I have stopped trying to pass for cis. Now I just pass for "someone cis people try staunchly and vehemently not to look at," and it's nice.
I have stopped trying to pass for cis. Now I just pass for "someone cis people try staunchly and vehemently not to look at," and it's nice.
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Looking great! Genuine cis question, when I come across fabulous looking trans people, I get really conflicted, I want to look and admire and wonder and praise, but I'm nervous that they'd really just like to blend in and not be ogled. I guess I often end up "staunchly not looking". What'd you prefer if it was you?
I think it's important how it comes across, like when you're complimenting cis people. So, context and what it is that you're complimenting is what I would pay attention to.
That being said, I love getting compliments haha.
Compliments! :D
not op, but personally im never opposed so somebody complimenting me as long as it comes across as a genuine compliment (ex: i like your style/outfit/vibe) and not somebody just trying to hit on me or something.
(edit: lol actually i love to be hit on im a slut but shhhhhh)
I'm ace and sex-repulsed, so I don't much appreciate getting hit on, but I mostly just hope I get compliments from other cool queers (which usually happens; it's just cishets with their razor sharp focus and katalepsis-esque inability to see).
yeah I always get comfy around queer people then some cis het dude sees that, comes in, and makes everybody uncomfortable, never fails.
Saaaame
Hey baby, looking fit .. ;)
Before I was on hormones and maybe in the first 6 - 8 months on HRT, I had so many usually cis, white, liberal women (one time a cis white liberal dude) come up to me and compliment my dress / skirt / whatever. I take it as a sign I'm passing more that nobody does that anymore, lol.
I mean, I'm not out here wearing a t-shirt and jeans for compliments; I'm out here looking like a Final Fantasy protagonist cause it makes me feel good. Also cause I want other queer people to notice too.
That said, my wardrobe goes from naked, through one single pair of pajamas, to a vast and fantastic wardrobe of no pants whatsoever and insane outfits.
It’s pretty nuanced, I think. I pass well enough (or not really, I don’t care anymore) and just want to be left alone. I’m sure the compliments come from a place of support, but it just feels like being lied to.
I’m probably an outlier. 🤷🏻♀️