I never thought about ending my pregnancy. Instead, at 19, I erased the future I had imagined for myself.
I couldn’t consider abortion or adoption, but the weird thing is I also couldn’t consider having a baby. I never decided; I never chose. Somewhere in there it became more likely that I was having a baby, but that didn’t make it any more real to me.
When we had sex, we couldn’t use condoms, because having them around would have been admitting an intent to sin or an expectation of fallibility
Hope that helped.
It's hard for me to find empathy for people spouting nonsense like that. Actions have consequences, ignoring to acknowledge them doesn't make them disappear.
Oh no, I don't blame her for that.
I blame her for not using contraceptives, not getting abortion. I ridicule her for not not owning her mistakes. She did choose multiple times even. I blame society for brainwashing people with religion and making braindead situations like this a reality.