Isn't that how most people socialize at parties? Some people can do it naturally, but I figure most people are pretending. I frequently ask myself "What would a normal human do in this situation?"
What few people ever mention is ... alcohol and sometimes drugs.
Very few people imagine a party without some intoxicant. Even children's parties, parents will give a party for the kids but the adults seperate themselves to enjoy a bit of alcohol.
Just think of it .... a party with 20 adults and no alcohol or drugs. Some people can do it but the majority of the population would avoid it.
"Many respectable physicists said that they weren't going to stand for this -- partly because it was a debasement of science, but mostly because they didn't get invited to those sort of parties."
I think it depends how close you are with the people around you. I had a good time at a friend's holiday party recently (with no drugs or alcohol) just because I really love those folks and I'd enjoy spending time with them no matter what.