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The difference is you don't need to identify someone's color or commit a social faux pas. Keep your color names, I just don't want to have to figure out if you are green or lime green and address you as such.

I think the broader argument tends to boil down to the fact that unlike music, which people can simply not engage in describing on a regular basis, gender expression is something that requires much more active participation by all members of a society, and that gender is not inherently separate from the rest of the human experience.

It's already hard enough for some people to remember names, now imagine having to remember which of any number of thousands of neopronouns each individual person you know uses, for example.

Contrast that with their "we'll all just be people" stance, which seems to just be a different wording of gender abolition, and you have a world where people simply express themselves as they are without having to increasingly sublabel.

It's like how while people can have long hair and short hair, wear dark clothes and light clothes, have blue/brown/green/gray/etc eyes, be introverted or extroverted, have a large or small social battery, or experience and display any number of different characteristics, while not having to actually label those characteristics in general conversation or identification.

They're simply traits within the human experience, but not traits that we have to outwardly label and display on a very frequent basis, unlike the way we usually talk about gender. This is especially important considering how every single human being experiences things even a little differently from one another, thus meaning that the number of sublabels is theoretically as large, if not larger than the current population of the earth.

I don't deny that the labels can still exist, and be useful to people, but I think gender is often treated as if it has to be some sort of mythical separate part of the brain, independent from all the other variations in human experience, and thus it must have a separate label at all times, even while we don't particularly care to label and identify with other characteristics that are also within the human experience, some of which have historically flowed between being considered very gendered or less/not gendered, such as assorted personality traits, length of hair, preferred social activities and groups, certain clothing, etc.

I think if you're interested in dating or sex, and you have preferences that are deal breakers. Ask for what they're equipped with.

Similar to how if you're planning on dating someone today and if have sex is important to you. You communicate that. And ask them if they are asexual.

It's perfectly okay to have deal-breaking preferences for these things.

Good question.

Sex: not binary, a lot more confusing the more scientific you make it. Can absolutely be changed. It's coming up on being an outdated term pretty quickly, if not irrelevant already. Probably the least understood term by 99.999999% of people.

Gender: binary exists, a lot of people exist outside of it, too. Also dynamic and fluid. It's the role you play, socially. A lot of people think it should be eliminated. I'm personally on the fence on that. (Bonus: gender expression: is not the same as gender. Gender is who one is, gender expression is how one does it.)

SexUALITY: may be what you're confused on. Is defined by the term sex, but generally refers to the sex of you and the sex of who you're into. Which, if you go by what "sex" means, gets confusing really fast.

So stop worrying about labels, go with the flow, and since life is too short as it is, stop letting society tell you things that you like are acceptable, and if you find it pretty and it feels good and you aren't hurting anybody AND there's consent of all parties involved, GO FOR IT.

I think I'm forgetting stuff here, but the gist is to stop being afraid and stop judging and hating. Accept your ignorance, accept humility, and stop being afraid of learning. Nobody's coming to get you besides the fascists and maybe the tankies.

Ok my morning dump is over gotta wipe have a nice day.

I'm so glad you said breasts!! Come with me on an exploratory walk:

Let's say you fall for a woman. You're getting intimate and she stops you to tell you something serious. See, she hasn't been honest about her body with you. She hasn't dated in awhile and didn't know when the right time was to tell you, but she wants you so much that it can't be avoided now.

She had her breasts removed for an unspecified medical reason. You thought she had a great rack, but those were prosthetics. Despite her biological circumstances he happens to identify with having breasts and prosthetics make her feel confident and normal.

Has there been deception? Have you been led on? I don't think so, I think this was this just part of learning whether you're compatible with someone. Only you know whether the absence of breasts is a deal breaker for you, and you get to decide freely in that moment.

Does that help?

Sex is what's in your pants, gender is how you look.

My hope is that most of the pissed off people would be dead due to natural causes.