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10mo ago

A cool guide to Non-physical compliments

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If someone said ‘I really admire your passion for self exploration’ in a genuine conversation, I would think they were on drugs.
- Not gonna lie I thought self exploration meant they are squeezing the monkey or jilling off.
- Yeah I think i'd call HR and tell them that someone has been stalking me while i was self exploring myself
- At least half of these are creepy as fuck things to say to someone 😂
  You'd sound either completely fake or fuckin autistic
  "I love how transparent you are"
  "I can see right through you" 😂

Depending on the context, some of those can also be savage insults.
- I love how transparent you are...
  
  Thanks! Ive been drinking a lot of bleach and that's been making my skin more see through.
- every compliment can be an insult in the ~~right~~ wrong context

You can add this one
"You made a really nice guide. It definitely is a guide, not at all a list."

- It might mean "strong" in determined, clear-sighted, having goals and mental strength.
  "transparent" in the sense of communicating openly, being true to the word and having no hidden thoughts.
  
  Well that's just misleading. I spent a long time creating this stealth camouflage and I want someone to notice!
  
  No, more like “I can see right through you”
- opacity: .1;
- Nothing physical there, but if you look hard enough for something that you want to find, you'll find it even if its not there
  
  It was definitely a joke
  
  I believe the first was serious, second… not so much.

Why shouldn't I congratulate someone for their body? It's not a given to have a good functioning, well-toned, healthy and strong body musculature. It requires determination and willpower.
- Nothing wrong with a physical compliment, especially if it's something they chose or worked on. But it's nice to know that others notice that you're more than just a good looking body as well.
  
  Complimenting the body does not imply neglecting wits. You are not only a body but your body is an inherent part of what and who you are.
  But I get the impression complimenting on physical attributes is frowned upon nowadays.
- A friend of mine had some unexpected health issues, and lost a ton of weight. They looked good before and after, but they were really uncomfortable when people would "compliment" them on their "weight loss". It wasn't something that they had tried to do, and it was a reminder of the health problems that they'd been struggling with.
  I think complimenting someone's body AFTER they've told you they've been working on it (or if it's obvious they've been working on it, say with muscle gain) is totally fine, but their experience really changed my mind on those types of compliments.
  Sometimes something that you'd think was 100% a compliment can have other effects. My friend wasn't necessarily upset at the people who thought they were complementing them, but the best compliments are for who a person is and how they make the world around them better.
- Nice cock, bro.

Love it, I'm saving this! Sometimes it's easier to compliment what we see so it's nice to be reminded to think a little harder about how we want to uplift people

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