The importance of the oxford comma. If this had a comma after autistic I would be like "yeah definitely being used as an insult here" as part of the list of previous adjectives, but without the comma it's saying "autistic unfriendly" which isn't an insult at all it's just an observation.
The way I read the first isn't pejorative, more as "this is a job autistic people choose". So I genuinely ask (probably because of my autism) if it is.