Trying not to let Lemmy votes control my mood
Me on the Fediverse, or specifically Lemmy, trying not to depend on the number of upvotes and downvotes for my instant and temporary happiness, as well as my mental health problems that arose from downvotes.
I think you should view your comments as separate from you account. When someone downvotes, they are probably just not liking the comment, not because they hate you or anything. Like, sometimes there are known members of Lemmy that I just know are good people and argue in good faith, but sometimes they do make bad arguments and I downvote, but it does not mean I hate them in anyway. Downvotes are against the comment, not the user.
Also, Lemmy doesn't have karma anyways.
But I just gave an upvote here, hopefully that makes you feel slightly better 🤗
You can turn votes off if you dont want to see them. Idk if that helps, but worth trying no? Or you can only show upvotes.
You can turn downvotes off in the settings. That's what I did. If people take issue with what I said then they need to put in some effort and write me a message.
Might be a generational thing but I never like social media much and the ones I engaged in like slashdot then reddit and now here ; well I like to treat it like talking with friends in a basement or bar or whatever. So I guess what im saying is I don't really look at my posts or comments. I rely and try to have conversations and sometimes they get heated and sometimes they get goofy. Often at the same time. I realize there are bots and shills and trolls so if things get to wierd I will check what the person has wrote in the past and if they don't seem like a real human being I will block them. I never really look at the up or down votes when I evaluate an account in that way. It took me back that piefed had a threshold. that worked back in the day with slashdot but not in the days of botsNcrap. Sorry don't really have answers for ya but just a perspective.
There are instances with downvotes turned off. Blahaj, for example
And the best of them all, mine!
Though... you might not see this because, at least for some time, your instance blocked mine.
People who downvote care what you write.
i turned mine off, feels a lot more natural
Do you take breaks from lemmy at all ?
Remember there are very few controls against creating sock puppet accounts for vote manipulation purposes on a lot of instances. If you get slammed with a bunch of downvotes it's entirely possible that's just one person.
Lemmy would be better without downvotes tbh.
The fediverse would be a better place if visually there were no votes. I'm fine with it influencing the algorithm (hot, best, controversial, etc) but showing them to users can create a lot of indirect problems.
I believe you can hide vote counts.