Anon is confused

One way to understand them better is to occasionally talk. Cuz like, guys and girls are actually incredibly similar. A couple of conversations a day, with the occasional really good conversation, can go a very long way towards understanding each other. Everything you don't talk about is one more thing you won't understand.
- Its true. I wondered why I didn't feel like girls were any different from me and why I had a hard time understanding both girls and boys, then I learned I was trans and autistic
- you’r not talking that kinda person into making sense
  
  I'm not hoping the person from 4 chan is also in here, just giving general advice for anyone reading it now.
- It's super effective!

I remember this post. Same opinion still. Not the best course of action, but I wonder if it was a last ditch effort for him to give a fuck, which he doesn't seem to, and that broke her heart. Not that that means she did the right thing, but with all the comments patting anon on the back for dodging a bullet, I'll give one to the lady for conforming that Anon doesn't love her like she thinks/wants. Hopefully they'll both find someone that makes them happy.
- When being taught that no is supposed to mean no I dont believe there is any other appropriate reaction to being given the divorce papers
  
  Yeah, for sure. If you tell someone you want to call things off, you gotta be prepared for that "sure." Definitely wasn't her best move.
  Doesn't mean I can't have some empathy for her, even if I don't agree. Humans do crazy, sometimes even terrible things, out of hurt and love. Us humans are pretty flawed. 😅

Wanted you to fight for her affection. Time to separate and run away
This will NOT be the last test their partner does. Relationship tests are toxic.
- Relationship tests are toxic.
  Hah. The woman I was briefly married to really wanted me to be jealous, but I didn't realize that at the time. I was just happy for her whenever she told be about her great friends who happened to be men.
  This culminated when she told me it wasn't fair that I had had other sexual partners in my life but she had not. I replied that if she was asking me for an open relationship and it was really important to her, then it would be something we could discuss. That was not what she wanted to hear.
  She was not a nice person (to put it mildly) so I don't regret being so clueless.
  
  My current SO is similar. They asked if I'd be okay with them watching a movie with a friend of my gender online. I said, "sure, go for it" offhandedly. They were flabbergasted and said they expected me to be jealous. They then asked how I'd feel if it was in person instead, and I said, "I'd want to meet them first because I don't trust them, but I do trust you." Again, flabbergasted.
  My SO is a nice person though, just a little protective. We're happily married and we make sure to inform eachother about anything the other may be uncomfortable with. We just differ in what we're comfortable with, and I think that's fine.
  
  Wow, thats intense, I hope your in a better situation now!
  
  Based responses from you tbh. Relationships work best when you try to solve problems rather than ramp up emotions constantly
  
  I've found some people who act jealous and want you to be jealous are that way because they're cheaters. They may not be cheating now but they know they would given the right opportunity and they assume you're like them. So they worry about you cheating and they get upset when you don't worry about them cheating because they assume that means you don't care. It's a messed up and miserable way of thinking, and if you're not the cheating or jealous type but naive to their thinking, together you'll have a lot of conflict and confusion.
- Either that, or she thought she wanted out, only to realize when it was done that she no longer felt like she had somebody to depend upon. The feeling of safety is what keeps a lot of people in relationships they might not feel love in anymore. When you make someone your world for years, it's gonna impact you when that goes away, even if it was your choice.

Anon caught a bullet.
- Tape em back together surely!

It was a test
- A deranged one...
  
  That goes without saiyan

Drama queen
- Time to file the divorce papers.
- Yeah I'd rather bet that he is kinda emotionally disconnected from anything happening with her (and himself).
  So she probably never feels supported, tried to talk about, didn't work, finally divorced him but loves him too much to actually go through with it.
  
  Maybe.
  That said, my SO is similar to this. We don't talk as much as we should, but that seems to be because they got into online gaming with their friends and play during the times we would normally hang out. I'm expected to go out of my way to make up for that, but I don't need as much emotional contact as they do so I don't. I'm usually just hanging out on the bed on my own, and I put down my phone, game, book, etc the moment they initiate.
  This causes some issues occasionally, but I don't think I'm the cause here. We have kids, and I end up interacting with them more to make more time for them to play (I make breakfast and get them ready for bed).
  That said, I'm trying to be more proactive to help them be more fulfilled. I just wonder if anon is in a similar situation.

If only divorce was a simple form..
- It is though, if it's amicable. It only gets complicated if you disagree on who gets what.
  If there aren't kids or pets involved, just hire an arbiter and be done with it in a day.
  
  Depends on where you live.
  In Finland you have to be officially separated for 6 months before you can get a divorce.
  
  I've been in this situation. Amicable. Split evenly. No kids. A half hour with my buddy who is a lawyer to sign papers and done.
  
  If finances also are separate it can be very quick
- Civil unions work like that over here. I could walk into town hall tomorrow and tell them I want to separate from my SO and all I need is my autograph, not even hers.
  
  What about assets and everything else that goes along with a relationship?
  
  And that’s how it should work right? Nobody should be allowed to keep someone hostage in a “relationship”.
- Depends where you are. There's companies here that'll come to your house and divorce you in a morning.

Anon is emotionally stunted and this person really loves them but doesn't feel it back. Anon needs to express themselves better
- Anon sounds pretty over it, and I don't blame them.
  Also, if they're making a greentext about this, they're quite possibly on the spectrum, in which case it's on their partner to communicate clearly.
  
  Being on the spectrum does not put the onus of communication on the partner, and I say that as someone decidedly on the spectrum. It's still a partnership that requires all players to participate fully.

It’s only going to get worse, Anon. Rethink the relationship. Consider filing for divorce yourself.