AITA teaching our daughter mean things to say to other kids at school

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/luckyifwerespeak on 2023-07-27 15:55:40+00:00.

I(31m) have a 9 year old daughter with my wife(30f) and she has been having a hard time in school. Bullying and such by a handful of other kids. The "leaders" are a young boy and young girl. Not really going to get into that here.

We've taken all the steps to prevent it. Talk to the teachers and principle, we've had meetings with the parents over the other kids. We've had her switch classes etc. None of it seems to work as they will go out of their way to find my daughter. It's crazy to think that from when I was a kid and now schools are still just as useless when it comes to bullying. They'll let something go on for years but once the victim does something back they start the punishment.

I grew up in the rough inner city area and developed a way with words there. You wouldn't survive a lunch table without being able to riff, roast, and insult someone endlessly. I can see a person/thing/show/movie etc and just start riffing jokes about it, it's just in my blood at this point from kindergarten to high school. My daughter was telling me about things that happened at school and me being fed up that there is nothing we can do. I gave her things to call them and say about them that I won't post here but nothing crazy. Think making fun of someone's big head or bad outfit.

Well I guess it worked TOO well because she had the group of kids crying. And the school contacted me about it. Now I'm not here to go in on school policy and their weak way of handling bullying and punishing victims. My wife understands why I did it, but is upset. My parents are livid about it and saying I'm teaching her to be bad and that I'm as asshole for doing this. My wife thinks I should have told her about this before I jumped the gun and just decided to do it. My parents think it was wrong all together and I'm an asshole. My inlaws think it is hilarious.