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Me: I need to leave this community. What if these memes are just making me think I have ADHD when I don’t.

Also me on literally every meme that’s posted here: haha, hard rel8

I'm more than a little convinced ADHD isn't really a disorder, society is the issue, and this personality/brain type is actually beneficial in simpler societies.

I hate explaining ADHD to people because it's a completely unintuitive disorder. It's like "I'm easily distracted" yet at other times I'm completely incapable of tearing my focus away from something. I have continual thoughts of things unrelated to my current focus, and other times I can't think of anything at all, I just can't hold on to any thoughts. I'm fidgety, almost all the time, but I can sit still and drive a car on the freeway for several hours with absolutely no issues.

It's like, for every symptom I have of the disorder there's always a "but sometimes" caveat that is present. It's just a nightmare to try to make someone understand especially when they've never struggled with the disorder or anything like it. It's a complete conundrum.

Oh. Good. I’d gone a few minutes without doing this mental check, thank you for putting it back in there for today. 🫠

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i was diagnosed early in childhood. my parents chose to believe it was fake and more than once actually pleaded with me to explain why beating me senseless every other day didn't make the behavior stop.

I thought this a couple of years ago, even though i was diagnosed at 5 (29 now). It's funny how i went my whole life thinking it was just the stereotypical adhd is just hyperactivity and laziness because the doctors never really tried to explain how this disorder could affect me. I decided to look it up studf about adhd and am deeply conflicted by how it literally explains my entire life and behaviors even though i thought i had it under control. On one hand im glad there is something that explains a lot of my struggles and medical issues but on the other i feel like my entire personality is just dictated by adhd and that i never really had as much freedom of choice as i thought i did.

Whether you "officially" have ADHD or just the symptoms, it's not your fault. It's your responsibility.

It doesn't help that every asshole on the Internet suddenly has a psychology degree to tell you you don't actually have ADHD/autism.

At age 41, I just figured out I have ADHD, I assumed my entire life that I had a complex set of flaws.

This is unironically me. I just went through a lengthy diagnosis process that determined I do not in fact have ADHD, despite ticking an alarming number of boxes. I call myself ADHD-adjacent now.

I absolutely love this take and I can relate.

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In reality though, it's possible, but Occam's Razor would have us disagree. And a pragmatic take on all that would be: does it matter, especially if treatment and coping mechanisms also work in both cases?

Also, as a fellow ADHD-er I strongly believe that diagnosis is not an excuse; it merely explains how and why. Responsibility still lies with the afflicted regardless, with an ethical responsibility towards others for those that are self-aware.

"What if I don't actually have ADHD, I simply share some behavioral issues that make it seem like ADHD because I was raised by parents who did have ADHD and I just kind of adopted it from them?" - Me, like once a week since getting diagnosed.

Imposter syndrome?

Remember watching a video like a year ago about how intelligent people with ADHD do at school and it was like a 17 minute video and it was like the guy was talking about me the whole time, but you know, maybe it's just a coincidence

I'm not officially diagnosed yet, so this is where I live.

I don't think I have AD... Hmm I wonder if I should restart that project I abandoned five years ago?

… reading this wondering the same thing as I lay here in bed not wanting to get up and scrolling mindlessly on Lemmy….

Nope I should get up and take my meds … I’m a dufus.

Who do you go to if you want to get help? Family Doctor? Psychologist? Pychiatrist? Therapist?

I mean, every single person in my life has always said if bad things happen in my life its because I let it happen. I have trust issues and few friends.

I need to figure out how to get a proper diagnosis. The VA keeps telling me I just suffer from PTSD and handed me some SSRI’s. I’m almost positive I have ADHD but I don’t know where to look to for a proper diagnosis with a second opinion ugh.

Any good online sources for assessment, talk and medication therapies?

I have zero doubt. Going through 2 hours of testing, getting a stack of notes from the specialist, and having said specialist sit there and explain behaviors to me helped too.