me_irl
me_irl
44 comments
-
Idk I think that's fucking rude. What adult person would contemplate treating other people like that?
"You bore me, I'll go do something better than spending time with you"
Seems only a valid option when you're some kind of sociopath considering other people only by their usefulness to yourself. On the other hand maybe I'm overthinking a meme
-
I've met plenty of people where this would be an appropriate response. Not because they're boring but because they're trashy humans, I am not obligated to listen to someone's hateful shit, I can just get up and leave.
-
Is one of those people your father?
-
Yes, actually.
-
Same
-
our father
-
Who art a douchebag
-
-
-
fair enough, then
-
-
No, he was a good person.
-
-
-
As one of them autistic idiots, I really wish people would be straight up, clear as fuck, and brutally honest about everything they are feeling/ thinking. If your bored, just fucking tell me your bored. If you don't want to be around me, just fucking tell me you don't want to be around me. I'm not likely to be offended and then I don't have play the agonizing game of "Guess That Weird Human Emotion I Can't Comprehend".
I don't think your perspective is invalid in the slightest, just offering a different perspective of the same coin. As with every social thing, its all circumstantial. Saying something like this to your boss during a meeting or the VIPs at wedding, is probably not going to so well. But if you know the person and its helpful to them in some way, then I would actually encourage this language.
-
And I have autistic friends who would straight up never forget being told something that cruel, even if they agreed they were being boring. Partly because they would agree they must be boring.
It's like you can't paint everyone in a broad category the same or something.
-
My autistic ass would never speak to someone who said that to me ever again. How could I? I'm so bad at being a human I was told to my face I'm not even worthy of the basics of human interaction politeness. How could I ever bother them again? I'd be inclined to just hide in the house for ages also.
It's not like the healthiest method but I just. How would I deal with that? And god forbid it was in a group setting, I'd probably burst into tears as well.
-
-
The point is that there are better and more kind ways to get the desired outcome (the end of the topic or conversation) than vocally blaming the boredom that you're feeling on the other person.
If I'm talking to someone, they interrupt me, tell me I'm boring, and then leave, that kinda feels awful. Yes, I do want the feedback, and someone straight up telling me that is probably better than pretending or looking at their phone, but I'd rather they tease me with a "get to the point".
-
In 1970 a group of soviet researchers set out to investigate the deep seismic and thermal properties of the Baltic shield. They set about drilling the hole on the kola peninsula and after a number of setbacks they finally reached the current deapth of 12262 m in 1989. To this day it is the deepest hole on the planet by several km.
But, in their 19 years of drilling, those soviet scientists didn't bore that hole as much as you've just bored me.
Good day.
-
-
-
You know what I love? When people spend time with me because they feel trapped by social awkwardness. It's definitely a good use of my time. Totally makes me feel good about myself, too.
-
i have done this once as an adult. it was late, noisy and hot and i just felt the moment my social battery totally emptied out. had to stand up and say "i have to leave now, good night" because otherwise i would not have had the energy to make it home.
-
I have a friend who does this, delivery is everything. Usually it's simpler, just "I'm leaving now".
-
That works better of course. For some reason half of lemmy is socially inept and assumes I would never ever leave a situation I find annoying or boring instead of like, finding a normal way to phrase it?
- oh well, guess I'll head out now
- see ya later
- I'm exhausted and need to go home
- I gotta leave, don't want to get home too late
- thanks for having me over
Or any variation that isn't outright rude to the other person works just fine. It isn't even about not signaling you're bored or whatever, just the blunt rudeness when there are plenty other options.
As for total dipshits who don't deserve better, why would you hang out in the first place?
-
That's me! People in my friend group know I have a social limit and can't always articulate things well. So it isn't uncommon for me to wander off mid conversation. About half the time with a "I'm heading out" and half the time I won't say anything, and everyone is cool with it
-
-
It is meant to be an amusing post, but you can do this in a socially acceptable way by saying "I'm going to do some other things I need to get to".
-
I would find it hilarious.
-
I'm going to go... do... better stuff!
-
Oh yeah well I'm gonna go do your mom
-
Have fun.
-
-
-
-
Changes the phrasing "This phrasing is rude!" 😮
-
Bad bot
-
I'm sorry Gregor I'm afraid I can't let you do that
-
-
-
44 comments