When you have a long shower what are you actually doing in there?

I face the faucet, lean forward and put my head against the wall so the hot water runs over my neck and shoulders, then stay like that for like 20 minutes or longer.

Generally, time blindness and waking up. Feels like 10 minutes, really was closer to 30-40. I never feel fully awake until I've showered.

First I lube up my dildo with vaseline (it's rubber not silicone obviously) and seat it on the floor of the shower, making sure the suction is adequate. It's not dangerous if it slips, but for what we're going to do next we need it to be fixed in place. Then, [Click Here to read more]

I'm on my phone lol, got a sittable shower so I just enjoy the heat and browse or read.
- Doesn't your phone get ruined?
  
  In my situation, there's enough space to sit with the water hitting part of me, and have the phone to the side or away from it in general, often water hitting my back if standing. The shower curtain is open enough to ventilate, and I don't think it's hot enough to steam badly. I wouldn't do it in an enclosed standing shower, only bath/shower combos, and the one at home has the seat for comfort.

Being thorough.

I enjoy the feeling of being hit by a pressure washer. Just zone out and let the sensations take over.

Advanced Calculus.

I disassociate
- Ding, ding, ding!
- Yeah, mostly this.
  The white noise and the water hitting my body combine to enhance the feeling.
- Same. Every morning.

Either just stand there and let my toughts wander, or shave my balls, or have sex with my wife if she tagged along, or furious masturbation followed by self loathing.

Avoiding getting out. Even Batman has trouble with it http://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/2013-11-20

It's a mix of relaxing, warming up, thinking about life. I rarely do it nowadays though.

To me it's like saying, what are you actually doing when you get a massage?
Enjoying it
- I do feel like this is a fundamental misunderstanding I had with one of my housemates. For me, showers are an assault on the senses where I have to balance overheating but having the water hot enough to loosen oil. For her it was a reprieve and pleasurable. Unfortunately, I also have bladder issues and need to use the bathroom a lot randomly :(
  
  I mean, unless it involves a waffle stomp, ain’t no shame in taking a piss in the shower. It can be quite liberating too.
  
  Yeah, I start the shower hot then gradually increase the temp as I get used to it, and I'm usually in there until the hot water runs out. I've had housemates comment on how hot I have it based on the position I left the tap mixer. But it's a critical part of my wake-up routine, the very first part of which is getting up to pee. So I rarely need to pee mid-shower. If I do, I just hop out and pee while dripping wet and hop back in.
  Anyway, between that and my morning coffee I need to get up at least an hour before I leave for work. I'll compromise with a takeaway coffee if I'm running late, but if I'm so behind that showering is gonna make me late, so be it.

Enjoying actually doing nothing, usually.
- Totally fair
  Self care is health care✨

Depends, it's just nice to stand under warm water so if I've got the time I'm not gonna rush.
Sometimes I'm doing an "everything" shower where I use conditioner on my hair and facial cleanser, etc. whereas a usual quick one is just shampoo and shower gel

Trying to find the spoons to get back out and dry myself.

I'm actually having a shower, just being too tired/unmotivated to do it at "normal" speed.

Sit on the floor, let hot rain warm me, breathe, let every muscle relax, try to find the center of me, fail, still enjoy warmth.

Wishing that the west had the bathtub culture of Japan so I could be sitting down
- bathtubs are good sometimes but imo showers are superior
  you can sit in the shower btw. no one is gonna tell you not to.
- But the west does have a bathtub culture?
  
  not like japan
- Shower chair.
  
  Not the same at all. I realize this is my fault for poorly communicating. I want to sit down while being enveloped in toasty water that brings me back to the only peaceful period of my life, the uterine experience. And really I want to lay down

For better or for worse I tend to reflect and ruminate over the things I did that day and worry/think about how I can be better.
as this usually adds like 10mins to my showers I've started to play one of my favorite tracks to help me time limit myself
That and sometimes I get great ideas that tends to loop on itself and so out of fear of losing my funk I also delay getting out😅

Relax and warm up.
Or shaving!

Shaving my scalp to near perfection so it can power a solar farm.

Try to calm down

Zoning out and letting my mind wonder while the water flows down my back. Then forgetting if I already washed and doing it again.

Depends.
Most of the time, it's going the extra mile, like scrubbing the heels extra, maybe paying more attention than usual to body parts that aren't high maintenance. That kind of thing.
Sometimes, it's pampering myself. Breaking out all the goodies that don't get you cleaner, they just feel or smell good. Like those fancy sugar scrubs or whatever.
Others, it's just sitting in the heat because my muscles are hurting from staying tight because the rest of me is hurting. Ngl, I kinda count that as pampering too, but it isn't exactly the same thing all the way.
Every now and then, I'm lost in thought. Okay, I'm pretty much always lost in thought while doing any of that, but sometimes I get lost early enough in the process that what was meant to be a quick shower ends up long because the motor got running, but it didn't get put in gear. If I'm already deep in my head when I sit down (disability usually requires a shower bench), I may entirely neglect to grab anything to actually get started bathing until something interrupts the thought chain.
I just got out of the shower, btw. And I can't remember a damn thing about the process other than grabbing various products and using them. If I couldn't tell by smell and feel, I could have been washing my beard with my wife's vanilla smelling stuff, or a bottle of mouthwash for all I actually remember of what I was doing. I know I'm clean because my body feels clean, and I can smell that I grabbed the right products, but there's no real recollection of specifics.
I know that I was in there twenty minutes or so based on what time I went to get started vs when I opened my lemmy app. But it could have been hours, or a few minutes for all I can remember of being in there.
Mind you, I got some stuff done in my head. A short story I've been pondering on how to start, plans for when I go out tomorrow, a conclusion about the hierarchy of needs of a neighborhood issue, some relived fond memories, some budgeting, and a partial grocery list. Plus a whole bunch of random thoughts and imagery that just flashed through.
That's what I'm doing in there :)
- You should take your Depends off before getting in the shower, they'll get all waterlogged