the world
    news.cgtn.com China's sustained afforestation efforts green the world

    Spring is the season for new life. In China, the peak time for spring plowing and sowing is around the Qingming Festival, which fell on Wednesday this year, when people from all walks of life go out and plant trees to make the land greener.

    China's sustained afforestation efforts green the world
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    What a cool gun... shame it had to be manufactured under Fascist times 😔

    If I want a pistol, I want it to be a Luger; or at the very least, look/operate like one. So much cool looking than your typical glocks. But alas. 😔

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    Alunyanners Aria 🏳️‍⚧️🇧🇩 @lemmygrad.ml

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