This isn't the same. Host nukes is not owning nukes, they seems to be proposing housing US nukes that Poland would not have control of, or be able to launch. With no launch codes, they aren't a valid deterrent to conventional war, unless the world is convinced the US would use them to protect Polish sovereignty, which would obviously not be on the table.
Nothing did go wrong, though. If you're saying there was a close call, that's true, but Russia doesn't have the ability to threaten a conventional response. And no one gets nuked for moving nukes around; look at Belarus.