Just knowing that it is a safe space and talking. Once we reached a point where neither of us felt like the other one would judge, even if we say something very extreme, we just talked and we were both open to try the things that the other wanted at least once.
So not judging or laughing at eachother and just communicating.
I had past relationships that I wasn't ready yet to not judge myself and they never knew my deepest kinks. But with my current partner I am fully open and it's nice. I got to try fantasies that I never thought I'd get to.
My partner is pretty gental, which I love! But I also would have liked them to sometimes be dominating. but like just a bit. Like fuck me until I cry from the pain and pleasure of it 🤭
Not sure that would fit my style 😅 I can initiate but I don't love leading or going solo. Plus I usually prefer women and at least in my non-orgy experience the natrual ratio of men to women approaching me is like 10:1 😅
Laugh, shower, cuddle, watch something / sleep. This is the usual format 😆