I apparently got shadow banned almost a year ago from blahaj, for a comment I made on lemmy.world
I apparently got shadow banned almost a year ago from blahaj, for a comment I made on lemmy.world
For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.
They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.
You're viewing a single thread.
hey, thanks for showing me that i should block you and this community!
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I'm just trying to figure out what people have a problem with for your statement.
Were you not being inclusive? And 'dude is gender neutral' has been something I've heard since I was a boy, and I'm much older now and no longer a boy, and that's never really bothered me or any of my friends.
Someone else pointed out the "get over it" part might have been abrasive, and I'm inclined to agree I probably shouldn't have included that part.
Primarily because if someone explicitly asked me to not say "dude" to them, I'd oblige because it's really just such an unimportant thing.
I guess what I was trying to convey was if their knee jerk reaction was to be outright offended, that's less my problem and more theirs.
If you think you made a mistake I say you should probably reach out to Ada through their email form and request an appeal, instead of making a thread here to complain about all of blahaj.zone. Listen I'm someone who used to be a lot like you and not understanding people being offended by wrong pronouns, I have learned though in my journey that for people who are Trans, assholes and bigots take every opportunity to push them down or make them feel invalid, on top of everything else. Being trans is not easy, and I don't think people who aren't can ever truly understand how difficult it really is.
So when someone is excusing using wrong pronouns or excusing transphobia, it can be extremely hurtful to people who are traumatized and have gone through misgendering and invalidation, or are continuing to go through it right now.
Try to understand that for many trans women out there, being called a dude hurts, not just because of being called a dude but all the other shit on top of that that comes with being trans.
Yeah I'd agree with that. I'll never be rude on purpose, so if my behavior is causing you discomfort please let me know so I can fix it. But if feelings get hurt that fast, it's not something within my realm to control (unless I want to change how I talk within my circles and with my loved ones, and random stranger doesn't meet that bar).
random stranger doesn't meet that bar
Ohh so you are not willing to accommodate needs of some random online commenter who is having an identity crisis of a comment not even directed at them.
That's shitlording!
I tried typing up a response, but I feel I don't quite grasp whay you wrote. Can you rewrite it with some additional grammatical structures to separate clauses or just change it around so I can try and understand?
If not, i guess I didn't meet your random internet stranger bar, but I'm hardly having a crisis so maybe it doesn't count for you.
Sarcasm and hyperbolic speech
Oh I'm bad at that, sorry. But thank you for clarifying!
It depends upon who you ask. Some people think it's gender neutral; some don't. If you don't want to offend people, you should ask.
I don't feel like asking random people on the internet I will only interact with once whether or not they support the word dude. If it bothers them, they can inform me and I can apologize. But I guess, in relation to your comment, that would just boil down to me being okay with offending people who are upset if a 'first conversation' involves me using the wrong 'friend' word.
Putting a bit of a burden here on general public here lol
Cry harder