10 years from now. You've got this!

This isn’t wholesome for me, it is a literal waking nightmare.
I don’t want cookie cutter suburban stability I want a reason to live.
This ain’t it for me man.
- The OP post doesn't say it's a suburb. It could be country or city for all we know. I have seen snow in both.
  Maybe the "kids" are your cat/dog "children."
  Maybe it's not stable. Maybe you are the president of a company that does work on a contract basis, and you choose who you do the work for because you make the proposals.
  If marriage doesn't sound good to you because you associate it with monogamy, know that there is such a thing as a non-monogamous marriage. I'm in one.
  
  I recently moved to a city close to several national forest preserves. My dream is to buy a few dozen acres butting up against preserved land with a supply of water. I want to start a family and build a homestead that might withstand the changing climate.
  I've spent over a decade of my adult life split between roles both teaching children and working at a tech company that didn't appreciate me nearly enough. Up until the end of last year, I made between $14 - $35 / hr. I finally left the abusive tech company and spent 6 - 9 months searching until a few months ago, I started a new job. It's a DevOps role at a company with a great product, doing something I believe in, for really intelligent passionate people, for almost $200k a year.
  Currently, not only is paying off my student loans finally a possibility, with remote work, that homestead life is now possible too. My work is rewarding, and instead of just staying home and smoking weed, I have high enough income and low enough stress to feel comfortable going out.
  I sing Karaoke one day a week, go to a writer's group another day, take a cooking class about once a month, and currently, I've decided to learn DnD. All of these activities once seemed fiscally irresponsible to me, because I felt like I had to devote my time into passion projects to try to escape the rat race. Now that I have real income, I'm fully invested in it. I'm ready to sacrifice my day hours for good enough cheese.
  It's all relative. I want to overthrow our oppressors as much as anyone. I haven't been bought out necessarily. But given the situation, I'm starting to buy in, just a bit. If a bit of wealth and a role I don't hate can enable me to get physically fit, find a partner, and secure a plot of land where we can weather the oncoming storm, I have a hard time not rejoicing in the idea that ten years from now, we might be living a relatively mundane rural lifestyle. If we need some technical manpower to bring the oligarchy down, I'll be there. But maybe also it's okay to want to be happy.
  
  Based into space
  
  A non-monogamous marriage counter to most of people’s concept behind a marriage. It’s good it works for you but is fairly fringe.
- You hear: Employed, has home, married, has kids
  You think: Cookie cutter suburban stability, literal waking nightmare?
  
  You can’t walk away from those things easily.
  I see them as suffocating and a compromise to my own self.
  Of course I accept that others see it differently but your response is exactly why this is a denigrated view.
  If you go against the grain of our society (I.e. you aren’t a heterosexual couple with children, a house, job and family pet) you are weird or unsuitable for raising children.
  FYI the person above me edited their original comment where they said I shouldn’t have children (for the children’s sake - won’t somebody think of the children!!!).
  It’s important context because I would say it is the prevailing view of our society (that social deviants should not have children) but they said the silent part out loud and realised.
  
  Tbf two of those four I would like to avoid if at all possible.
  
  is lifescript ..
  
  You just don't get it man, he's different. He has edge!
- To each their own. No doubt. You should still shoot for some sort of equivalent. Doesn't have to be monetary just a dream to make a reality.

About 5 years ago, I had this dream... I was sat at the bottom of a spiral staircase, in what I knew to be my house, having a party with my fiancee sat next to me. I laughed and said "How did I get so lucky, someone pinch me!". Fiancee pinched me, I said "ow!" and we laughed. Then I woke up, fucking brutal sense of loss for a wonderful life that suddenly didn't exist.
I still remember it quite clearly. Last month my landlord served notice on me after 13 years (wants to sell), I'm self employed and always thought a mortgage was out of the question. Well... I have tenative approval from a lender... and an offer accepted on a house... still time for it to fall apart. So I refuse to get excited till keys in hand.
Anyway this has turned into a bit of a long ting. But just wanted to share, for anyone else who thinks it's impossible... it's very hard. But do-able.
- I hope everything works out for the best!
  
  Thanks! I'm sure it will. Worst case scenario I'll live with my dad for a bit who I love to bits, I won't be homeless whatever happens.
- That wasn't a dream, it was a premonition!
  
  Wouldn't that be awesome!
- Good luck, I hope you move in safely and everything goes well.
  
  Thanks :)
- Dude I'm so sorry, isn't why is it that your own brain/subconscious can be so shitty to yourself? Why Do we torture ourselves :(
  
  Exceptionally cruel, wasn't it! Probably just my subconscious trying to remind me that I once dreamed of owning my own home and finding that special someone. "Like come on dude! I'm trapped in here with you, the input of late has become quite depressing, can you sort yourself out please?"

This is literally impossible. Christmas 2033 falls on a Sunday, how can the following day be Saturday?
- You aren't accounting for the inclusion of "Trumpsday" to extend the workweek in honor of the newly-declared President for Life in the late 2020s.
  
  "Life" being potentially less than one term. Its who's on deck that makes me nervous.

Reality:
You get fucked by big companies. Your snow is reduced to februrary because of climate change.
Finding a special other is almost impossible due to social media fed anxiety. Meeting people outside of the internet is unknown and people on the internet are the weirdest ones.
Owning a house is a privilege of the upper society.
Thanks to our parents and grand parents the governments in most countries are more right wing than before.
- I agree w most of this but I'd argue most people meet outside the internet. I'm online far too much for it to be healthy and even I meet most people irl
  
  You are probably right. I exaggerated a bit.
- While this may be true, I usually think that the problem is me, not other people
  
  Well it is always good to look at it from a different view and see if you are the problem, but if you have done that come to a logical conclusion
- Don't forget you get cancer, and your wife leaves with half your retirement
- "Reality" from OP's post is not 10 years from now, it's right now for me except it's not Christmas and snowing because it's September.
  I achieved it by living in a low cost of living area and being smart. I got academic scholarships to get my start in college, then built a mountain of student loan debt as I continued through college, then entered the workforce and built a good career. Still working on almost 40k of loans and a mortgage, but I have it all well under control.
  
  Good for you. I for my case also don't have it bad. Never even knew of Student debt until I went to reddit, because in Germany most education is free.
  However we should consider us lucky and most people won't even have a chance to get there even if they work 20 hours a day.
  
  I hate to tell you this, but your experience isn't typical.

I'm going to be honest but that's really not my dream life lol
- Care to share your win conditions?
  
  Not OP but retiring alone so it's me time 24 7

In ten years we'll have missed the boat to have kids and we still probably won't be able to afford a home in the city we live in. At least it won't be long till the Water Wars starts and ends this miserable timeline.
- Honestly I don't regret moving to the countrimyside for the kids. Even if my commute is doubled.
  
  Lol i moved to the suburbs for myself and yes it's way better than living in the city.

This is a nightmare. I intentionally moved somewhere that it never snows and I absolutely hate children.
- Snow kills big insects and leaves nothing too bad. The amount of cockroaches in some places makes makes snow worthwhile in its own right.
  Humidity, now that's the real killjoy.
  
  Imagine celebrating Xmas in QLD Australia. December 25th and 26th are often the most humid days of the year, or very close to it. Storm season is threatening, but not quite delivering so that humidity just builds and builds but rarely breaks.
  It's so hot that nobody can sleep. Your house is filled with in-laws you can barely stand and their awful offspring screeching on everyone's final sleep deprived, sweat drenched nerve.
  You shower three times a day, but you are dripping rivers of sweat again before you can get your fresh clothes on.
  Everyone sits down to a massive hot Christmas meal (as is tradition) and the table is decorated with heavily snow themed decore. Snowmen feature heavily...for some reason none of the kids quite understand.
  Nat King Cole croons in the background about chestnuts on an open fire.
  Everyone drinks heavily, wishing they had never moved to this cursed continent.
  Relationships are under new strain.
  People talk about the looming climate crisis and you finally snap.
  Looming?! This country has NEVER been fit for human habitation! Never!
  Nat King Cole keeps crooning from some blessed snowy heaven but he's drowned out by the shrill of cicadas.
  
  Also having a winter means really enjoying the summer. I love living with four seasons. Even shoveling snow with my partner is something I look forward to every year.
- Yep. Also owning a single family house in a snowy parts of the world absolutely sucks

I have a vasectomy...
WHERE DID THE KIDS COME FROM
- You and your partner are clearly goat farmers producing high quality, organic, cruelty-free, goat cheese that has made you millions.
  
  Best answer
- I wonder where... btw why do they look like your future neighbors?
- Wow are you me? Had the same reaction lmao
- Adopted hopefully? That'd be better than an unwelcome surprise.

Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose a three-piece suit on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pissing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourselves. Choose your future.
- People reporting this haven't seen Trainspotting. Brilliant movie!
- WE WANT YOUR SOUL
  
  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zG29C4skboc

If you don't own a home by now, then you probably never will. Unless you are given a large sum of money, forget it.
- Or waiting for parents to pass along dat inheritance
  
  watching my inlaws destroy their house through hording, neglect and laziness has been deeeeeeepressing - not for me, we moved away from the south and my time in the army helped me buy a house, but for my wife's siblings. It's gonna be a wreck before they confront their problems, and any kind of generational benefit to their other kids is gone.
- The reality is that people are buying homes, though. Over half of millennials are now homeowners. The number of first time homebuyers in the US, the majority of which are around 30 years old, has hovered between 1.5 million and 2 million per year since 2008.
  It's absolutely true that our money doesn't go as far as our parent's did, but people are buying homes every day and it's silly to act like it's impossible for most people.
  
  Sources?
- My parents thought the same thing when they came out of school in the 80s, I thought the same thing when I came out of school in the 00s... the cycle continues!

I am 31 and still don't see myself having kids in 10 years or indeed ever.
and I would prefer sitting in my jaccuzi while it's snowing around me.
- I've always said that I'll know when I've made it when I can sit in a jacuzzi with a view during a snowstorm.

God I hope I don’t have kids in my late mid 40’s. Can I imagine living in a shack I built on some land I bought and I don’t have to talk to idiots everyday about nonsense? Nne of that shit in the meme appeals to me.

These are such negative comments in the replies
- You're right. I thought the more positive ones were just being downvoted by the pessimists, but yikes the comments only got darker the further I scrolled down.
- Seriously wtf

10 years later: Single, can’t afford rent, job doesn’t pay, kids? Can’t even afford a fish, it’s scorching hot outside, and tomorrow you work. All the hard work, for what? At least the bosses made it
- Why wait ten years, when we’re all living the dream today.

Boomer fanfiction is so hot right now.

This but without the kids
- I'm living it, and it's great. Not an xmas fan personally, so I get my warm fuzzies elsewhere, but to each

Picture this: enough fent to kill an elephant. You smile as you throw all of it in your mouth and chase it with your favorite cocktail.
- Wholesome thanks! Wish it was me. Also to be fair that much fent is like what a bottle cap of 100% fent ? Haha
  
  It's a pill or two if you're not in the game. Smoke it on foil. Waking up after an accidental one hit OD made me reevaluate shit.
  It's so peaceful. Waking up was even glorious.
  You are worth more than your own death. It may not feel like it, but I promise you it's true. Talk to me if you ever want to.
  (yes I want to die and talk others out of dying. fite me)

Snowing in the middle of summer? That's disturbing.
- agreed - that's apocalypse tier!
  
  "doom is coming, i tell ya!"
- makes you wish for a nuclear winter
  
  We won't go quietly. The Legion can count on that.

c/aboringdystopia

Why must you torture me.

I remember seeing this meme about twelve years ago and thinking Yeah I got this. Well, I didn't and I don't.

Snow, in this climate?
Must be nuclear fallout.

The nice part is "the kids are asleep" because kids are so much fucking work when they are awake. "You made it" means you finally got the kids too sleep because they ate too much sugar and were bouncing off the fucking walls because "I can't sleep because I'm too excited".

Turned 40 April 1st. Married 20 very happy years. This is my every day homies :D
- You got married at 20? Yeah either you're well off or lying.
  
  Tons of people get married young
  
  But it's true. I'm happy. Takes work but it DOES work.

Not the hard work addressing my alcoholism, apparently

I'm 8 years in right now, 2 more to go but damn what a struggle. Building a house while simultaneously raising 3 kids and working a full time job is really hard. Thank God for the best wife I could ever ask for.

I do not dream of labor. Ten years from now I hope I am building apocalypse resistant shelters with my affinity group, growing my own food and filtering my own water, and growing cannabis for trade.

I had that 10 years ago. It was amazing. Then my wife's personality did a 180 and she left me.
... yay
- I never had it. It's been 20 years and still it never comes.
- :(

I could, but Christmas Day 2033 is a Sunday.

Why would you want to watch TV?
And it doesn't snow here anymore, hmm.
- need another rewatch of star trek TNG and DS9
  
  Voyager: am I a joke to you?

I don't see it. I wish I did but I don't :(

Very depressing, in 10 years I should be retired and my kids out of the house, not clinging home like leeches... jeee.
- Real parental love here. I would hate to be associated with you in any way

But I have to work on Saturday.
- then you made it on Sunday

10 years from now ... It's snowing
cherish it

the kids are asleep
So unrealistic

Didn't happen

Damn the revolution was successful? Sweet, we made it!
- I don't mean to be a downer, but I don't think the revolution will bring back snow, unless the capitalists set the world on fire.

I mean, there's "wholesome", and then there's "pull the other one, it's got bells on".

Kill me right now if that's my future lmao

Impossible. The kids are ALWAYS up first on Christmas.
- I think it's nighttime

I dig your username.

Alternatively, skip the kids and get there 20 years earlier.

This but no kids

Oh brother...

Already married (more than a decade). Nice home (but renting). Disabled so can't work but that's OK, we make the best of it. We don't celebrate Christmas but I can imagine Winter Solstice or Matariki. Kids are almost asleep, so close enough. My spouse and I snuggle like this most nights. Holy shit, it's snowing?! It doesn't snow here so I'm simultaneously delighted for a once in a lifetime snowfall but also disturbed that it's snowing.... We homeschool, what day of the week is it again? The hardwork is indeed worth it.
Still 7/10 ain't bad 😅
Every day is 'making it' though and will be for the rest of our lives since life is ever changing and ever evolving. Find hygge and gratitude every day and you'll realise that you don't need to achieve some fake "made it" state because you already have 💜

I got it a couple of times. Waiting for the next time.

Nice home? I'm Canadian...

I don't want a job or kids. Both sound stressful

Lmao I thought that 10 years ago. Now I have a house, a good job and 3 cats.

Oh bother

6 years ago my wife died. I chose to keep on going for our cats. I've since remarried, we have a daughter on the way, two dachshunds, we bought a house, and I reconnected with my mother after 15 years. Life is so fucking hard but sometimes we get lucky. Keep rolling the dice until you can't no more.

if this was 1975 I would totally picture it

10 years from now?
It won't happen. Either the AI will have killed us all by then, or it turns out the AI is benevolent and so no one has to work anymore anyway and so I'm not really bothered if it's the weekend.
Either way I don't have to worry about it.
- If AI is even possible as a concept we wouldn't have it in 10 years. Chatbot wouldn't evolve into general AI
  
  There is a drone war slowly heating up right now. There is no option to not create AI. 10 years is generous.
- Someone has been reading too many mainstream tech articles lately lol
- I'd bang a robo hoe