What's the hardest thing you had to come to terms with?

It's been 9 years, I'm married again (happily), and my ex-wife is never coming back.

It's difficult to go from best friends who tell eachother everything, to strangers.

It took a lot of therapy for me to realize that we both played a part in our marriage ending, and it wasn't all my fault. But, I also learned in the process that my childhood really screwed me up, and I needed to deal with it, and reconcile with the fact that I didn't have a loving childhood. The abuse, both verbal, physical, and sexual has had a lasting effect on me as an adult.

But, most importantly, I learned that I can heal from all of it, and grow as a person.

I think she's happy now, and so am I. So even though I still miss her once im a while, I know things worked out for the best.