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  • I use bisexual everywhere and with everyone. I like the bisexual flag more and I like the juxtaposition of it next to enby. So I'm a non-binary bisexual. Alliteration is fun.

    I guess you could argue that's not alliteration because they're using the same root of "bi" but I still like the sound of it.

  • When talking with people who are less versed in the community: Bisexual.

    When talking with people more versed in the community: polyamorous biromantic demisexual.

    Of course I was identifying as bisexual way before even I was more versed in the specifics of the queer community.

    Hell I knew I was bi before I knew what the words for it were. I grew up in a VERY conservative area with VERY conservative family so learning about queerness was mostly just "it's bad, and they'll get [redacted] in time"

    So yeah, kinda shite.

  • For non-queers: bisexual

    For queers: pansexual, but only as shorthand or to start a conversation for more specifics

  • I’m only relatively recently out, and still feeling out what label works best for me, but I like bi, it feels right. And it’s the nicest flag so 🤷‍♂️

  • I usually just say I'm bisexual but mostly into chicks/not interested in dating men. "Homoromantic bisexual" would be appropriate, but I've only used that term once I think, when my straight friend was curious about my sexuality changing and asked if I had moved on the Kinsey scale, and I used the split attraction model to explain that I still found men just as hot, I just lost the desire to be romantic with them.

  • I'm old enough that it was pretty simple when I was figuring things out and felt the need to define and label myself. It was straight, gay or lesbian, and bi. I was attracted to women so not straight, men so not lesbian, ergo bi. The term covered a lot of ground back then.

    I've never considered "pan" for very long because so many people who identified as pan a few years ago when it was being talked about a lot defined it as if attraction to things like personality and character weren't the norm and the very idea was a novel concept discovered by themselves. Rolled my eyes, adjusted my bifocals and let the young folk get on with it. 😋

    Now I'm old enough my orientation is basically the social and sexual invisibility of post-fertile middle aged women, compounded by the invisibility of chronic illness and the online nastiness towards middle aged women in general. Too much frustration trying to make myself seen as a person in most spaces.

    I keep "bi" as a nod to who I used to be and times past, rather than anything others might find interesting or useful to know.

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