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How did you choose your name?

Hey girls! I recently started my social transition, and i've been thinking about names. I know not everyone uses a different name during/after their transition, but i think i want to. How did you find your name, and how did you know it was the right one?

My siblings and i were all given names that start with the letter E, and i would like to maintain that pattern. The first name that came to mind was "Eva" after "Queen Iva" from the anime One Piece, who is a character with the power to control hormones.

Seeing Queen Iva was one of the things that made me start to question my gender, so i like the idea of honoring that. However i feel a little wierd about picking my name based on a tv show. Is that something people do? I've looked at various lists of baby names, but nothing really clicks the same way as Eva.

Id love to hear your advice and experiences!

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  • However i feel a little wierd about picking my name based on a tv show.

    Most parents do it for their kids too anyway, and trans people all over pick names from their favorite videogame all the time! Just pick whatever feels right for you.

  • I tried to find names with ties to my old name or personal significance, but none of them felt right. So I looked through a list of names online, and my name jumped out at me.

    If your name feels right, then it's right :)

  • I just wanted a name that works in both my native languages, ideally english too, without being butchered by local accents and dialects. That narrowed it down a lot. Thankfully that small selection had a name I really like, and cheekily signing an email with it just to see how it feels reinforced my choice^^

    Also, if the name Eva just clicks for you, that's great :D It's a lovely name on its own, and your lore behind it is the cherry on top, making that choice a million times cooler^^

  • Tried some different ones out with my friends. As soon as I suggested the name I ultimately went with, everyone had a pretty immediate reaction. Like it just suited me really well. And nearly a decade later, I can say for sure it was meant to be my name.

    To find names to try, I used baby name sites. Helpful way to get ideas, but by no means is it the only way to find your name.

    In all honesty, I think everyone finds their name differently, and I also think there's nothing wrong with choosing a name that's a reference to a show you like! Eventually, the name you do choose will be synonymous with who you are. Try Eva with some friends and see how you like it :) You can always try another name if Eva doesn't work out. But for what it's worth, I think it's a beautiful name.

    Edit: just to add, there's nothing wrong with changing your name again or using a name for years and then deciding its not a good fit. :) what matters is that you like your name and that you're happy about it. There shouldn't be any limits placed on that.

  • I picked my name when I was trying to name a character in a story I was writing. It ended up being a really nice name, so I said "Screw it, that's my name now. I'll just rename the character."

    Also, plenty of people are named after characters from TV shows. My dead name was from a TV show apparently, but I dunno which one. In the end, even if it wasn't a common thing, if you like the name, use it. It's better than settling for another name you don't like as much and having to live with it when all your documents get changed.

  • i really like the swapnote girl and always have, her name always stuck with me! so i chose that :3

  • Another person who picked theirs from a video game. Pick the name you want to give yourself. Don't worry about what other people think and focus on if it makes YOU happy.

  • When I picked out my name, I spent hours looking through lists of names and picked out ones I really liked and put them in a list. My top choices at first were Raina and Amirah, and I tested them out by creating terraria characters with those names. I felt like the letter r didn't fit with my personality, so I ended up going with Amiah instead. I actually first heard of the name Raina from that one frog girl that was in an old version of Minecraft, and I still really like the name, so if I ever have a daughter that's what I would name her. So imo it is totally fine to name yourself after something from media.

  • I picked a new full name, meaning that, in addition to me changing the given portion (first and middle), I changed my last name as well.

    As the screen name shows, my first name is Angel, and my middle name is Jamie.

    I picked Angel not out of any particular funny story. Even before I realized I was trans, I had resentment to the name I was given at birth, and I wanted to pick one I'd rather be called in more casual instances. Just out of nowhere, on a whim, my mind comes up with "Angel", admiring it in how it sounds, looks, and what it feels like when it is applied to me as a name. I requested my friends to start calling me that in school, and I introduced myself as such wherever applicable. When teachers called my legal name in attendance, I'd just kindly let them know "I go by Angel as a nickname. Thanks.", and people got pretty damn used to it. The only real goofy thing about the name for me is that I've always been very uncomfortable with religion due to being raised in a really strict Catholic household, but that wasn't really some kind of intentional irony for the lulz. I just love the way the name sounds.

    When I was around 17, I accepted myself as trans, but I was under the impression that I was a binary trans woman initially, so I set on changing my name to "Angela". This was, however, because I knew very little about non-binary people and didn't think the term could be applicable to me. Once I got to a point of being further educated on enbies, I started identifying as non-binary around the age of 20 and subsequently went back to Angel to have a name that came off as more neutral.

    I ended up picking my middle name a bit afterwards though. When I thought I was a binary trans woman, the plan was to name myself "Angela Jacqueline" as my first and middle, and I was going to keep my birth surname as well. I decided that Jacqueline was too feminine for it to be suitable as a middle name when it came to the kind of gendering I desired, but I wanted to keep the initials of "A. J." because, at that point, people in my friend circles usually either called me "Angel" or simply "A. J.", as I wasn't fond of going by Angela because I didn't have a feminine presentation at the time.

    I thought of merely condensing it down to Jackie to make it more neutral, but it didn't stick too well for me, so I went with Jamie instead which made etymological sense because Jacqueline technically, by origin of the name in meaning, serves as a feminine version of James whereas I saw Jamie as the neutral counterpart of those two.

    As far as the surname goes, I decided to change that once I got a clear idea that I had to distance myself from my blood relatives who effectively disowned me. Not only that, but the surname I was born with is really foreign and hard to pronounce for a lot of legal and professional administrations, and I also wanted to give a sense of spicy individuality to my whole name, having all three pieces of it represent me and no one else I'm tied to in particular.

    After thinking everything through, I picked a new surname that starts with a J, which I found fitting because of how used I got to being called "A. J." at times. In order to still keep somewhat of a cultural connection, I picked a surname that is still very common in the native country of my folks. The surname itself can also be a first name, but it usually serves as a diminutive of longer names rather than a legal name on its own. As a diminutive, it is typically seen as gender-neutral though, and it's also a name I absolutely am in love with, but I didn't want to have it in the given name slot because, legally speaking, it's pretty much entirely masculine (it's really only gender-neutral as a diminutive), so after checking all these boxes:

    ☑ 1. It starts with a J.

    ☑ 2. It's common as a surname in my parent's native country.

    ☑ 3. It's a gender-neutral name that I love to the point of having considered it as a given name.

    ☑ 4. It's mostly masculine when it is a legal given name, but fortunately and with point #2 considered, I was able to circumvent any worries about this by putting it in the slot of my surname, as surnames are typically not gendered.

    ☑ 5. It just sounds damn good!

    The idea is that I really don't have a given [first and middle] and a surname [last] portion anymore. I now just see myself as having three given names that were given to me from none other than myself, but no one else would interpret it that way legally speaking, so it all worked out in the end.

    Also, I'm a musician, and in my stage presence, I typically am known by my full name [first, middle, and last] entirely, in a Maynard James Keenan kind of fashion. Haha!

  • I robbed it from the least interesting song about a girl by that name. As for how I knew it was right, I was sort of using it in my head long before I cracked.

  • I have choosen a name based on what represents a strong aspect of myself.

    Since I always love to learn and know more things, my Name is the word for "Knowledge of the World".

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