Vibe check rule

I feel I disagree. Those who get mad at being called weird just haven't learned to accept and embrace their weirdness yet. It took me a while. And I still sometimes feel the need to hide it. It can take a while to work through.
- raise your freak flag when no one's looking
  have it half mast when your friends' around
  stuff it under the bed when family's about
  
  This is the way. Even if anime is widely accepted and loved nowadays, I still refuse to speak with anybody about it unless they bring it up first.
- And the only way to meet your true lifelong friends, the ones who become framily, are the ones who know your weirdness and embrace it.
- Don't see how this is a disagreement. If you don't accept and embrace your weirdness then you're bad weird. Doesn't mean you can't change to good weird. "Accept and embrace" doesn't mean shout it from the rooftops btw, just means you don't try to stifle it.
  
  When I was 12 or so and called weird it effected mv confidence. Now I love it. The trouble is there is the weird some people want to be, and their is the weirdo fucking no one wants to be.
  
  I think I may have been reading too much into the word "bad" implying as if the person themself is bad since they still dislike being referred to as weird.
  I think it can also depend on who calls you weird and why/how. I've received both the negative, "ew, you're weird" reactions as well as positive ones. Like a friend calling me a "strange human being" in an endearing way; or another saying I'm 80/20 with my weirdness. With 80% being good weird and the remaining 20% just plain weird. I think being called weird in a positive way can help with embracing it.

How do we categorise people who were bullied and called weird as a child for having autism and now have a trauma reaction to the word?
- Was going to write something similar, thanks for putting it out here.
- I feel that in my soul as someone that has gone undiagnosed as a child but somehow everyone else picked up on it
- They are normal, not weird
  
  I mean that's a normal reaction but they may still be weird
- Own it and realize you are weird, but that's not actually a bad thing.
  
  My lemming in the Internet you do realize that reaction is because of social discrimination and punishment for not falling in line with expectations, right?
  I wouldn't have a reflexive reaction if I didn't have experience with being singled out by others because of a damn medical record. I had to be background wallflower at every turn to blend in. I had to grow up with fear that I would be caught out and be treated as an undesirable at any moment.
  So yeah, it's not that simple. Go to med school and maybe present your fucking credentials if you want to be prescriptive.
  
  That sounds like telling someone to just get over it

There is another type: Those who think they are funny and tell everyone how wonderfully "weird" they are. There's usually nothing more personality than “annoying” and “annoyingly unfunny”.

Yup. Just like racists and bigots get mad when you call them racist or bigoted, while decent people ask what they said that was offensive to avoid future misunderstandings.
- Yeah people who don’t mind being called racists are “good racists”.
  
  No one is completely without fault. If you think you are, you’re just unaware of your bias.
- Is it reasonable to get mad from being called racist because you, as a shop employee, didn't just let the customer take hundreds of dollars in cigarettes they demanded for free?
  If someone calls you a rapist pedophile, are you going to get upset, or ask how you can better reduce your rapist pedophileness?
  Would it be unreasonable to be upset if someone is specifically using that because they know in the local eco-niche, it could cost you your job and livelihood if people believe them?
  What if you're autistic and you've had a long life of people misrepresenting you intentionally or unintentionally because the double empathy problem is a thing? Like older kids beat the fuck out of you, and when they get in trouble they just claim you were being racist when you were just waiting in silence for the school library to open, and as you cry with eyes bruised and swollen shut, you are told you will be getting the same punishment as the older kids who just assaulted you, and also that the adults in the situation are okay believing you are a racist. Etc.
  I definitely agree with the larger sentiment of your statement, especially for the large scale picture of things, and existence of people like MAGA, But the local context and social behaviours can definitely lead to situations that can make the insult and claim hard to internalize, when the claim has only been used against you with stark dishonesty.
  Hell, got assaulted by a random drunk driver recently, and im glad they went for 'pedo' instead of 'racist' because it was much less believable to surrounding people in that context. Still doesn't make me question what I could have done differently while being assaulted by a drunkard. Nuance exists, and bad actors exist within every group, and frankly it shouldn't be damning to find fewer insults more insulting, because of your own disdain for racists and abusers.
  
  There are exceptions to every rule. Killing someone is bad. Killing someone about to detonate a bomb and destroy a city is heroic.
  As a general rule, if someone tells me I said something racist, I’d want to know what it was and how it was perceived as racist to avoid making that mistake again. Have you ever tried to do that with an overt racist? Immediate defensive anger peacocking.
- It does my head in that these people moan racist, homophobic, antisemite etc have no meaning now. I see it a lot, and it’s just a whine cause they’ve been called out.

Counterpoint: Kanye West. I'm pretty sure he's okay being called weird
- But not a gay fish.
- Weird is underselling it. You need more a more superlative term for him.

We really need a different word for each
- Good weird is eccentric, bad weird is creepy
  
  Insert "I'm calling HR" meme

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What about people that compulsively correct you for using the word "normal" about neurotypicals? From my point of view it seems like they get offended by being called normal, almost like the reverse of being called weird (imo).
- Or cisgender? Thinking that's a slur just means you are dumb.