AITA for saying this about my ex's interests?
Me (19M) and my ex (22F) just broke up but we promised to be friends. I called her stuff uninteresting and said I acted older than her because she watches dumb shows like anime, Beavis and Butthead, etc. Stupid stuff. I'm 19, I don't like that crap. I don't mean it in a mean way, though.
Worrying about "acting older" is such an insecure 18 year old thing to do.
Just because you aren't interested doesn't mean it's not interesting to her or other people.
Yeah, you're kinda being a jerk. Not an asshole necessarily, but you can do better.
I had a stick up my ass at your age, even down to thinking Beavis and Butthead was terrible when it was new.
Just because you don't like something doesn't mean it's trash. Don't yuck other peoples yum.
And especially don't talk like that to people you care about and want to be friends with.
"I don't really get anime, it's generally not for me" is a very polite way to put it without insulting someone.
You're young and have a lot to experience in your life. I suspect your views on a lot of things will soften with time.
I did too and I missed out on so much cool stuff from the mid 90s to almost 2010 because of my shitty attitude.
I remember being trapped at a party (because I didn't have my own ride and was hours from home) where I knew nobody, watching True Romance and seething at how stupid the whole thing was.
And yeah, it truly is, but it's deliberately stupid and also awesome. Gary Oldman was (as always) fully committed and amazing, stealing every scene he's in.
But also I was seething at a party because I didn't like a movie, instead of finding something else to do and like.
Cringe, bro. Let people enjoy things.
Yes, I'd say so. That was really mean. Is that why you broke up?
She dodged a bullet there. You're the asshole.
As someone who also doesn't like anime or Beavis & Butthead, I can see where you're coming from about show preferences. But that was a bit mean of you to say that to her. I don't think liking those things makes someone less mature. It's just different strokes for different folks.
you’ll understand in maybe 20 years the higher levels of Beavis & Butthead humor.
It’s much more hilarious and poignant as an adult who can look back on their teens/20s “stupid” years. Similar to the adult humor in Shrek that would never register with a 6 year old.
You should really try out some genuinely good Anime before writing it off. FullMetal Alchemist: Brotherhood, and Frieren are both good. Just because it's drawn, doesn't mean it's "cartoons". Take the show Arcane for example -- the art style was made to look painted. Same with Anime, it's just they use the drawn style to portray their story.
She's a GOATed for liking Beavis and Butthead though. That shit is classic.
Thank you, I just don’t like anime and I’m very blunt
Thank you, I just don’t like anime
That’s a bit like saying you don’t like Italian cinema. It may well be true but I tend to doubt you’ve seen enough of it to really say that. That’s also not what you got in trouble with your ex for saying. You called her interests stupid.
They’re not stupid. I’m not a fan of Beavis and Butthead either but I wouldn’t tell someone who is that the show is stupid, no matter our romantic relationship or lack thereof. It’s rude and (in this case) cruel.
and I’m very blunt
You keep saying that like it’s an immutable fact about yourself. It certainly isn’t.
If there’s something about her watching the show that’s legitimately bothering you (example: playing things you hate at talking volume or higher while you’re around), you should have had that conversation.
If it’s just the fact that someone enjoys something you don’t … that’s a really unpleasant attitude to be around.
my ex (22F)
dumb shows like anime, Beavis and Butthead, etc. Stupid stuff.
Not dumb in the slightest: a 22-year-old fascinated in Beavis and Butthead is a retrophile bordering on anthropologist at this point.
Why can't OP have cool interests?
She can have interests, I just don’t like them. I’m brutally honest.
I think you misread the question. 🙃
There's too much real tragedy in life to worry about things like the triviality of one's (or their SO's) interests. Enjoy what you enjoy, and let others do the same, especially your partner. Hobbies and interests are important, and minimizing someone's interests (especially someone that respects you) can have a long lasting effect. Nothing huge, but that slight little doubt you created in their mind will always just sit in the background any time she talks about it with anyone else. Worrying about whether something you like is becoming of your age or not actually is immature. Also: YTA
yta unfortunately, you sound like either an immature guy or an older man talking about his daughter’s stuff because “back in my day, we didn’t have that stuff!! watch something educational!!”
My S/O literally doesn’t like stuff I like. Not because I like it, but because he says he doesn’t like a lot of stuff. I just happen to like a lot of the stuff he “absolutely hates”. He thinks he’s too cool for it because he’s “gonna be an adult so he doesn’t like my stuff”. I’m 18, he’s 17.
But you were very rude about it, calling it “crap” and all. YTA. How could you hate Beavis and Butthead?
Yes. You can't call someone's interests "crap" and not have them think you're judging them, just because you "don't mean it in a mean way".
If you don't like something someone else enjoys, don't talk shit about it.