Not much to go on, get evaluated by a psychiatrist and then work on getting either or both medicines or therapy to help you manage it.
Unless you have something more specific that you can say about why you think that you have ADHD or if there's something you need help with, that's about as far anyone can tell you.
To add, autism is comorbid with ADHD, and they can appear like or compound each other. Definitely something to have a professional diagnose.
What if I'm just lazy as my mum says?
What if I'm just lazy as my mum says?
You aren’t lazy. Laziness is just a term we use to shame people who aren’t doing what we want them to do. There are always reasons people don’t do stuff.
For people with ADHD, it’s often down to executive dysfunction. But there are other reasons.
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There's some good medicine, but it doesn't "fix" ADHD. It only fixes, like, one symptom of it: your inability to pay attention. Time blindness, rapidly shifting interests, executive dysfunction, etc. are all unaffected by medicine.
Talk to a professional and see if you can get a formal diagnosis... it's worth it.
Could you please elaborate on how it is worth it? For being able to get the medicine, or did it help you understand yourself better, etc etc?
It provides access to medication, therapy, self comprehension, and, depending on your area, disability support.
Build routines and plan your week, the fewer micro-decisions you have to make the better.
Routines for getting up, eating breakfast (exercising?). Routines for lunchtime, routines for going to bed. Routines for preparing dinner, routines for planning and going grocery shopping, routines for chores, routines to work through irregular chores/paperwork. Routines for leaving the house, routines for coming back. Best paired with a time commitment when to start a routine, planned ahead and set within a weekly schedule.
Don't start with all of them at once, plan one or two (the ones you stand to gain the most out of), prepare your weekly planner (physically written down! Do not handwave this step away!) then practice them over and over. It's hard work, annoying and exhausting to practice but once they're down you can do them on autopilot and think about whatever else. The planning and talking through of this endeavour is best done with another trusted person
Bro are you actually able to plan and make routines? Because I definitely tried this multiple times only to fail repeatedly until I got meds.
I guess everyone’s ADHD is different, so maybe this works for you and will work for OP, but this kind of advice never worked for me no matter how many times or how hard I tried.
Before I had a kid yeah, I had a two-hour morning routine and a one-hour one depending on when I needed to leave the house. I had the recurring events in a week planned out and time alotted by chores/uni etc. I had a going to bed routine although that one never quite worked as I had hoped.
Having a kid all of it flew out the window of course but eventually Im hoping to get back there. Notably this was achieved with the help of a behavioral therapist. Hence me saying it needs another trusted person.
Edit: also it was a lot of practice, failing, switching things around, it definitely wasn't as straightforward as planning, practicing, perfecting, next one.
if you don't want to/can't go to a psychiatrist, the book "Driven to distraction" was recommended to me. I think it was quite good for me and my partner.
There are a few options, and I honestly say go for all of them at once:
- Take some (legit) self-assessments and see how they feel. E.g. https://embrace-autism.com/asrs-5/
- Find some ADHD resources. See if the techniques and tools help, or at least feel sensible. E.g. the book How To ADHD or various Youtube channels.
- Seek out a psychiatrist to assess you. It may or may not be ADHD, but something is bothering you that needs attention. They are usually good at figuring that out.
Look, it's a squirrel!
After one month I finally asked for help
