Anon talks to a girl

I really feel like the world's changed.
The last 20-30 has seen everything flip on it's head it's so weird.
Everything seemed more freeing and liberating, more open . But now everything's gone to shit. Don't even care if I sound like a boomer anymore. World is actually fucked up.
- Everything seemed more freeing and liberating, more open
  I mean... I'm sorry to say that this is just what aging feels like.
  Choices narrow, freedoms restrict, responsibilities build. And all the while, we gain more personal power, more personal experience, and yet we bear witness to more and more things that we cannot change.
  You don't sound like a boomer, because boomers didn't invent aging. You just sound like someone who is letting themself get old.
  
  I'm saying from the 70's to the 80's things got less sexist, less conservative, more liberating, more free speech. Same thing happened from the 80's to the 90's. Possibly same from 90's to 00's (or maybe largely the same). Then 00's to 10's the trend reversed, then 10's to 20's that reversal continued.
  Now here we are.
  What I am saying is. Whenever I talked to people about university that were older than me it seemed better in their view and mine. Everyone I talked about university after seems it got worse in their view and mine.
  Same for childhood and same for 20's (2008 being an exception). I also noticed this about travelling to other countries.
  
  Choices narrow, freedoms restrict, responsibilities build
  I don't think freedoms really restrict, I think we end up restricting ourselves because we prioritize those responsibilities over our own desires. I think it's just our perception of what we can do changes, and we get more realistic about what we can achieve.
  As you said, as we get older, we get more personal power and experience, and we have the option to try to pursue those, or to take the "easier" path and stick to our responsibilities. I find myself copping-out all the time (i.e. I have kids, so I don't spend time protesting/lobbying for change), yet I totally could make the time for other things if I really prioritize it. In fact, I've been considering running for office because I hate my local reps, I just haven't committed to it yet. But I could totally do it if I really wanted to.
  I like the idea of circles of control vs influence (7 habits of highly effective people), or ILOC/ELOC (what my work uses). Basically, you have two groups of things:
  circle of influence - what you can control, impact directly
  circle of concern - things you care about, but cannot control or impact directly
  Here's an image w/ some examples. As you get older, both circles increase in size. You can take proactive steps to increase the circle of influence faster than the circle of concern, which generally involves goal setting and internal motivation. And that gets hard when responsibilities mount and we just want to relax, and I would be lying if I didn't say the desire to relax beats my desire to grow my circle of influence most of the time.
- The world is fucked up, has been depending on perspective, but more so now.
  Its your inability to adept that triggers your melancholy. Which is a seemingly natural coping mechanism but you could also, like, try and/or change. Nothing is stopping you to actually live. But you need to take risks, go out your comfortzone and confront your current self. Else your actually are a grumpy "boomer", not sound like one.
  If you can't handle the change get help and get tested, for autism/depression/ADHD and always get into shape (no excuses, mandatory) Some people adapt better than others, but if you stagnate, well, you stagnate. Everywhere,everything,everyone will adapt to zeitgeist and changes. Accept and adept or rot away. Your choice.
  
  I just spent two years living and working in Australia and New Zealand. Not sure any of that applies to me.
  When I came to university and meeting girls/ having fun everything that came before me seemed better, everything that came after me seemed worse.
  Its been on the downward for a while. Same applies to being a kid, though I did get somewhat a good foot in both worlds as a kid. Now seems worse than my time though.
- Every generation says that lol.

Could be bone-headedness, could even be autism considering the source.

8 months? the misery!
anon dodged a bullet

This is really my competition. Man I'm just real unlucky

Why does this type of greentext feel so manipulative
- All of them are the product of mental illness or severe immaturity. Or both. To believe that a greentext is not the expression of, or desire to proliferate, negative character qualities is naive. Which is to say, this isn’t unusually manipulative. Also asking people out is ok
  
  It's ok but it's like this idea that they should be ashamed for not thinking to do it, like it's their obligation as a man or something

- Your point?