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I wouldn't have done this, but I do kinda get it.
We had a 100 person wedding. Friends, close family, and Aunts/Uncles (no cousins, extended relatives). There definitely were people interested in giving us gifts even though they weren't invited. I told them basically the same thing as this card. It was annoying having to field those requests at the same time as prepping for the wedding, so I could see why someone would send this card preemptively.
I feel like it would only be trashy if you were really expecting money from these people.
Makes me wonder what we did wrong. We had a 20 person wedding. Immediate relatives only, parents grandparents and siblings plus their partners.
I paid for everything, including an open bar. We got 1 gift from my wife's grandparents and that was it.
You didn't do anything wrong. We did a small wedding too and it was infinitely better than anything I could've hoped for with more people and that's what really matters
Usually, if someone requests something that annoys me and I'm in a position to refuse, I just go ahead and refuse or outright disregard the request.