Isn't this situation how the term incel was coined? Like, it was a lesbian who could not get a girlfriend, and eventually started saying she was involuntarily celibate, which got shortened to incel?
It's funny - the bi women I know have a much better understanding of how difficult it is to date women than the straight women do. "But why don't you just do online dating? I had a lot of success meeting men through online dating!"
(Before anyone says anything: yeah, straight women have their own problems.)
What bothers me, is that this creates this idea for some men that they can "change" or convince lesbians. If you're like "Oh I'm a lesbian, but I have a boyfriend." You're going to make some men think they just have to ask enough and that lesbians just "need a good d" to turn straight again.
Why lesbian over bi, if I may ask? Do you find yourself moving between the two labels when it's convenient or would be awkward to say? Like, if you meet his family-- do you tell them you're actually a lesbian?
No, I totally get that, and I hate that I "prove" that idea in any form, because it's horseshit. I hear that shit all the time and frankly, it's disgusting.
I identify more with lesbian, because quite frankly I'm not physically attracted to guys like...at all. I just happen to really be attached to this one guy in particular. Outside of him, I've never had a guy as a romantic partner, and should we break up at some point, I don't see myself doing it again.
Regarding his family, I probably wouldn't say anything at all about my sexuality haha