This is the kind of bullshit an alcoholic mom posts after she loses custody.
Well my mother wasn't forgiving so I guess I'm screwed.
yeah yeah, we get it, you have forgiving mothers, nice humble brag.
The same should be true in reverse. Couples should be trying to compassionately make each other better, no matter what gender they are. And kids lose their mind a bit when they realize their parents are humans with faults. I think that's part of where teenage angst and rebellion comes from.
There's no need to gender this unless we want to specifically talk about toxic culture.
Good lord the discourse here is about as well as the man or bear discussions.
Something I notice is how everytime someone makes these kinds of criticisms, the counterarguments turn into a pit of semantics and extropolations. As if the original post was a massive research thesis rather than just women venting frustration over the entitlement and danger they're subjected to daily.
You gotta look past the specific wording to see the overarching societal themes, emotions, and issues. It's like those magic eye pictures.
I hate that I have to raise a son in an environment that is becoming so hateful towards men just for existing. I saw a picture of a woman at a protest against a child molester and she had a sign that says "not all men but it's ALWAYS a man" As someone who was molested by a woman when I was a kid, that shit is offensive and aggressive.
What does this even mean?
"Men lose their mind" = they start shouting and shitting on the floor in disbelief?
"Daughters aren't as forgiving as their wives": forgiving what exactly? Mistakes?
It's like they think they're saying something profound and agreeing with each other but saying nothing of value (as is natural on twitter).
Look at this point I know more women with unrealistic relationship expectations than men.
The world has changed a ton in the past twenty years. There's been a lot of discussion about toxicity in regards to male gender roles, and fundamentals changes to what's acceptable for a man to expect in a relationship.
There hasn't really been that discussion in women. While many women have perfectly fair expectations, there are a lot of women who will expect a man to completely reject gendered expectations of them, while having a ton of expectations of a man. It's almost a joke among my single male friends that the more vocal someone is about being a feminist, the more likely they'll expect you to pay for the date.
There's also a subculture of women behaving in ways that would be considered objectively toxic a decade ago, but have been normalized due to the whole oppressor/oppressed culture war narrative. I've seen women bail on long term relationships in ways that are 100 percent because they just want to sleep around. I've seen women push their husband into an "ethically polyamaorous" relationship that always is extremely one sided. I've also seen a lot of women with an "I can do better" mentality that nobody in a relationship would have to put up with.
I'm not saying women are universally awful or anything. I'm just saying I think we need to have the same conversation around how women behave that we had in regards to how men behave.
There is a fine line between valid criticism of gender roles & sexism.
An example of the former would be, "Men are dangerous for women". Of course not all men are dangerous, but it describes the experience of many women & how they have to navigate the world, to not be assaulted.
This one describes the dynamic of a relationship between individuals & assigns a thought pattern to one of those individuals, based on their gender.
Maybe I missed some nuances here & I would be glad to be enlightened, but this looks like plain sexism.
It's nice to not need forgiving. #freedom
Y'all are reading this as feminist? It's literally an observation by some chicks on twitter, not some kind of feminist rhetoric.
Feminism is currently more preoccupied with dismantling the gender binary entirely, not reinforcing stereotypes like in this twitter post.
I've never had a wife, nor a daughter, so I can't really say much about how forgiving they are. If this doesn't match your lived experience, stop giving a fuck and move on.
I see folks here are bent on proving the point.
I wonder how many people here were ready to let trump win because they didn't want to vote for 'Another white male'
