I refuse to fix anything for my inlaws without them watching me. I make them watch me Google the solutions and follow the instructions. It helps reinforce the "it's not magic and I'm not a wizard" reality I want to instill in everyone.
"Try teaching an impatient person, who undervalues the subject matter, already missed several opportunities to learn about it in formal education settings and who you lack a teacher-student dynamic with..."
Or, in a way...
"It's one banana, Michael - what could it cost, $10?"
Of course my suggestion wasn't without limits. Personally I will try to help/teach anyone once. If they continue to not make any effort then neither will I.
I'm probably the same generally, but I don't have to be humble about it.... IME, majority are capable and would just rather be doing something else. So they get to go dance, I have to learn/practice and then fix their shit/teach them when their done dancing because I care for them as friends, family or just other humans.
Just frustrating, but I'll typically offer the help or opportunity to learn, where applicable.
This seems like an opportunity to quote one my shirts "I can explain it to you but I can't understand it for you". Teaching always involves two willing people.